Family & Relationships - 10 September 2007

My son is 97lbs, 14 yrs old and approx 5'2". He had this heavy set, black girlfriend who seemed to be very sweet. My husband and myself met her parents several times whom seem to be down to earth and not racist and enjoyed my son's company.
His g/f would call here constantly. Well, she came to my son yesterday and told him that she was no longer going to be his friend because "her" parents were making fun of "my" son because he was white, and small, and that her parents would laugh and make comments to her while she was on the phone with my son.
I AM REALLY PISSED! I know deep down inside that he needs to learn about heartbreaks, but this is just way too racist! We teach our children that looks or race, has nothing to do with anyone, it is what is inside that counts the most.
NOT ONCE did we say to him to find a "white" girl, or she is too heavy for you.
I want to call her mom in the worst way and tell her how we feel!
Should I let it go?

2007-09-10 23:59:18 · 19 answers · asked by Mom of 2 great boys 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

Can someone please tell me what roles and responsibilities the MOH is supposed to have, like certain things she typically would organise when it comes to my wedding?
I have asked my 17 year old sister to be my Cheif Bridesmaid/ MOH and I am happy that I did as she is my only sister. The only thing is that she has not asked about anything I would like her to do and does not show much interest in the wedding. Maybe she will as it gets closer but sometimes I think she only said yes because it's a special role. I don't know what I should get her to do anyway but if she asks it would be nice to have her do something so she feels she has helped. My mum is helping me heaps and I think sometimes my sister might be a bit jealous. It's just I think being MOH is a special thing so it would be nice if she showed just a little bit of enthusiam. I don't know if I want to say N E thing as it may make things uncomfortable between us. Please help?

2007-09-10 23:37:25 · 9 answers · asked by BTB2211 5 in Weddings

..do you feel the urge to cheat on him/her just to get even??
Or because you believe this would be a cure to your pain?

2007-09-10 23:29:29 · 17 answers · asked by Alice in Wonderbra 7 in Singles & Dating

I am an office temp and was given a desk next to someone whose perfume makes me leave work early, gives me headaches and makes me consider quitting the job. Would it be rude if I move desks, tell her or grin and bear it (and probably asphyxiate in the process)

2007-09-10 23:16:03 · 21 answers · asked by flygirl 2 in Friends

my son and his girlfreind had a baby 9 weeks ago and right out of the blue i get a call saying i no longer can see any of them ive been very good with them i provided everything they needed for the baby and more i cant understand why this is going on tryed to speak with my son who just seems to be so nasty with a really bad attiued i only have i son it feels like my life is falling apart i had a operation this year and some days i cant walk with pain im not surposed to travel in a car for more than 15minutes but i make the jounery everytime im allowed to see them which is 2 hours im not one of them mothers that interfer if they have rows i never take sides they live with her parents so its hard to go to the house and see them on my own although her mother has said she cant understand why they are treating me this way she said you have been so good to them her daughter says she has an illness which stops people going out but shes always out and about i just wish i could understand why

2007-09-10 23:15:20 · 18 answers · asked by J en 1 in Family

I met this girl about a month ago and we've had lunch a couple times. We both seem to like each other but our lives are pretty busy at the moment. We hung out yesterday and had a good time but everytime I leave her I feel like there was more to be said or I should have moved in for a kiss. I'm usually pretty slow when it comes to progressing through the friends/dating/relationship stages. This time I thought I'd show her that my hearts in the right spot so I sent her flowers. She's going to NY the day after the flowers get there so she won't really get to enjoy them, but I figured it was the thought that counts. What do you think? Was it too soon for flowers?

I also wrote a msg saying "I had a good time. Have a great trip and I hope to see you soon." That was the condensed version.

2007-09-10 22:55:13 · 6 answers · asked by Salty 1 in Singles & Dating

you know the kind were someone hits their nuts on a rail or something and you bend over, gasping for air but your balls are perfectly fine?

2007-09-10 22:50:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What are you talking about your not good enough for me???
if anything im not good enogh for you!!! "Dont get me wrong, im not fishing for complements im just telling you the truth"
Im willing to forget what happened because "I love you" and "your the perfect girlfor me".... i feel stupid telling you on myspace but i am afraid ill just studder and not be able to say what i want to say. believe me "I DONT CARE WHAT HAPPEND" because im afraid ill lose you over something stupid because i know it will never happen again "i trust you" and i hope you can prove me right xoxox love you

2007-09-10 22:43:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How did it affect you? Did you get help?Did your parents perpetuate it or help you out? how are you today?

2007-09-10 22:40:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Everytime i ask him he would say i was just vissitting my daughter(13yrs) and he would blame it up on alcohol. We have been together for 9 yrs and married for 4yrs during the week he is a loving husband come weekend then he is a changed person. I've even tried to commit suicide over this. He rather spend his money with his daughter than spend it with our son he would say that i am workinf then i must provide for our son(4yrs) when our comes back from the daycare he doesnt treat him nicely he will always say he i s spoilt and needs to be punished. And the worst part is that he doesnt live with us he lives at work SANDF in N.W he only comes home on month end but time with us is nit an option for him he rather spend his time in tarven drrinkin coming home on 2am in the morning & i am ver tired of this everytime he is sober he would apologies and i would take him back but this time i am at my mothers house i am very stressed & its affecting our son because we r always arguing all the tim

2007-09-10 22:39:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Okay, so I've been dating someone I met through richsoulmate.com. I enjoy going out with her, but she got really serious and I just didn't share her love level. Things came to a head over my upcoming move and I broke up with her.

Now she wants to be friends. My opinion is, that never works, trying to be friends after a romance breaks up. Am I right? Has anyone out there made a successful transition from lovers to friends?

2007-09-10 22:34:41 · 10 answers · asked by Cassie2007 1 in Singles & Dating

hi i kinda like this girl in my class spoken to her a few times but am sure she has no idea i like her, i am pretty well known in class am not shy but she is and is always with her friends , should i ask another girl to tell her to wait for me someplace or should i just approach her when shes with her friends and ask " do u have a moment to talk".

2007-09-10 22:28:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm a 20-year old virgin, not because I haven't had the opportunity before (I've been asked four or five times in the past) but because I'm terrified of the idea that I might disappoint someone I care about. This problem led me to break up with a girlfriend I spent a year with and is becoming an increasing source of tension with my current girlfriend. Can anyone help me out?

2007-09-10 22:28:41 · 17 answers · asked by andgparker 1 in Singles & Dating

She gave me hints, she liked me, textin me i aint got no boyfriend im going school its boring, so i just went to test the waters asked just to "hang out" We just started working together, i barely noe her..we went to eat... then to a cafe... we were on the pc doing business related stuf.. she was about to go home but i said hey lets catch a movie.. so went to a movie. Good body language her knees pointing towards me cuddling on my arm rubbing against my shoulder... (watched Disturbia) she said we should hang out more.. we went to the park talked for 2 hours... (telling me she has a boyfriend in Cananda so i asked if they keep in contact she told me she barely does) was pretty fun... but i asked her something (i forgot) she said we met cuz of business... so i was thinkin to myself we ate dinner, watched a movie... talked for 2 hours at a park... nothing business related.. and that was cuz of business?? also she tried to feed me while eating which i denied cuz i got the baby face.. and..

2007-09-10 22:28:02 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm almost 19 and I haven't had sex yet.And now I am with a girl I really like for almost 2 months so I guess that sooner or later it will come to that.I really don't want to tell her that it will be my first time,mostly because she is 2 years younger and I don't really think that she is a virgin(not sure though)...so my question is,should I not tell her anything and do everything by instinct or should I make sure I have sex at least once before I do anything with her?(by "make sure I have sex" I hope you understand what I mean...)

2007-09-10 22:27:24 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

what is the most bitter experience in life more especially when it comes to love affairs.

2007-09-10 22:25:14 · 8 answers · asked by Ibraheem M 1 in Friends

Recently my 4 year old has asked many times if he can do an activity (something that requires money, like chuckie cheese etc) sometimes we do and others we don’t because I explain that mommy doesn’t have extra money for fun things. THAT IS NOT MY PROBLEM……………HERE is my problem…….READ ON!

My son has followed up his request with a “daddy will take me but you need to give him back his money”…what?!

He has said this to me several times recently, saying, “Daddy will take me but YOU have his money! GIVE daddy back his money!”

The only conclusion I can come to is that my evil, twisted ex is manipulating our child by using his state required and garnished (for refusal to pay) child support as leverage! I realize he is unhappy about paying it, but our son is too young to understand what child support is about (an trust me as any single parent can tell you every dime goes into my sons expenses!).

MY EX NEEDS to stop!! But how do I approach him?………He is stubborn, argumentative, bitter (for god sake I left him in 2003) and will retaliate if I confront him. I don’t want to make the situation worse.

I can try to explain to him how damaging and confusing this is for our son but he wont care…just short of calling him choice words and telling him where to go…I don’t know how to approach him or how to confront him about what he has been saying recently…………as well as the “daddy says mommy can piss off”

As a child psych major I realize the damage and inner conflicts this is causing my son and I want to avoid as much “drama” as possible………..

What would you say how would you approach this?

2007-09-10 22:23:46 · 13 answers · asked by ashlynn n 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Do you tell them when they ask, or are you supposed to create a verbal contract the second you kiss or go on a second date???

2007-09-10 22:23:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Do you think it's wrong when an 18 year old trys to be perfect? Perfect job, Perfect teeth, Perfect Relationship, Perfect Boyfriend / Girlfriend, Perfect friends?

2007-09-10 22:22:21 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-09-10 22:19:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend is mad at me and i have no idea why...It hurts me so bad...PLZ what can i do :'(

2007-09-10 22:17:56 · 18 answers · asked by AlyssaRose 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-09-10 22:14:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

(religion)would you break up with someone if they didn't believe in the same as you?

2007-09-10 22:08:51 · 5 answers · asked by Rayray 5 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-10 22:07:23 · 4 answers · asked by HITME 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Girl wise?
Do they tell otehr guys if they like a girl?
What sorts of things do they say?

2007-09-10 22:07:01 · 9 answers · asked by unknown 5 in Singles & Dating

Well heres my story..

Me and this girl were talking for about a month and now we are dating..We both love each other but there is a problem..age..I am 17 years old she is 14..I know what your thinking "why would he want to date a 14 year old?". This girl is everything that i want in a girl she is PERFECT in my eyes. Well her mom says now that she HAS to break up with me when I turn 18 so that gives us 6 months left. But i dont want to be with her for just 6 months. How can I convince her mom to let me date her after my 18th. I mean its my birthday and thats the date her mom said she has to break up with me. I need help how can i convince her mom? Any help will go far.

Thanks in advance.

2007-09-10 21:54:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I met a girl last weekend for the first time. We had so much fun together but she left town because she had to see her family and was only visiting my town. Now we planning on her coming back to my town and living together and her getting a job. We had so much fun for the 2 days more than i have ever had with another girl and she feels the same too. But I dont know if we too fast?

2007-09-10 21:35:24 · 6 answers · asked by Jake97team 2 in Singles & Dating

ok this guy and i have been seeing each other we try and meet and go out but lately he says he is too tired or busy with his new job its like he got no time for me.so friday we went out and i felt really strange and uncomfortable. it was as if i just wanted to go home it was very awkward. and today i dont even feel like talking to him. so whats going on y do i feel this way.

2007-09-10 21:35:05 · 10 answers · asked by ARABELLA.786 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-10 21:31:12 · 5 answers · asked by jerry z 6 in Friends

2007-09-10 21:25:14 · 9 answers · asked by MissLily 1 in Other - Family & Relationships