We had been together for a year now. A month ago, she met her ex on a trip. Last week I found out she has been emailing him since she came back from that trip and she even confessed to sleeping with him once, only once. I found out she had been sending sexual emails and such to him. This past month has been tough because we had many arguments regarding moving in together and she said I was really mean and she needed some attention and he was there. Should I forgive her? I really love her and I also know I had been fighting with her a lot in the past month.
2007-10-09 04:35:08 · 19 answers · asked by VanillaIce 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you can forgive her, then i would say that there's a chance that you two can work things out. though her reasons for getting with him once were crap, you DO acknowledge that you've been fighting and i think you can get past this....work on it one step at a time and see how it goes. best of luck to you!
2007-10-09 04:39:23 · answer #1 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your reaction to this scenario is going to define the type of person that you are. Not entirely but how you will play the role of any relationship you may have in the future. My question to you is how can you love someone that will do this to you? Love someone that will give you the same love back. Do not waste your time w/someone that is only looking after their own interest. It is not worth it. in 5 yrs you will be a completely different person w/different interests and different tastes. You need to get over her if you want to have stability in your life. If she cheated on you once she will do it again..and again.. and again.. and it doesnt make you seem like an understanding guy. Taking her back will not make you seem like you are all forgiving and that you are a great guy -you lose self worth.
Some people live their lives doing what she has done to you. Then there are others that live their lives taking it from people like her. Do not turn into one of those people
**you deserve to be with some1 that will love you and respect you just as much as you love and respect them- thats the way it was meant to be
goodluck.
2007-10-09 04:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by OCHOA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take some time and think if you really want to move in together right now. The trust has been broken which put additional strain on the relationship. And her needing attention is not a good reason to turn to an ex.
2007-10-09 04:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by ~Nia~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is up to you. What makes you happy. If you can forgive her for the cheating, that's wonderful. I could not get past that and would have to try to catch a new fish. There are ladies out there who will respect and love you and won't betray you if given the chance. Don't let her turn this around on you by saying that you are mean. She could have discussed her feelings with you. This is a cop out.
2007-10-09 04:40:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If she cheated on you, she will cheat again~!!!!! Sounds like your girlfriend is a little on the "needy" side and needs several suitors to keep her happy. Moving in together just makes things more serious then they are and leaves the chance of your feelings getting hurt even greater if something happens again..
You should leave her and move on with your life. Let the guy win for a change!
Oh by the way, keep in mind that everytime you sleep with her (or go down on her, yikes...) you are possibly sleeping with a 3rd party.....ewwwww
2007-10-09 04:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by bcbuss2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could give her another chance, but she doesn't sound remorseful, and she is still emailing this guy, not in a friends way. They are emailing sexually. What size do you want the kick to be? There is no justification to her cheating, if she is not happy, then why not break up with you? Because she is happy this way, with two guys at her side, and she even has the nerve to blame you for her cheating!!! No, she sounds evil...
2007-10-09 04:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
VanillaIce this relationship sounds like it needs a lot of help. If you are capable of forgiving your gal then great. But if you believe that every time she feels lonely and/or is not getting enough attention than history may repeat itself it is probably better to put this chapter of your life to bed and close it. Perhaps some form of couples counselling may benefit you two and help to get things back on track. Best of luck.
2007-10-09 04:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cheated on you once, its because she either still has feelings for this Ex which after a year still havent disappeared, or your relationship is lacking, in which case if things arent changed, she will do it again.
I would confront her and tell her you are going to end the relationship if you even get the feeling shes doing it again.
2007-10-09 04:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety are you dumb or wut.... if she cheated on you she would do it again trust me.... about forgiving her i dont no she seems kind of mean... there is one thing about her how she is with you... look at the facts and youll see how it all comes together for example... you said that she always tells you that she needs attention right well i think she just says that to look inocent infront of you so that you wont realize that she is the bad one here.... if i were you i would just leave her shell be the one missing out... i mean you could forgive her but like i said once a liar is alwayss a liar.... Sad but true... hopefully everything turns alright bye...
2007-10-09 05:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by alachula 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Him being there for her is fine but if she is sleeping with him then that is a direct reflection on what she thinks of you. You don't just cheat on your partner if there are problems. You try to work things out instead. If she wants to sleep with her ex then tell her she can go straight back to him.
2007-10-09 04:41:03 · answer #10 · answered by Air Guitar Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋