Family & Relationships - 14 September 2007

Last year I was married, I have two girls ages 3 and 6, and was building my dream home. I met another woman and we fell in love and I got divorced. The guilt and the financial strain and the separation from my children was too difficult for me so I'm getting back with my ex. The problem is the other woman is the love of my life and I can't get over her or the guilt I have for breaking her heart. I can't even bring myself to be intimate with my ex. She understands that I'm going through a tough time so she doesn't push the issue but I don't know if I can get the other woman out of my mind. Ever. Have I done the right thing by choosing responsibility and the love of my children over romantic love, or have I made yet another mistake?

2007-09-14 04:21:16 · 32 answers · asked by brian 1 in Marriage & Divorce

from 2 days ago my boyfriend friend asked me if i can babysit his 2 years old son coz his wife have class from 5:30-9:00pm and he have to go to work so i said yes..at 7:00 he came home and he said lets take a wake outside with the kid i said ok....guess what guys his wife came at 7;30 and saw us walking outside she was upset from him and she said what are u doing home he said i just came to see how they are doing and why ur not in school..anyways the problem is that when i left he called me at 9;10 pm and asked me to go out with him and have a coffee :O i said NOOO thanks so the next day his wife textMSG me on my cell phone asking me what time im coming tonight i said i cant and i told her why ..do u think i did the right thing by telling her what her husband did??? coz my bf is very upset from me and we broke up b-coz i did that :(

2007-09-14 04:18:42 · 21 answers · asked by LebaneseQ.T. 2 in Friends

My husband forgot mine. I was really insulted. Not even a "happy birthday". Nothing.

I plan his birthday weeks in advance, and between my parents and myself, he gets hundreds of $$. We have been married for 4 years, and every year, my birthday is less and less important to him.

If he remembers, he goes out at the last minute and buys roses (I'm allergic to them, and he knows this, and i have told him the flowers I love, and he still buys roses).

He said that for his next birthday, I have permission to treat him badly and not buy him anything. That's ridiculous. I won't go down to that level.

2007-09-14 04:18:37 · 33 answers · asked by gg 7 in Marriage & Divorce

I think there is something wrong with my younger brother (He's 11). Whenever something small is wrong(like he doesn't get the remote when I'm watching TV), he will go into a psychopath like tantrum. During the tantrum, he will scream and yell and sometimes even hit people. This includes my grandma and parents. This happens almost every day. Also, pretty much can't hit him back. Because if i do, he will try to "kill" me. That means when he hits me, he'll aim for the neck and stomach. How do i get this stop for good? Also, he will not eat anything except frozen baked chicken breast dinners and lunchables. His eating habits are really unhealthy. How do i get this to stop?

2007-09-14 04:16:59 · 15 answers · asked by someone 2 in Family

I had a checking account that I closed because I could not get my old insurance company to stop taking my payment out of it. I opened a new account with the same bank and ordered checks identical to the ones I had - I shredded the old checks except I forgot to shred one box of them. I had to write a check to someone and had to get a new book - I was in a hurry and picked up a book of checks from the OLD account. Therefore I wrote a bad check. When the guy got it back from his bank he came to my house and my dad was outside. I live beside my parents. He told my dad what happened and they came over to my house and I walked outside only to be bombarded by yelling cussing and screaming. I never even got a chance to say boo. The man wanted his money NOW. He threatened me with things that are illegal and my dad laughed about it. The next morning as soon as the bank opened I got the money out and made good on the check. My parents will not acknowledge me now in any way. What do I do?

2007-09-14 04:13:19 · 15 answers · asked by Love being a Mom 2 in Family

this guy is 48 been married 2x divorce 2x. i just want to hang out and ride in his caddy truck. my sister tells me he need time to heal over his divorce. im not trying to start a relationship so whats the big deal so tell me the pro and the cons

2007-09-14 04:11:02 · 8 answers · asked by champ 2 in Marriage & Divorce

How many women would be comfortable with their husbands staying home to take care of the kids & house. I would love to, however I'm in a line of work where I make more money than my wife. She is looking for something that will paymore so this may come true for me.

2007-09-14 04:10:24 · 12 answers · asked by St.Anger 4 in Marriage & Divorce

If so, please post the information here. Thanks.

2007-09-14 04:07:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

There is this beauty queen who my boyfriend knows through work and he has talked about her openly with me in a non suspicious way. He says she is extremely attractive but really thick blah blah and how sad she is because she just wants to be famous and she will end up a trophy wife.
However when talking to men about her, he almost brags that he knows her and said once about her "attractive isn't the word" ( to fair she won some crappy pageant) and apart from anything I find this very hypocritical. Is he just being a man and playing up? It just annoys me that he probably brags more about knowing her than having a girlfriend like me - who, yes I may not be a beauty queen, but it is fair to say I am above averagely good looking and I have a great career, education, am loving and think the world of him?

2007-09-14 04:07:01 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

this is to know whether a man can still marry another woman if he is already married civil

2007-09-14 04:03:51 · 25 answers · asked by miejae 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Do you it to late for them to do so.

2007-09-14 04:01:15 · 12 answers · asked by Jewel E 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I just got three more violation notices for completelty innocent fun! It is not my fault that some people take questions and run off in a less than appropraite manner and answer as such!

I forgot my lunch ... what are you going to bring me to fulfill my hunger....

Get your mind out of the gutter and follow me to the ... do you ever have one of those days when you forget what you needed to do?

Etc.

These are offensive questions? I think not! Possibly someone is just offended by my nature and is out to get me! Come on!

2007-09-14 04:00:21 · 14 answers · asked by Sunshine's Pic Is on 360 4 in Singles & Dating

Can anybody tell me why a few generations ago having illegitimate children was frowned upon compared to living common law and having illegitimate children today. What were the socio-economic, cultural, religious, political implications of being an illegitimate child or having illegitimate children. Is it better to be legitimate, or does it really matter.

2007-09-14 03:57:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

all of my cousins got together after so long and we just had so much fun. then we looked at the body and one of my cousins was like gotdam! I was like girl shutup. man our grandma looked like a big black @ss plastic something. i was like if they told us this is the wrong body it would explain. all of this is so hilarious esp. knowing how she was. she cursed caused drama etc but we were used to it and loved her anyway. what do u think? Is this not the most hilarious........

2007-09-14 03:56:27 · 4 answers · asked by msblack23 3 in Friends

I met this really hot guy and he dont have a girl but as a girlfreind what do i do?

2007-09-14 03:55:27 · 1 answers · asked by shasta o 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-14 03:55:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Well now that a problem has passed with my mother-in-law, how do I approach her. I haven't spoken to her since the party was canceled, about 3 1/2 weeks ago, that she was giving for me and my fiance. She canceled it due to a miscommunication with me and my temper and my fiance's big mouth. I overreacted to the invitation and the way my name was abbreviated on the invite. I don't know what to say to her? And should I bring it up? Or just pretend nothing happened. My fiance said she's fine and doesn't care...but i don't know if thats true.

2007-09-14 03:54:45 · 19 answers · asked by loving life!!!!! 6 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-14 03:54:15 · 62 answers · asked by champ 2 in Singles & Dating

Does anyone know of a GOOD, RELIABLE site online where I can order cheap wedding invitiations? I like simple, my theme is double interlocking hearts and my colors are all different shades of blue and silver. I will need about 125 invitations and I'm looking for a price under $100 for that and the inner and outer envelopes. It would be nice if the reception card and response card/envelope were included in that price, but it is okay if they are not.

Thanks!

2007-09-14 03:51:51 · 15 answers · asked by Julie D 4 in Weddings

2007-09-14 03:47:21 · 6 answers · asked by Harriet S 3 in Singles & Dating

With the divorce rate as high as it is the chances of becoming involved with someone who has an ex spouse and kids is very high. As a recently divorced mother of one son who thinks she is now ready to start dating again I am wondering what my chances are of meeting someone. I have my own house, car, a good job and my son lives with me. I have very little to do with my ex husband. However, I am a single mom. If a person wanted a serious relationship with me they would have to accept my son as well. So, my question, how are divorced moms viewed in the dating world?

2007-09-14 03:46:51 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My (now deceased) stepmother after leaving my father for her lover pretended to be my friend in order to get revenge on my father for divorce court proceedings. I never spoke to her again after discovering the tape recorder but I still wonder if that was legal!!??

2007-09-14 03:45:55 · 11 answers · asked by D J M 1 in Marriage & Divorce

looking to ask my girlfriend for her hand in marriage.

planning on asking her dad for permission/blessing but should her mum be there????

worry worry worry

2007-09-14 03:45:32 · 18 answers · asked by andy_woody_01 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I know that might sound like a stupid question but I always got presents for both the bride and groom (at least something they can both use). Thanks.

2007-09-14 03:42:47 · 20 answers · asked by Starlight 2 in Weddings

talking with each other every day? this is my friend´s case, she is the sister seeing her ex brother-in-law...she claims there are no romantic feelings involved and doesn´t understand her sisters negative feelings about this situation...there are kids involved (who are confused!) and the sister and husband were together for over 20 years...I think she´s playing with fire and should look for another best friend..

2007-09-14 03:41:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I just recently begin a cohabiting relationship with my girlfriend, who is also my boss at work. I am wearing a chastity belt for the moment and she has the keys to my belt.
She wants me to have sexual abstinence for a year by wearing the chastity belt to prove my love to her and as an assurance that I will not leave her and we will register as civil partners after a year. I would really love to but I am not sure whether it is possible to deny myself from any intercourse for a year? Is it possible for a 27 years old girl like me to pleasure her everynight while I am securely locked in a chastity belt? I love her and willing to do it for her but I am not sure about whether I am able to stand a year without sex.

2007-09-14 03:39:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Just so you can have a better view of things....My husbands ex, cheated on him and got pregnant by another guy as a result. My husband and his ex have 3 kids together and she is now married to the person she had cheated on him with. She is constantly posting false information on a website that can be viewed by anyone in her friends list incl. her kids. She has threatened my husband several times, and is now telling me I shouldn't be a parent, I should re-thing having a child from him a.s.o.... I know this is childsplay and that in retrofect she is jealous that her ex has found happyness with me and that she is no longer "in control" of his life, but after dealing with this for years now I am sick of it. How can I get her to stop the drama? Help!

2007-09-14 03:39:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

To make a long story short, my very horrible mother (her daughter) talked my grandma into not coming to my wedding. She didn't call to cancel or anything. I have been really upset with her because my grandma has been known to never miss a wedding. She will even cut a vacation short just to attend a wedding to someone she doesn't even know. It's been 2 years now and at every holiday she sends cards saying stuff like "I miss you, call me." So should I give her another chance and call her or let her go? Thanks for hearing my sob story!

2007-09-14 03:36:30 · 12 answers · asked by The Not-Know It All 3 in Family

My ex and I got back togeather during the summer for two months. We have a child in common. She moved in with me then month later broke up with me. I was nice about it and left to let her stay in the house and I went some where else. Since then she has spent alot of time at the residence i'm at now instead of the one I let her stay at.

When asked what she want its bi-polar. I love you don't give up on me, next I just wont your friend ship. She has walled up all of her emotions, tells me its hard for her to talk to me in person. She loves to talk and text on cell phone (i guess she feels she is in control when on phone)

I think she has someone else but hasnt gone public with it, how do you deal with this. I either want space to get over her or work on things. So how do you approach this with some one so flakey.

2007-09-14 03:34:24 · 9 answers · asked by LymeLizzard 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Me and my girlfriend been with each other for a month, we knew each other half a year beforehand and started as friends... I spoke to her on the phone last night and she told me that she doesn't feel the same things w/ me like she felt with her ex's... She feels more of a trust and bond with me in a way that we have a lot of things in common and believes we are right for each other.

The problem is she tells me this relationship is different that her previous ones... like she doesn't feel as intimate with me as she did as her previous ex's... like its hard for her to get out of the friend level. We do hold hands, hug and kiss with pecks but I do feel like she is holding back sometimes... We never went pass the making out phase...

I just don't get it... She tells me she wants this relationship and wants to be with me, but I am not sure and confused about her. As much as I want this to work, Is there hope for this relationship to develop into something more in time?

2007-09-14 03:33:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating