we had been in love for seven years. we tried a lot to compromise our parents. but all plans failed. Eventually my girlfriend ended up marrying another guy chosen by her family. we convinced ourselves and finally we broke up. she went to another country. I started to accept life as it comes and started working towards building my career in business. And after 5 months since we broke my Ex comes out of nowhere and says that she wants to live with me. I am confused now.It seems that her husband never knew that she was having an affair with me before marriage. And now when he knew the relationship between me and his wife he cancelled her Permanent residentship and sent her back to India. she is the only thing i loved in my life. shall i take her with me or dump her.
2007-10-09 04:56:41 · 12 answers · asked by vijayakumar83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You shouldn't have been that close to her if she was married.
If she isn't married to him anymore, then take her back back and marry her. If she's still married to him, then go to India and ask her directly exactly what she wants.
If she really loves you, then she has to divorce him.
She can't be married to him and carry on with you at the same time because it would be totally unfair to you and him.
She can't bring herself to divorce then she can't have you because to keep you on the side while she chooses to continue being married to other man is selfish, even though it wasn't her intention. Regardless of what her decision is, still be her friend.
2007-10-09 05:05:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not you're business.. personally I think you just want revenge . I know its painful and he did a horrible thing but you need to try to move on and start healing. She won't appreciate the news and will probably think your a liar and a trouble maker. Besides they were separated at the time which means he wasn't betraying his ex wife and you're situation with him doesn't concern her. Find a professional to talk with I think you may have created a romance that wasn't there. You mentioned that you were depressed earlier maybe you made things seem different to help you cope with your depression. Are you sure he was serious about the proposal, were you dating or otherwise romantically involved? feel better.
2016-05-19 23:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by leeann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship was built on her cheating with you, then I hate to tell you this, but its doomed. You have to build a relationship like you would a house. If you build it with a faulty foundation, like being involved in an affair, it will eventually fail. And I know you're saying to yourself that you 2 love each other, but the odds are that its not love just lust. Especially when it comes to us men, that's a hard distinction to make. I say you find another path my friend...
2007-10-09 05:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get a divorce first. You wouldn't want to take her back while she's still married and then you runs back to him causing you further heartache. Don't let her use you for just a place to stay, if she's ready for you, she should do it the right way! Love doesn't end because you are not together, be patient.
2007-10-09 05:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious. YOUR IN LOVE... If she doesnt love him and wants to be with you... you need to be there for her. you need to fight for her. DO you want to lose her again. Obviously something is pulling you together. Go with it. I mean how romantic is that.. I dont know where you are taking her but dont dump her. Run away start a new life. In all fairness, you two didnt chose to be apart her parents did and she was with you first. You love this woman help her get divorced and sweep her off her feet.
2007-10-09 05:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you can't marry until she gets a divorce from her current husband and if you did so it would not be legal in the eyes of the law in the UK.
2007-10-09 05:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by angie11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything with a married woman. She needs to sort out her divorce first. If you get involved in that mess, it will just get worse for both of you.
2007-10-09 05:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does it with you, she'll do it to you. Invest your time and energy with someone with integrity. If you marry her once she gets the green card, she'll dump you for someone else.
2007-10-09 05:10:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.....itna bada question aur chota sa answer..
2007-10-09 04:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by Just another gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So she cheated on her husband to be with you?
She WILL cheat on you to be with someone else.
Dump her.
2007-10-09 05:00:29 · answer #10 · answered by Paul M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋