I have been dating my girlfriend for several months, and things are going great. When we first started dating she confided in me and told me she had been in an amateur porn video on a very popular site a few years ago. She told me she was disgusted and very ashamed after doing it. Curiosity got the best of me and I located it online and watched it recently. I'm actually ok with it since it was in the past and she is very sorry for doing it. She does not know I have seen it. How should I be feeling after seeing her on film with another guy? Also, I'm not as upset as I thought I would be after seeing it. I had a ton of questions when she told me she had made it, but after seeing how scared she appears in it, I actually feel better. So I guess ... just accept her and move on with our relationship?
2007-10-09 04:24:19 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I take it your not prepared to share the site in question
2007-10-09 04:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by havanadig 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
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2016-07-19 02:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least she was up-front with you about this and you didn't find out about it on your own. It's one thing for a girl to even admit to how many ex-lovers she has been with, let alone this fact. As long as it's kept low-key between you and her, there should be no resentment since it was something she did amateurishly. It may be a little embarrassing for you to have seen her in action, but no more so than her just telling you she had relations with another man and you maybe sitting there imagining it in a fantasy or something of the sort. Just accept her as she is now since she didn't do this as a profession and since you shouldn't expect any future reoccurence.
2007-10-09 04:47:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is great you can put this behind you. I would just drop it since it was probably a really bad time in her life. If you decided to say anything to her it should be, I really care about you and would never hold anything in your past against you it has made you the good person you are today, but if you ever need or want to talk about it, I'm there for you.
2007-10-09 04:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think we all have things in our past that we regret, although they make us stronger. Her telling you take a great deal of courage, I am sure some guys would like that others would probally not want to see her again.
If you love her you would forget about ever seeing it and not bring it up again, not even in a fight. It doesnt seem to have anything to do with who she is now. Love her for her and all her mistakes, and I'm sure she will do the same.
2007-10-09 04:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a little suspicious she told you immediately after you met. I mean why would you? Sounds like she wanted you to see it. If it bothers you, you shouldn't proceed with the relationship.
2014-07-12 09:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Roger that sounds very much like the mature and reasonable thing to do. We all have ghosts in our pasts and so we shouldn't be judging people on their past lives. It is today and tomorrow that we are interested in with our partners. Let sleeping dogs lay and get on with your relationship and best of luck in having a long and happy one with this woman.
2007-10-09 04:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did she do 'tricks' in the movie that she hasn't done with you? I think it might be fun to redo the movie starring YOU! So, without saying anything, just try to get her involved the way she was in the flik, and if she catches on, tell her you saw it, and you thought she was GREAT, and you want to be NEXT! Hell, no one expects a "V" these days, unless you are both very young, or in a seminary. Everyone has their 'skeletons' so if you have truly 'forgiven' her the indiscretion, fawghetaboutit, and have fun with it. Get kinky. When you're both 60+, you'll look back and be glad you did! Plus, you can watch 'your' movie and who knows......hhhmmmmm
2007-10-09 04:33:29 · answer #8 · answered by fabulous_fat_freddie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes the past is the past, but you should be honest with her, i know she doesn't want to hear about her past video. But tell her the truth, because is she finds out from someone else that you saw the video, she'll be really upset with you. Remember one thing The Truth ALWAYS Comes Out! Good Luck Buddy!
lil miss vixion
2007-10-09 04:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by LIL MISS VIXION 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't life be great if none of us made mistakes or had a past? I suggest moving forward ... leave the past where it is. If you want to move on and this type of thing will never be brought up in the future ... by either of you ... then take her for who she is now.
2007-10-09 04:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by Mark W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're fine with it and believe what she was saying, go ahead and move on and continue the relationship. We all make mistakes and hopefully learn from it. What matters the most is that she told you the truth in the first place.
2007-10-09 04:29:18 · answer #11 · answered by boredatwork 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋