I am getting married and I don't want to put step-mother on the wedding programs. My definition of a step parent is someone who steps in to help take care of you, which I was an adult when my mom passed away. My dad remarried a few years back. I have an okay relationship with his wife but I don't consider her as a "step-parent". I always relate to her as my dad's wife but I don't want to be rude and put that on the programs.
2007-10-09 05:23:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ok, as a 'Step-Mother' of 2 girls who do not refer to me as such (5yrs later I am still introduced as 'just Dad's wife'), it will cause a lot of hurt feelings if you have titles for everyone else and not her. On the program you should list "Parents: Grooms parents John and Mary Smith. Brides Parents, Thomas and Anne Jones". Make no distinction as to a 'step' parent. You can still have a nice paragraph or few lines about your Mother and no one will question anything. But please, give her the respect she deserves as your Father's wife, without making it an issue that you don't wish to refer to her as a 'step'.
Good Luck and Congratulations.
2007-10-09 06:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by Cory C 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Another Name For Parents
2017-01-11 03:21:17 · answer #2 · answered by flintroy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR definition of a step-parent is not THE definition of a step-parent. You are thinking too much about it. A step-parent is a person who marries your biological parent.
Anyone can "step in" to help raise you as a kid... an aunt, grandparent, friend, etc. That does not make them your step-parent.
I would imagine you don't want to call her "mom", since you did have a relationship with your mom.
There is already a term for your dad's wife. It's step-mother. Don't drive yourself crazy by trying to re-define words in the English language.
You can call her by her name and aviod titles, you can call her your step-mother, or you can call her your father's wife.
2007-10-09 06:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi and congratulations:
You don't have to list the "relationship". I work in a church office and have typed up many programs. Normally, people just list names such as:
Parents of the Bride:
John and Carol Smith
Parents of the Groom:
Tom and Sue Johnson
It would be nice somewhere in the program to list your deceased mother's name.
With us in Spirit: Rebecca Smith
Good luck!
2007-10-09 06:45:27 · answer #4 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try doing without a title. In this era of so much concern about political correctness, couldn't you just use names? The people you care about know about the relationship and you shouldn't ned to care about the others. Let them ask around if they just HAVE to know why she's at the wedding. "Legally" speaking, though, wheterh or not she ever did anything to raise you, she IS your step mother.
2007-10-09 05:31:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother also passed away and at my wedding next year the "step mother" will not be in the program or at the reception she will be waiting at the table for my father to come out and will not be in my family pictures I was 21 when my mother died and she raised me and is my mother I will not be having my father new wife in my wedding no matter if she is my step mother or not It is your wedding do what you want
2007-10-09 06:56:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I definitely agree with "wilderwr"! People have names- use them! Who cares what other people think, it just doesn't matter. If you care enough about and have respect for her she will well-come her name on the card, but don't be too formal as Mr. and Mrs. Jones. Or just simply say Mom and Dad.
2007-10-09 05:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by the girl next door 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just refer to them as Mr. and Mrs. so-and-so, with out relating any titles to them, but keep in mind you'll probably need to take out titles of any other relatives on the programs as well so feelings won't be hurt
2007-10-09 06:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by happily married ( : 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she even need to be mentioned at all? I dont think its necessary. Usually it lists the parents only, not the whole family. And your parents are just your mom and dad how your would phrase it would be
Parents
Ms. Edna Smith
Mr Robert Smith
Mr and Mrs John Jones
2007-10-09 05:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well how do you feel about her? Is she someone special that you interact well with? is she someone you look up to as a "mother figure"? IF your not that close then don't put either parents names on the invitation. just make it about you two..
2007-10-09 05:50:37 · answer #10 · answered by navywife_2001 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋