My wife and I were just invited to a party by her best friend Tammy.?

Question

I've never had a problem with Tammy even though she is a bit too much on the wild side for my tastes. She and my wife have been friends for years.

Anyway, I told my wife a party sounded fun. She told me though that Tammy was calling this a CFNM party and I just stared blankly at her not knowing what that was. (She didn't know either until Tammy told her) It's a Clothed Female Nude Male party. All the men that attend must undress totally at the door and walk around the party in the buff while the fully clothed women have total visual and physical access to any man they want. My wife laughed out loud and thought it was a wild but fun idea while my response was less enthusiastic. I'm told the people invited are couples in the neighborhood along with some of the "hotter" single men in the area and some single females as well. My wife thinks it would be a trip to go and try it out and I am against it. What do you all think? She already said she won't go without me.

wow,some great answers here. Thank you for the replies.

At the risk of being naive, I'm told this is not a swingers party or an "orgy" Tammy told my wife it's good clean adult fun, that men have stared at women in strip clubs for years and years and this type of party is just a way for women to relax and check out men in a relaxing atmosphere. There is no sex but women are free to touch whoever they want, wherever they want. I'm not even sure at this point how many of the other couples in the area would be willing to attend so this might all be a moot point anyway.

My wife is not pushing hard for us to go and she understands my reluctance. She just thought it would be a kick to go and do something out of character for us and to have some laughs.

Yes Tammy is married.

Answer 1

Dude this is a swinger's party.
Tammy is a swinger and wants you and your wife to swing with her.
If you and your wife are comfy with having sex with other people then go...if not then decline.
It surprises me that your wife is really down with seeing all these nude men...
I think Tammy either wants to get with your wife and or you, or she wants your wife to bang other men.

Answer 2

Mark sounds very much like Tammy baby is into the swinging form of relationships. If this is uncomfortable for either you and/or your wife then you can graciously decline this invitation. Certainly it might sound like a blast to your wife at present as it is something new and almost interesting thing to watch. But the fact is how are either of you going to feel when you are expected to perform with someone either then the two of you. It may be a very good idea for you and your wife to sit down and discuss how you two truly feel about participating in or attending a party like this. You two may even want to google it up on line and investigate just how far one of these parties goes. Once you are in this group of people it is sometimes difficult to remove yourself from this group as they are supposedly friends/neighbours etc. Lead the lifestyle that you prefer and allow others to live theirs also without being judgemental on each others choices. Best of luck to you and your wife and hope you can come to a reasonable compromise without either of you having to feel like you are doing something against your morals/values or possibly endangering your relationship.

Answer 3

Well Sounds like a good time. I am sure that some of the females will become naked eventually. If you are uncomfortable with the idea of this kind of party then stick to your decision by not going. It sounds like you and your wife are on the same page by sticking together. If there is something she doesn't want to do I hope you would be on her side by not doing it. So if a CMNF party is around the corner and you wife doesn't want to go then your both good but hey if she does I guess your good to go.

Answer 4

A lot of pressure on you mate!
Sounds like a swingers party (if a touch one sided). When you say physical access, does that mean all-the-way? Simply on the grounds that it doesn't sound like a lot of fun for you I'd object ...... unless you enjoy clothed women looking at you :)

Could end up turning a tad nasty if you go simply to keep your better half happy.

Have you asked her why she likes the idea - for a giggle (another reason against) or something a little more sexual?

Finally ......... does Tammy have a partner?

Answer 5

Cmnf Parties

Answer 6

Whoa! I hear alarm bells dude!! I think going to that party sounds like a horrible idea. First off, it's totally demeaning for men. How would your wife feel if you asked he to go to a party where all the men are clothed and women are naked??

Also, what kinds of issues would this cause for your relationship? Would your wife be OK with another woman checking you out and flirting with you??

I think that is a very bad idea!!!

Answer 7

I would not allow myself to be compromised like this. Neither would I like the idea of my wife wanting me to participate in such a party. Understand that a CMNF party is on the horizon. Will you be comfortable with that? Will you be comfortable with your wife walking around nude and being in physical contact with another man? And after these parties are over, what's next? You'd better think about this. Your wife is being brainwashed by her careless friend. You've got to be wise enough to see through this Tammy person. You've got to protect yourself (and your wife) from falling into a trap--before your reputation, and your marriage, are ruined.

Answer 8

I would feel uncomfortable if I was you. I think her friend should have thrown this type of party for singles only. No woman should want to go to a party that exploits her husband and exposes his bare body for everyone to see. Your wife should be understanding of your wishes to not attend the party and should be hesitant herself to attend a party like this. I know as her husband you do not want her to go and see all these naked men and that's perfectly okay to feel that way. A marriage is sacred and certain areas of a marriage should be left to be shared by the two in the marriage only. I think that nudity is one of those areas. I wouldn't go if I were you. That's disrespectful to you (because you will have to be naked for everyone to see) and your wife (because she will be able to see other "hotter" men naked). Don't go. This type of party is definitely not a party for married couples.

Answer 9

It sounds like she wants to go but she's leaving herself an out, you. If you're not comfortable with this then you need to discuss it with her. Don't let it become an issue between you, leave the communication lines open. Don't let Tammy dictate the decisions that affect your marriage. If your wife really wants to go then you need to decide if the little bit of embarassment is ok with you. One thing if you think this will be brought up over and over again like then deal with it now. Whatever that may be. Good luck!

Answer 10

Wow! well, ummm, lets see ....

Tammy must have a lot of time on her hands to dream up outrageous parties, such as this. And, if you really think about it, this party idea speaks volumes about her view of men in general.

Certainly this entire idea is a joke, not to be taken seriously by anyone. But, if not .... well, I wouldn't go to a party in which everyone of my gender is for display and subject to ridicule and peer pressure if I choose not to "play along" -- because if you do choose to go, clothed, that is exactly what will happen.

Your choice .... if it were me, I would not go.