My boyfriend made me a pasta dinner last night with dessert. It seemed a little too perfect- and I am a girl so I know what pre-packaged food looks like. :) I questioned him on it and he assured me that he cooked it. I took out the trash this morning and found the boxes to the dessert along with the pre-packaged food containers. So I know he didn't cook it- but just wondering if I should confront him about it. It was a really sweet gesture and it was something nice for me. But I am uncomfortable with the lying. I would have enjoyed the meal just as much had he told me it was all store-bought.
2007-10-09 05:10:45 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In guy speak "I put it in the oven" therefore.... he did "cook it". You should have asked him if he made it from scratch.
2007-10-09 05:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by Diane A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be uncomfortable about the lying too. He wants to impress you, and that's sweet, but this makes me wonder what lengths he will go to make you think he's something he's not. Today, it's his cooking, tomorrow, who knows?
Tell him about the boxes. Tell him you love him and that he doesn't have to lie to impress you and perhaps you could do some cooking together sometime. This will let him know that you are not as gullible as he thinks and will think twice before trying to pull the wool over your eyes.
2007-10-09 05:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still have the containers? I would put them out where he can see them and put a post-it note with a smiley face on it or something. Make sure he knows you are on to him so maybe he will figure out lying about dinner was just silly. I would definitely pay attention to any future issues, though. I had a bf who turned out to be a chronic liar. I was naive and always believed him so this can possibly be an issue going down the road.
2007-10-09 05:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by ga.peach67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe he was tryin to impress you. Instead of making him feel stupid how about you bring him in the kitchen with you when you are cooking then he might pick up some things and make something for you. I had a friend that would have me make something for him so he can give to his gf to pass off as his. When she found out she was mad but we all made fun of it. I think in time he will come clean as long as you dont make a big deal about it.Good Luck
2007-10-09 05:17:25 · answer #4 · answered by Devil Doc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that lying is never good and should not be condoned but he lied about something that was diminutive and he lied to impress you. I think that it was cute but if lying bothers you that much then just tell him that you know that he lied about the dinner and let him know that he doesn't have to lie to impress you. It was a very nice gesture from him though.
2007-10-09 05:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him exactly why you said in your email. in the most loving tone.
That you found the packages in the trash, that you would enjoyed the meal as much, tghat you approciate her efforst and he is very sweet. But you dont like the lying and there is need for it.
2007-10-09 05:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confronting him will probably only make things worse. He was trying to impress you, and store bought food just doesn't have the same zing that making it yourself would. Ask yourself, and you live knowing that he once used storebought food as his own to try to impress you? If you answer this question, you will see that it really isn't that big of a deal.
2007-10-09 05:14:48 · answer #7 · answered by arj7002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you go through the trash? If he fixes a meal, just let it go at that. To a guy, heating stuff up is cooking. Don't be so picky. Maybe he can't cook by himself. My older brother called home not long after he was married to ask how to cook hamburgers and french fries to surprise his wife. If you want him to cook, you might have to show him how.
2007-10-09 05:18:16 · answer #8 · answered by Kay3535 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him a break hes trying impress you don't confront him about let him get away with it and tell him how sweet it was for him to cook dinner fro you
2007-10-09 05:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by Perfectwings 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be uncomfortable with the lying!!! That is a silly thing to lie about. If he's going to lie to you about something like that, imagine what else he's going to tell you. Talk to him about the boxes, and tell him how you feel about the lying. Be on the alert. In my experience, people who lie tend to lie about a lot of things.
2007-10-09 05:16:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
rather than confronting him about it why not just find a funny moment to slip in a joking comment. that way you dont have to attack him or anything. instead after you pass it by in a joke just tell him that youll love what he does for you prepackaged or not and that you would rather just have the truth. or you could write him a non-accusatory letter. whatever you do remember that it wasnt a malicous lie. he was just trying to be sweet.
2007-10-09 05:15:16 · answer #11 · answered by lady of the grass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋