Family & Relationships - 14 September 2007

What do you think ? plz help me?
im an oriental girl 20 yrs .my bf is 23 yrs.i know him for 2 years.we do love each other.my mom knows about my love.the problem is my family refuse him because he is not rich.plus im studing medicine.but he is not in any collage.but he is studing to be in a good collage.do i do the right thing to love him and not leaving him?coz i cant.what to do?plz tell me.coz we really love each other i cant leave without him.what do u think.help

2007-09-14 23:50:39 · 7 answers · asked by kikoshams 1 in Singles & Dating

it's my mums birthday soon and I'm totally running out of ideas of what to get her. She is middle-aged and not very tom boyish. Every year I buy her jewelry or make up or flowers or books and now I'm just out of ideas.

I also don't want to ask her what she wants because where's the surprise in that?

Anyone got any ideas?

2007-09-14 23:50:02 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Ok I love my gf to death, and I would never ever leave her. But is it wrong for me to casually say hey, **** is hot? I mean I think my gf is the most beautiful women on the planet, but I do find other chicks attractive sometimes.... Think it would be ok if I said it?

2007-09-14 23:48:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am hurting quite a lot. My boyfriend ended our relationship 6 months ago, the break up was really painful for me and while I was trying to move on, he always stopped me by telling me that it's too harsh to cut all contact and that we could loose each other for good. In this case I didn't cut any contact with him and was communicating with him and I even met him a month ago. He told me that he is too scared of loosing me if we stop all contact and that all chances for us to get back together in the future could be spoiled. About 3 weeks ago I sat down and sent him an email saying good bye and he wrote back. The emails were very loving and very kind but a few days later he called me telling me it was too hard. But now he is not communicating with me, I tried to call him so many times and sent so many messages but he said we need to move on for now and stick to our decisions. I am so hurt over this because I feel like he is the one now who cut it all with me. I am so hurt, what can I do

2007-09-14 23:48:53 · 21 answers · asked by Elisa N 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-14 23:47:33 · 17 answers · asked by Rambo 1 in Singles & Dating

i'm a 17 years old girl and my bf is 19.i hate him but i don't know how can i tell it to him.he loves me so much but i don't love him.help.

2007-09-14 23:45:34 · 20 answers · asked by My Dream 4 in Singles & Dating

I have been with my partner for going on 5 years and we also have a two yr old daughter together we were getting married in december of this year, i went to the local pub 6 weeks ago and met someone and kissed him. 6 weeks later and more has happened i have slept with mr x 4 times while partner has been home looking after our daughter. My partner is mr perffect but why am i constantly calling, visiting mr x i think im in love with him and out of love with my partner im so confused any advicce would be so helpful. Please dont judge me i already feel like ****.

2007-09-14 23:38:17 · 35 answers · asked by tilly 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok so your in a serious relationship with your partner they know everything about you. But then Imagine one day in the future all your ex's and people you'v been with turn up for dinner, (hypothetically) Would you feel comfortable that what ever they say during dinner you'd have told your current partner about already or do you think they would be like, "oh really", "Ok interesting", "like babe you didn't tell me that"?

2007-09-14 23:37:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i had a friend ,well i thought he was a friend. apparentley he started feeling more than just friends,and i wasn't.in front of other people he would belittle me,tawnt ,call me names.accuse me of wanting his friends (guy friends)which i didn't.on top of all that make a scene in front of my lanlord ,and work assoc. he would appogize and it would happen all over again.he lives at home,hasn't ever had to buy his own car,and he is 43.what make a person like this tic.i accually feel sorry for him.to me he is pathetic....

2007-09-14 23:36:03 · 7 answers · asked by sisters4lifekimmy 1 in Friends

my boyfriend has a myspace

ive told him im not that happy about him adding random girls on it, and he told me i have nothing to worry about (but i still worry)

he's told me "i dont tell girls everyday i love them...saying i love you is a big thing to me" and he's said he loves me (he says it all the time)

but i just "checked" his page, and found he's written this comment to a girl:

"hey hun how are you wat u been upto how was ur day missed talkin tou you ill talk to u soon love ya heaps mwa xxx "

is that bad?

i could cry right about now

2007-09-14 23:34:10 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

my boyfriend has a myspace

ive told him im not that happy about him adding random girls on it, and he told me i have nothing to worry about (but i still worry)

he's told me "i dont tell girls everyday i love them...saying i love you is a big thing to me" and he's said he loves me (he says it all the time)

but i just "checked" his page, and found he's written this comment to a girl:

"hey hun how are you wat u been upto how was ur day missed talkin tou you ill talk to u soon love ya heaps mwa xxx "

is that bad?

i could cry right about now

2007-09-14 23:28:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-14 23:26:00 · 4 answers · asked by pradip n 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Okay, what I want to say is that there are a large number of women who are pretty, well eduacted, financially independant etc.

I want to tell you all that there are a large number of hopeless guys who are absolute losers and good for nothing. They might try to get close to you or be very nice to you and get involved with you only to dump you in the end. Such men should be kept at their rightful place, on the streets!!

Do not date such losers. Do not go by their looks alone. I am a good guy. You can date guys like me who are smart, honest, intelligent, educated etc..

No I am not looking for a date here. The reason I gave my example was bcoz I was driving across the point that this is the right kind of guy for you (by giving my example). I know you girls are smart and can make correct decisions but just thought I should still alert you

Some losers (bad guys) might play a dirty trick by reporting this question so that you don't read it. But I recommend pass this message across

2007-09-14 23:24:25 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm just curious to see if anyone else feels like their life is separate from their spouse. Do you two have different hobbies that keep you apart on your days off? Do you work opposite shifts so you rarely see each other? Is one person gone more than the other for work related trips?

If so, how do you connect? How do you tell the other person you want to see them more without appearing to be needy?

2007-09-14 23:19:42 · 7 answers · asked by torn 3 in Marriage & Divorce

What do you guys think? I suffer from depression im on meds, and im 21 never dated or been kissed. Part of that is due to my introverted way of goin about things. I get bored at parties ez and talking is just talking. mostly i go on movies with chicks but i get owned in the end. Usually i hug them say peace out, and we just become friends. Sucks for me. Anyway, throwin my pic up and see what yall think.

http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=GMHMAYA&key=VMF

That pic is a couple years old but havn't changed much. i know i know it's a site hotornot.com lol. Anyway thnx in advance all.

2007-09-14 23:12:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I know this guy, S, since yr 2004, but I wasn't close with him at all. And later I met him again while I was in college last yr, then I helped him a lot in his homework and started our relationship 3 months ago. But now, he's in Australia studying. The problem is that he wants me to masturbate with him online during our msn chat, but we don't use webcam at all. Is there any problem or is it normal?

2007-09-14 23:12:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok well got 3 kids 18,14,7 what bribes could i give them so i can be lazy and they can do the housework reasonable offers not things like ps3 etc please...

2007-09-14 23:07:18 · 24 answers · asked by Nutty Girl 7 in Family

my family for the most part doesnt give an opinion except for my brother he is a racist pig so you know where that goes he has tried everything including threatening to kill me to beat the crap out of him and he even calls my 5 month old daughter out of her name. this has been going on for 3 years now he is siding with my ex husband on a crusade to take my other girls away from me (11, 10, and 5) i try very hard to look over stupid people but he has cross the line now and any advice would be lovely thanks

2007-09-14 23:07:13 · 11 answers · asked by bettylvsbell 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Once they serve the order of support on my employer, the employer has to start garnishing my wages because if they don't my employer can

A) Be fined and possibly be forced to pay the amount of the order as deemed by the courts

B) Have their business license suspended

This is if you look under the word "BLACKMAIL" or EXTORTION" in a dictionary these are both one and the same, but yet they can easily get away with it, but let me try and extort or blackmail someone and I will get a free stay at the Crossbar Hotel.

Maybe this is wrong but them using someone's social security number without their consent is a crime too? I mean if they can obtain your social security number and freely use it shows your social security number is really a way for the government to track you for their advantage and makes it really worthless!

As defined by Merriam Webster-Blackmail=extortion or

2007-09-14 23:06:59 · 6 answers · asked by Loves Los Angeles 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i barely know this person and he's really kind to me (seeing as i know no one in college) and he showed me around ,well the first floor. it felt really weird because we were in to room alone. and he keeps looking me in the eyes, whenever i see him or turn around. I'm probably being crazy lol . And i think he has a girl friend; i saw on myspace lol im not too sure though

2007-09-14 23:05:07 · 3 answers · asked by (Persepolis) 4 in Singles & Dating

My b/f of 5 yrs thinks i am insensitive because i am not able to talk to him b'coz of the 12 hrs time gap we are having. (He has gone abroad for 2 months for his job.) When it is night here it is day time there and he has to be at work and when it is day time here i am busy. He never talks to me when its day there but expects me to. He says that since i am a college student i shoudnt find it too diff. I always have to talk at his conveniecne, and despite all this he keeps feeling that he is doing a lot for this relation while i am not.
I am at the end of my string, but the idea of a breakup still makes me sad, so i apologised to him. But he hasnt accepted my apology and says he finds it fake. I did apologise wholeheartedly, but it doesnt seem to work with him. He always wants me to beg him to forgive me.
This time though i dont want to do it, but i am still confused. Is it right? or am i too egoistic. But i do feel hurt when he never considers my problems. Please help.

2007-09-14 23:03:54 · 17 answers · asked by S H 3 in Singles & Dating

We have fallen in love with each other; he calls me non stop all day everyday and he never seems to wanna hang up… but lately our conversation has gotten kinda boring because we ran out of things to say…so I just need some advice to keep our conversation fresh…I really don’t wanna lose him over this

2007-09-14 23:03:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Because I've never cheated, I just cannot see the point of doing it. I find it to be a very nasty, senseless and a sadistic act to do to someone who loves you. My ex husband cheated on me and the emotional damage it caused me was senseless. Do you wonder why people have to do it just because it has become a trend? Why is this temptation so strong? Some of you might tell me to get a life but, cheating does not appeal to me and for that, I will always have that peace of honesty in my heart and I'm proud of it.

2007-09-14 23:01:11 · 17 answers · asked by Peace 3 in Marriage & Divorce

i'm 27 and my boyfriend only 24 years old..

2007-09-14 23:00:20 · 12 answers · asked by farah s 1 in Singles & Dating

well i kinda feel like **** all of a sudden... I have been hanging out with this girl for a about a month now (maybe a total of 5 times) and im sure we both like each other now... i was gonna make my move this time we hung out (kiss)... i was in a hurry to because i knew she hangs out with another guy, and one i dont wanna fall in the "friends" category, and him in the boyfriend category... but i thought hey im ahead.. i text her, hang out with her alone.. when he hangs out with her, shes usually with her friend as well.. my friend is friends with her friend, and he told me that she was going to a hookah bar with that other guy.. well we were supposed to hang out today, but there were family issues today and had to cancel with her, we were texting for like 2 hours and rescheduled 4 days from now... so everything was good right? i was on myspace today and went on that guys page and he had a picture of him kissing her on the cheek and her smiling at the camera (kinda semi smile)

2007-09-14 22:58:37 · 5 answers · asked by DRS 1 in Singles & Dating

what is it that guys find attractive about girls in skirts or that look like sluts, when ur with them. it really makes me think i'm not good enough 4 him or he wants 2b with somone like that. And why do they do it in front of u?

2007-09-14 22:58:06 · 9 answers · asked by Laura 1 in Singles & Dating

My wife had an affair 3 years ago ,it lasted 2 or so years .
she told me hat she would never do anything like that again but I would realy like to know if the opertunity presented itself with a nother guy what would happen? I'm open to any suggestions or ideas to creat such an oppertunaty?

2007-09-14 22:57:26 · 29 answers · asked by wesley d 1 in Marriage & Divorce

k..so i just started a new school and one of the "popular boys just came up to me asked for my name n then number.. ..i was really moody that day so i just plainly said no...he just put his head down n said okey...latter on he was walking with some other boys in the corridor and when as he saw me ,he gave me this sort of dirty look and said that i turfed on him to the other guys..from then on he just ignores me...i mean...first of all..what the hell does "turfed on him " mean?...and i actually like him, but i dono if he really likes me back or what???

2007-09-14 22:54:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

How do you as a married couple ensure that you and your partner are on the same page?
What steps do you take in order to keep an open and respectful dialogue with your spouse?

2007-09-14 22:49:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I have been separated about 2 years now.make it short, he cheated and I'm pretty sure he's still using ton of drugs. I can't find him because I left him when I found out he cheated and he eventually moved out the apt. we were living in with his "friend".

How do I get a divorce if I can't find him? I went ot his only family which is his uncle and they don't know either because they also neglected him due to drugs. I live in CA. How long does it take to divorce to be finalize? Is it simple to get a divorce without a lawyer? I have no kids and we have nothing together really. Do you know if CA have a site to file for divorce online?

I also plan on going out of state soon for school and move on with my life. I been doing nothing stressing and in depression state for quite sometime. After all the paperwork is done, how long until I will receive my court date?? Anybody know? What will the judge ask and how long does the whole court date with judge take? any info would help

2007-09-14 22:48:05 · 18 answers · asked by stacey t 1 in Marriage & Divorce