I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. I have always took care of him like he was my child. I moved out of the house 3 months ago but I still see him and talk to him. He got laid off his job and then stupid me started paying his rent again and power bill. Well he has been lying to me. He is a liar that lies over and over and over. He can look so calmly at you when he is telling lies. Any way his ex started coming back around and he told me that it was just so he could see his daughter. The child is 9 and he signed away rights 7 years ago. I find out that the ex wife who is still married has been staying at the trailer with him that I am paying rent on. Well no more., I am not paying anything for him. I dont understand this mess. He has no job and no license and no transportation. He cant take care of himself much less a kid. What do you think will happen in this situtation??? Am I doing the right thing?? I am just going to quit going to check on him.
2007-10-09 04:03:59 · 14 answers · asked by Sunny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off, no real man lets a woman pay anything for him!!!
He has it pretty good doesn't he? He gets to be around other women and have you pay his bills! Or maybe he is using the money you give him on other women!
Time to move on.....
2007-10-09 04:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by C M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi !!
In regards to your situation I would strongly advice you to STOP paying for your Ex boyfriends bills and let him find a solution for his situation. You need to draw the line and move on with your life. It sounds like you are allowing your Exboyfriend to abuse the fact that he knows you still care about him. You deserve a good man who will respect, love you not take advantage of your kind heart. You need to break the cycle and will be glad you did. He needs to learn to stand on his own two feet . Use your money and get counseling to put this experience behind you. You need to close that door and see the other doors that will open in your life... YOU CAN DO IT !!
2007-10-09 11:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by Yolie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are doing the right thing....why concern yourself with what will happen to your boyfriend?.....He apparently has no self esteem or self respect in order for him to take care of himself......a man that can look you in the eye and tell a bold face lie without flinching has no respect for you.....He has been using you.....you are enabling him to not do anything for himself..... by taking care of him as if he were your child.....Stand firm and don't allow him back into your life...because he isn't your responsibility.
2007-10-09 11:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you said he is still like a kid. Sounds to me like you did a better job with him than most parents do with their own childrern. I mean here he is, stilll reliant on you when so many childrent turn away from their parents.
THE PROBLEM here is that you did treat him like a kid. STOP IT!!!! YOU ARE AN ADULT AND SO IS HE. MAKE THAT DECISION AND STICK TO IT!!!!
I believe youre doing the right thing
2007-10-09 11:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by okiemuskvet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you have any pride and self esteem, you will quit bothering with this LOSER. He is a big boy, he needs to pay his own bills, not live off of his girlfriend!! Make sure your next boyfriend is gainfully employed and NOT trailer trash.
2007-10-09 11:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are a good person & you are trying to help someone out, but you've done enough. I think you should wash your hands of the whole situation & stop paying his bills. He's a grown man, let him figure it out for himself & you start putting yourself first. Good luck.
2007-10-09 11:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by S J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOMAN please! What is wrong with you? Leave that jerk alone and worry about yourself. You have some kind of issues if you keep doing this. You are NOT helping him you are only enabling him. HE IS NOT YOUR CHILD. Adults are suppose to be able to take care of themselves rather in a relationship or not. I think he will keep taking and taking from you as long as you have him in your life. You can not save him he has to save his self. He can't do that as long as you are "helping" him.
2007-10-09 11:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by shellshell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Got a little bit of a co-dependent personality do we? Just have to take care of someone. You have issues that need to be dealt with or you will spiral into one unhealthy relationship after another.
Break all ties with him, no more ties, no more lies.
2007-10-09 11:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's ok to try and help someone but.but sounds like he's an adult and needs to pay his own way.don't be a sucker,ditch the loser,find a nice guy.that does'nt have that kind of baggage
2007-10-09 12:13:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is bad news. stop being used by that creep. He will never change as long as he has gullible girls to support him ,his ex ,and his kid. They are laughing at you and using you. Please stay away from this idiot. You are wasteing your time and money on a low life JERK>
2007-10-09 11:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋