Well here is is, I am very much in love with my boyfriend and I know he intends to ask me to marry him in the near future (saw the ring) but I think that I need to let him go. He loves me more then anything and tells me so every day, he wants me to have his kids and be the last woman he is ever with. Still I have a gut feeling that I cannot shake. I think in the long run we will not work out. On the other hand just the thought of letting him go breaks my heart. He is 30 and I am 36, I want kids he wants to wait another year at least, what should I do. I know letting him go is the right thing but why does it hurt so much to do the right thing?
2007-10-09 08:13:06 · 7 answers · asked by one Life to live 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we will be spending the next 3 weeks living together and I am not sure if I should tell him now or wait. He is looking forward to this so much
2007-10-09 08:36:20 · update #1
Doing the right thing does hurt, and takes alot of courage - but think of the alternative...you suck it up, get married, have a few kids and wake up everyday miserable. Now you have to worry about the kids and the divorce. If your gut is teling you to run - dont listen for it to say it again, just do it. Our hearts and heads speak different languages, and we too often follow our hearts *because its soooo romantic* and end up with a bigger heartache. You sound like a smart girl who knows what she wants, you just need to get up the strength to do it. Just tell your boyfriend that you need some space and reguard marriage as a sacred union - not something you want to jump into. If he loves you as much as he claims, he will give you the space and time you need. Good luck.
2007-10-09 08:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by My2Cents 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have to figure out why you think it is the best thing. The age difference may be bothering you, consciously or sub-consciously and the age should not matter.
Perhaps the actions of a family member or friend of the family are making you think that it can not work out as well.
If you really love this guy, the right thing is to sit and discus all this with him, and be sure that this is not just a negative feeling on your part based upon other marriages that you have observed. If that is the case, you are going to have this feeling with boy friend that you get and will never marry and have children. It is better to figure this out now and take a chance on someone you love and who loves you rather than looking back some years later and wishing that you had.
Good Luck to you.
2007-10-09 15:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gosh Girl....I know this is like the hardest thing in the world
But its all part of the PATH to true love - which CERTAINLY doesn't run smooth
ALWAYS trust your gut feeling
And if he's not right for you he's not right for you - what can you do
Just enjoy the memories of the happy times you had together.....and then the HARDEST part of all.....Let go
I know - its like we end up back at square one...but its not really - its all progressive learning - and one day you will never have to let go again ( sh*t....till death do you part!!! )
Life sucks sometimes - its so full of joy...and pain.....seems like we can't have one without the other!!!!
2007-10-09 15:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by chandra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you sure its the right thing? a year sint long to wait to have kids, and he sounds like he adores you and will forever. but you know the situation a lot more, so if youre sure, doing the right thing is always painful. just like if you turn your friend in for having ana ddiction problem or an eating disorder- though it is painful to break their trust in you and though they will feel betrayed and may not speak to you, it is right because its helping them. if you think its right ebcause youre sparing his heart from being broken in the future, then its the right thing to do because you love him. but if youre very much in love, i think love is the msot important thing and there are ways to make things work out. good luck!
2007-10-09 15:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Becuz your really in love with him!!! Just talk to him.... And tell him how you feel... And go from there...
2007-10-09 15:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what are you doing? you say you love him and you want to split just before marriage?
why is he wrong? what's wrong with you? i don't know, you have a panic attack or something. don't blow this. or at least say one really good excuse.
2007-10-09 15:20:30 · answer #6 · answered by sarah kay 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Drama. #
2007-10-09 15:21:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋