how to get my family back together???

Question

i want to get my biyfriend i am the one that left cause i was unhappey but i thought that is would make him see that i was being serious and he would cahnge it has been 3 months and we have hung out and had fun but he can never make his mind up we have a young son i want my family back what should i do??

Answer 1

I don't know what to tell you for I'm sure alot of things missing in this relationship. For one you have had a child and your not married. Big mistake in getting involved sexually with someone when you really were not ready.

Especially if he is not stable or has issues in commitments.
You have issues thinking you can change someones personality or ways.Another big mistake on your part.

You also have a habit of running in and out of a relationship thinking it is a tool you can use to control the issues at hand instead of good Christian Counseling and communication techniques.

I can't offer much other that seek out a qualified Christian Counselor together not seprately of possible and avoid secular counseling that offers not much at all.

Answer 2

Meg have you two considered taking some form of family counselling. Perhaps there you two can discuss things with a third party who will give you hints on how to recapture the magic that was present in this relationship before it went sour. But both of you have to want the same thing and not be confused about whether or not this is what you want long term. At least it sounds as if you two have remained friends and/or friendly towards each other and this is an important first step. So in my opinion if you cannot discuss things honestly, openly and maturely amongst just you two then please do seek the help of a professional relationship adviser and it may very well help resolve the issues that are keeping you two apart at present. Best of luck.

Answer 3

How did you imagine that leaving would make him see you were serious about your relationship. You left, if you can't tell him exactly what you have said here, then you need to work on communication first. I wish you both a lot of luck and I believe that a family should be together. Quit treating it like a game and more like a family, maybe it will work.

Answer 4

Why were you unhappy? Maybe he's scared you'll leave him again. So you have to convince him that you made a horrible mistake. Tell him exactly what you plan to do to make up for making the mistake. Before you do all this getting back together remember the only thing we can change is ourselves.

Answer 5

The strategy of breaking up, because you want someone else to change, is flawed. We cannot change others- he probably realizes that your unhappiness will reoccur if you get back together, both of you have to change.

Ask him if he would go for family counseling. Even if you don't get back together, you need to set up ground rules for your child. During the family counseling, you can discuss how you felt in the relationship.

Answer 6

If you really want him back, then go for it. But love him as he is. Don't ask him to change. They never do. So, you either love him as he is, or make a clean break. You are only making things worse by making yourself unhappy. And if your not happy, no body else will be. Get it?

Answer 7

You NEVER ever try to CHANGE a person. IF you love him the way he is, then great...tell him so. IF NOT: leave it in the past and make sure he takes care of his child.

Answer 8

1st Get serious about your own life and your sons life
when he sees how serious you are maybe he will fall into line
if not then it wasnt meant to be...

Answer 9

tell him that you want your famliy together and let him know your motives for leaving