Me and my girlfriend been with each other for a month, we knew each other half a year beforehand and started as friends... I spoke to her on the phone last night and she told me that she doesn't feel the same things w/ me like she felt with her ex's... She feels more of a trust and bond with me in a way that we have a lot of things in common and believes we are right for each other.
The problem is she tells me this relationship is different that her previous ones... like she doesn't feel as intimate with me as she did as her previous ex's... like its hard for her to get out of the friend level. We do hold hands, hug and kiss with pecks but I do feel like she is holding back sometimes... We never went pass the making out phase...
I just don't get it... She tells me she wants this relationship and wants to be with me, but I am not sure and confused about her. As much as I want this to work, Is there hope for this relationship to develop into something more in time?
2007-09-14 03:33:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She sounds confused.
It's really hard to tell, but it doesn't look very good.
2007-09-14 03:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you slow down and give it some time, there could be a possibility for more. You've only been dating a month. A relationship is something that's built over time. I suggest being patient and not trying to rush or push anything that doesn't feel right.
I don't think people should "fall in love." To me that's just a bunch of feelings that can easily go away. I think they should work at a relationship -- that will make it last longer.
...just give it time :)
2007-09-14 03:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely! All great relationships have to start with a friendship. i am guessing you are both pretty young and inexperienced? If so this is really normal, young girls are used to dating guys and having friends and the two never cross. When a girl is finally mature enough to want more than flash and glitz and start dating guys who she can talk to and not just get giggly around it takes some adjustment. Be happy that you are different from her ex. It means you are better, because that is why he is the ex. Be patient and loving and that is all anyone can do. Good luck!
2007-09-14 03:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by eleroth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, there's hope, but you have to do something that may seem a little out of character for you in the short term. Women love friends and cherish them dearly, but that sometimes gets in the way of their ability to see you romantically. Other guys keep women scratching their heads wondering what the hell they're thinking, but that mystery turns them on like you wouldn't believe. You've got to cut yourself in on a piece of that action. Every so often, you need to inject some mystery into the equation....be unpredictable, edgy and somewhat dangerous (don't go berserk, but you can tell early on from her reactions how you're being received, then gauge your responses by that). Good luck..
2007-09-14 03:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only been together for a month, relax!!! You should be this inimate for a long time and not try to develop it any more. Get to know who she is and her life and spend time together but also apart so you can breathe in your own space. Yes this sounds like a wonderful relationship.
2007-09-14 03:41:02 · answer #5 · answered by tx_earthangel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A month... key words.
Take it slow. No need to rush. And TRUST ME, if she doesnt feel anything NOW, she WONT! End of story. Take it from a girl who has been there.
Move on and dont be with someone who doesnt feel for you like you feel for them.
2007-09-14 03:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by sweetblueyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As she's your buddy, i think of is fare to tell her the kind you experience approximately it. i think you 2 would determine it out in the experience that your relation has a destiny or will proceed basically as solid acquaintances.
2016-10-20 00:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best recipes take much time to make.......if you want a great relationship...lasting yrs.....you have to give it time.
2007-09-14 03:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by faceeternity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes sit down with her talk it out. any problem u had with her u need to talk it out.
2007-09-14 03:43:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋