My family and my inlaws clash so for my daughters upcoming birthday we have decided to have different parties.
I was understanding that my spouse and myself were set to buy the cake for both occasions. I was informed yesterday that my MIL is buying the cake for that side of the family. Plus she is inviting people without my consent.
The birthday is Saturday and I just found this out Monday.
Should I be mad or am I just over-reacting?
2007-10-09 08:49:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thanks, all. The reason that I do not want to combine the families is because my family is very hardworking but has little. The inlaws are wealthy and they flaunt it. This is and always will be the only child for me. I just don't want anyone over stepping my place.
2007-10-09 09:00:15 · update #1
Douglas-it was established from the beginning that I would be paying for both festivities. We are holding it at her place because my place is way too small and there isn't enough room to have the amount of people that I have invited.
2007-10-09 09:02:02 · update #2
I had in-laws like this and it puts you in a bad position. I suggest one party nevertheless. If they do not know how to behave themselves and get along with each other than they do not need to come. Why cater to each side? This is way too much work for you and look what has happened already before the party has started- You are mad and stressed. Not worth it.
2007-10-09 08:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by Lost in Maryland 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are upset because she didn't check with you if that date would be ok. I can see being upset, but don't let this interfer with the party, it is for your daughter. Let your spouse handle all the details with their mother,and just go along for the ride. NOW, for next year, I would make my own plans and tell them all( both sides ) where the party was going to be, and then it is up to them to come or not, but that it is for the grandchild, and as adults they should be able to get along for a few hours, and if not tell them you are sorry that can't come, and hope they will be available in the up coming years.
2007-10-09 16:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your Daughter want? Does she want 2 parties or does she just want 1. What is the harm in having 2 parties if you only have to organize one of them? You may not get on with your In Laws but they are your daughters grandparents just focus on what is the best for your Child and you can't go wrong.
2007-10-09 16:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by mummyuk999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who's hosting the party.
If it's at your mil's house then it's her show, & she can serve what cake she chooses, & invite who she chooses into her home. If that makes you mad then that's your decision.
Now if it's your home, or the party is at an establishment that you are paying for, then your mil is being very rude & disrespectfull if she's stepping in & taking over any of the plans without checking with you 1st.
If that's the case it's up to your husband to step in & say something to his mom about it.
2007-10-09 16:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is great that your two families can agree to have separate celebrations!
If your MIL has taken over the festivities for that end of the family, then welcome it and have her HOST the festivities at her home! After all... she knows the guest list. You don't want a bunch of strangers in your home. It is that simple.
If she wants to hijack events, then let her. That keeps her end of the family out of conflict. Learn to use these things.
If this bunch of strangers is really set to converge on your house I will recommend a simple tactic... at least get a deadbolt lock on your bedroom closet door to turn it into a safe... stow anything in there that snoopers might want to poke through, and deter any kleptos from temptation.
2007-10-09 16:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're okay with your opinion, but just let the ML have her way and she'll be happy. She just wants to be the center of attention. If you don't like it, host a party yourself and invite her to come, with a present, and eliminate the possibility of this happening, otherwise the queen B will always seek to rule.
2007-10-09 15:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be mad....but dont over-react.....call your mother in law and talk to her about inviting guests with out your permission....i hope things work out for the birthday party.
2007-10-09 15:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by writersbestfriend 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
over-reacting, the party is 4 her side of the family right so just make sure that no one you don't like is at your side of the family. there is no reason to be mad
2007-10-09 16:12:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be mad and hurt you wont be able to outdo them because it sounds like they want to compete with you just love you daughter that is all she really wants
2007-10-09 16:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by ღOMGღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my thought is less work for you
2007-10-09 15:59:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋