My ex-boyfriend told me that if I get back in shape that he would take me back. I mean I still love him and my feelings for him never completely went away but I kinda took it as an insult because there's really nothing wrong with me I mean of course there's always room for improvement but I just need some insight please.
2007-10-09 04:05:26 · 33 answers · asked by ~Cheta K.~ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get back in shape for you not him. Don't let him tell you that he will get back with you only if you get back in shape. If he loves you he will love you unconditionally in or out of shape. So i say do what YOU want. Are you happy with yourself??? If so stay the way you are and you will find a better man out there that will love you for you, and love every part of you
2007-10-09 04:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by taylor p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl if you decide to get back into shape do it for your self not for someone else, your ex is pretty shallow if all he thinks about is how you look. Being healthy and in shape is important and you should do it, but not for him but for you.
I think that it is a decision that you will want to make on your own but the insight I can give you is that no person can do something for some one else that has to do with changing yourself and it last. Change growth either physical or mentally or spiritually has to be done for you by you not someone else.
It can be tough especially if you are like me and want to please people. But if you do it for you the rewards are so much more then if you do it to please some one else.
Hope this helps.
2007-10-09 04:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by tigerlambs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not love honey. Get rid of the egotistical loser. Not worth it. If there is nothing wrong with you screw him. That is an insult and you should tell him he needs some work on himself because he is not all that. Why would you be interested in someone that only wants you back for the way you look. You need someone that likes you for the way you are know. Lose him honey.
2007-10-09 04:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by spleefarella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex-boyfriend is clearly your ex for a good reason. If he's so shallow that he'd ONLY take you back for something as intangible as "getting back into shape", then he is making excuses and stringing you along. Let him have his airhead with the skinny body, if that's what he values, then he's not going to give back very much to a relationship. You can do better.
That said, staying in shape for yourself is a great idea!
2007-10-09 04:09:43 · answer #4 · answered by SC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants to put conditions on your getting back together?Is it like you don't look good enough to be with him the way you are? Tell this guy to take a hike. It is ok for a spouse or significant other to want someone to get in shape if they are worried about their health. But if he wants you to do it for any other reason then its wrong. What would tell Me (for instance) if I said "Hey if you will get into shape I will date you" I think you would say something to the tune of" K.M.A." That's exactly what you should tell him. Either he loves you or he don't. If he really loved you he would get back with you then help get you into shape.
2007-10-09 04:14:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to be with you because he thinks you are out of shape, then you need to find someone who loves you for who you are, not what you look like. If you want to get back in shape, do it for yourself, don't do it for anyone else. If you are happy with your body, then stay the way you are. Don't let other people's ideas of what you should look like affect your vision of yourself. You should always feel good about yourself and if this guy doesn't make you feel that way, then.....Goodbye....
2007-10-09 04:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy is not in 100% tip top shape...then he has no place telling you to get in shape.I'm sick and tired of men that go after these supermodel women or want them and have big 'ol fat guts and are just plain nasty....Plus if you've had kids and stretchmarks...they're actually beauty marks from the precious gift you gave him.
2007-10-09 04:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should get in shape. But do it for yourself and your own health. If he says he will only take you back if you get in shape, then obviously he doesn't like you for the kind of person you are.
2007-10-09 04:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by Air Guitar Goddess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to lose weight then go for it girl!! But don't do it for that guy. If you like the way you look than keep steppin . I know what its like to have a x-b/f who is like that. He always made me feel like it was my fault he cheated. I would always end up apolizing for stuff he did wrong . its always like if you wouldn't do this i'd quit cheating. you shouldn't have to do anything to make him treat you right he just should just do it because he loves you. I don't know you but i'm sure you could do so much better!
2007-10-09 04:30:10 · answer #9 · answered by Crispo Cremeos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get back in shape for yourself and tell him to go take a long walk off a short pier.
2007-10-09 04:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋