My husband and I have been married for 6 years. He still acts like a kid. I thought he would grow up eventually, but hes going to be 30 this year and acts like he is 18 years old. It really is a big turn off. I get tired of being the one that takes care of everything. I also make a lot more money than he does, and I don't feel I should have to comprimise who I am so he can act like a man. I have stopped "nagging" him about helping around the house, because I am not his mother, hoping this would make him grow up, but I think I have made it worse. What are some ideas, without being submissive to him, to get him to grow up?
2007-10-09 04:00:26 · 7 answers · asked by Freakalicious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you feel like you always need to have control of things or people? Why are you afraid of being submissive to him?
Your husband was married to you at the age of 24.. Iam assuming that u knew him atleast some time prior to figure out how he was as a person. Your definition of growing up, Your definition of a Man are not coinciding w/his personality and it seems to me that you already have 1 foot out the door.. Is your question "How can i get my husband to be more dominant?" dominance.. interesting word he cannot be dominant if you refuse to be submissive. Marriage is a friendship first... and if you want to make it work you need to erase these words from your mentality:
1. Dominant
2. Money
3.Submissive
ps. Pray that he doesnt listen to Tom Lykus.
2007-10-09 04:32:47 · answer #1 · answered by OCHOA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl but I'm going to have to call you out on the name thing. It's his kid too so quit your whining. Are you seriously acting like if you were in his position, you'd allow him to name your kid something that you don't approve of? You should make an effort to compromise on a name you can both agree on. Seeing as it is his daughter too. What is with women like you who marry men and then expect to mop the floor with them. Never mind him being too dominant, I think you have your own control issues to worry about. Enough of this playing the victim bullshit. That's what gives the rest of us a bad name.
2016-03-19 08:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. You need to come out and tell him that you would like him to become a more dominant man..tell him it turns you on knowing a guy can take care of you. And when he acts on this "reward him" and let him know that it turned you on that he was acting in dominance. It is sad to say, but sex is always great motivation.
2007-10-09 04:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by anon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You knew this when you married him... your request is impossible to fulfill.... it's like asking a man who is 5'6" , "Hey, be tall." Ain't happenin'. Get used to it.
2007-10-09 04:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
probally take away the bedroom fun and just stop worrying about his things. do stuff only for yourself and let him worry about his own. such as clean clothes and sometimes food.
2007-10-09 04:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by xnismosr20de 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
stop doing any thing for him. He'll either step up or he won't, either way you'll find out the true character of your man.
2007-10-09 04:15:36 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
lets talk in private if you want...
tom
bh37bh37@hotmail.com
2007-10-09 05:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by bh37bh37 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋