life. Do peoples manners go out the window when it comes to a wedding? This woman called me and told me that she wants to be invited to my wedding. I called her back and told her that I do not have it in my budget, and that I didn't even know who she was when she called me and it wasn't anything personal,
2007-10-09 04:26:04 · 18 answers · asked by donellew2002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Tell me about it I had a guy we went to school with ask if he could be invited and we never even talked or let alone got along with eachother, oh and I worked with a girl for two months we never hug out just worked and she called me up when she found out I was getting married and asked if she could be in the wedding. Im not even inviting her. People get rude when a wedding comes around.
2007-10-09 04:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by nicki 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It isn't manners, it is people wanting to be involved in something good for a few hours. Try to look at it this way; life can be really really hard and boring and a struggle - weddings and the birth of children are two of the rare joys in life. People want to be included, even if they barely know the person.
Now...that being said....it doesn't mean that you have to invite them. You did the right thing. When she asked you (hopefully) politely told her that unfortunately there wasn't enough room for another person, so you can only include those who are very close to you.
That is what I would have done also.
2007-10-09 04:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you handled it about as well as you could have. It was very presumptuous of her to call you and ask for an invitation; she put you on the spot. Weddings should be celebrated with family and good friends - not people you barely know. Unless they're my fiance's family members, I really don't want people I don't know at my wedding.
Since my mom started telling her friends about my engagement, many of them have asked for an invitation. My fiance and I are paying for everything ourselves, and it's not cheap. I told Mom that it's fine if she wants to invite a few of her close friends (even if I don't know them very well), but as for the people I'm not in touch with and haven't seen in 15 years... NO! Besides - I live over 300 miles away from my hometown. why on earth some of them would want to come is a mystery to me!
Just stand your ground and let people like your rude caller know that you have a limited guest list because you have a limited budget. I think that some people are just clueless.
2007-10-09 08:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by SE 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, some people's manner do go completely out of the window when it comes to a wedding. This woman was completely and totally out of line calling you up and asking for an invitation to your wedding. You handled it perfectly as well, it sounds like you were politely direct. I probably would've been rude, and like momma always said, 2 wrongs don't make a right. Good for you for standing up for yourself like that!
2007-10-09 04:34:30 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Uh, you're right! People have terrible manners! You don't call someone and ask for an invitation, especially if the person hardly knows you! You were right to tell her what you did. That's exactly what invitations are for...the couple asks you to come, not the other way around.
2007-10-09 04:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How rude.
Good job answering her.
Yeah people's manners DO go out the window. I have an aunt that was going to put "5" down for Number attending even though I put her name "and Guest" (She changed her mind before sending it, thank goodness!). Heck the other four were people who I already gave an invitation to anyway!
Then there's the fact that half of our guests didn't bother responding before the RSVP. I was livid. How rude!
2007-10-09 07:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something more tactful was to say something like, “I’m sorry but this is an exclusive wedding for family and a few long-time friends of the family; I’ll keep you in mind for the large reception we’re planning at our first wedding anniversary.”
Remember, we don’t know what goes on in that six-inch space between an individual’s ears; perhaps this was the best way that this person could compliment you on your most significant day of your life up to that point.
Humans in general are in this furious headlong rush to judge those around them (and not surprisingly, they take a bloodcurdlingly inappropriate action based on this catastrophically incorrect judgment) and they forget that every human on this planet is as individual as the snow flakes.
Remember, judging others is not our job, and, the opinions of others toward us is none of our business.
If you treated this person badly, be prepared to have it returned to you ten-fold.
2007-10-09 05:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by David Leonard Vega 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something like that happened to me...I didn't know what to say--talk about being put on the spot! I just kind of laughed and changed the subject...what can you do? Someone who works where I do (1000 employees) asked about my wedding plans, I told her very briefly, and she asked if she could come and said she'd pay to attend! WHAT? People are nuts!
2007-10-09 04:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Weird. I think there's been a deterioration of manners across the board over the years, not just weddings.
2007-10-09 04:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing.. you don't have to invite people to your wedding if you don't want.. some people just don't have shame and don't have manners...
2007-10-09 04:35:03 · answer #10 · answered by R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋