me and my boyfriend have been going together for 5 months and i really like him a lot. i chose to go with him because we like each other aand we are so much in common but there is this person that is trying to break us up
2007-10-09 03:51:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
find someone your own age
2007-10-09 04:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by traveller 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Hope sorry to be so honest but that is a pretty big age gap for someone your age. You can attempt to argue that you two have so much in common but the fact is that the maturity level alone is off balanced. A man of that age has lived a lot more than a child of your age. Certainly I can see where a younger girl might be attracted to someone this age. They may very well have so many more toys and money then boys your own age. Thus making you feel that much more mature and adult like. But the fact is that you are still only 17 years old. And both of your friends may be very uncomfortable around your partners also. Most adults don't want to be running with kids and most kids don't want someone your current boyfriend's age around either. Your tastes in many other areas would vary also; ie: music, movies, the arts etc. Have a good look at this relationship and make sure that this is what you want over the long term as it sounds like you two are still very much in the honeymoon stage if it has only been 5 months since you've been together. Then make a wise choice and do what you believe inside is the proper decision. Best of luck.
2007-10-09 04:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its a hard question because there is that gap of 10 years that in some age ranges arent as noticable as this. But because you are 17 i would say the only reason it is wrong, is on his half, he is a grown man of nearly 30 and the things that you are going to want to do in the next 10 years of your life are going to be restricted due to this tie. I'd say its not wrong, just not what someone of yoru age is needing.
2007-10-09 03:59:35 · answer #3 · answered by Emily H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy with him and he's happy with you and neither of you are in the relationship for the wrong reasons, then I don't think age should matter one bit.
When I was 15, I was in a relationship with a 27 year old guy. It was a romantic relationship. He was like a brother to me, and even then people didn't like it. They assumed things.
Since then, I've been with a 22 year old (I'm 17.) and my current boyfriend is 24. I'm just sttracted to older guys, and I'm sure alot of that is because I'm very mature for my age.
Some people just assume things because of the age difference, but as long as you feel safe, I say go for it. Forget what everybody else says.
2007-10-09 03:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by Carly 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to someone who knows you well, and that you trust, that knows the situation. Maybe an older friend or cousin- not the person who is trying to break you up. Ask them if they think you are being used or hurt by the relationship. Ask them to tell you honestly.
Try to look at your relationship objectively.
If you do all this, and still feel that you are in a healthy relationship, you will be able to withstand the objections of the one person.
2007-10-09 03:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by Daphne 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your pushing limits, but it depends where you live. Some states its okay and others its not. I honmestly dont see a problem with it, 17 is adult enough. It's not like your in diapers, you know what your doing. Actually at age 16 your legall allowed to move out without your parents permission.
It's all kind of muddy around that age. When to be decalared as an adult, when to be old enough to decide this or that, all different rules, its pretty silly.
2007-10-09 03:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by billgoats79 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are 2 reasons a 27 year old would go out with a 17 year old: 1) He wants CONTROL, and/or 2) no one closer to his own age is willing to date him.
Either way, run away as fast as you can.
2007-10-09 03:57:44 · answer #7 · answered by Liliya829 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you asked him why he is not dating people his age? try to ask him see if he has legitimate answer if he does not maybe their is more about him that you dont know. If he cant answer why he does not want date people his own age then his only reason is to take advantage of some one who he know he can be in control of. I am a guy and every guy can relate to someone their age better then someone not their age if he tells you he can relate to you better then people his age then that is because their is something insecure about him.
2007-10-09 04:04:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's not right. You may not realize it now but you're on two different maturity levels and stages in life. I would be concerned about a man who is going after a girl who isn't even 18.
2007-10-09 03:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by sugarcarat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know this person who's trying to break yall up and
It's up to you if u want to date him but u could get in trouble with your parents and he could get in trouble 'cause ur under aged.
2007-10-09 03:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by Rebekah S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not unless you want him to get locked up. you can do what you want with whomever you want, but when you are "underage" you are jailbait. it aint right, but its true.
if you really care about him, you'll back off until you're able to be seen in public without an Amber Alert getting sent out. best of luck to you.
2007-10-09 04:03:31 · answer #11 · answered by teri is ambience 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋