OK ,I haven't complained in a few months and tried not to about pety stuff but here is my question. My husband turned 40 back in the spring and I threw this huge surprise party for him and took me a couple months to plan,etc. My 40th b-day just passed and instead of a party for me that weekend my husband was planning his own party at a bar for people he worked with to come to because he was changing departments within the same company!! So I thought maybe(just maybe) that this was his way to get me there so I would be surprised. But no it actually was for him. Then another girl from his work actually planned for us to leave that bar and go somewhere else where she said friends were. So we went there and Surprise! Another party for him!My question is should I be a little mad or just disappointed that he could put that much effort into planning his own party for his co-workers and not one for me? Or is this pety?I probably wouldn't even be upset if he did not have this party for himself!
2007-10-09 04:02:51 · 6 answers · asked by confused one 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He did acyually take me to dinner and a movie on my actual B-day. I just felt a little let down.
2007-10-09 04:11:01 · update #1
I haven't said anything to him. And no I did not throw him one to get one in return. My point was how much effort he put into a party for himself the same weekend as my b-day!!
2007-10-09 04:34:01 · update #2
God! Men are so dense!!!
I would feel disappointed too, and if it helps at all, my husband would do the same thing.
Trust me, telling him how disappointed you feel will not really help, I have tried it.
It only makes them do something that you will feel like they did because you "made" them, not because they wanted to.
Just get it off of your chest to friends, or on here, and move on.
Holding on to it will only make you madder and it won't make a d@mn difference to him because he just doesn't get it!
2007-10-09 04:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by haleigh's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you threw him the party with the expectation of getting one in return. If he took you out on your actual birthday, then what is the big deal?
2007-10-09 04:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by meagain 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not petty, he's an a__w___le and selfish. He could have done something nice for you but if you go above and beyond for him on a regular then he's spoiled as well and you've got to back down.
2007-10-09 04:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering that I absolutely hate surprise parties...hell parties in my honor; I'd of been relieved. Though I do hope that he did something for you for your b-day none the less.
2007-10-09 04:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love can sometimes be magic. But magic can sometimes just be an illusion." -Mae West
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"You love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly. -Sam Keen
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2007-10-09 04:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be mad. it shouldn't just be about him you have feelings too. he needs to think of someone besides me. sounds like he has gotten a big head
2007-10-09 04:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by jeannieboop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋