Family & Relationships - 10 September 2007

I am upset but perhaps I am being unreasonable. He says it is compelling and a form of entertainment but I feel hurt and afraid. He has been to treatment for coke a few times. He hasn't had a slip in over five months. I am afraid it will lead to something else and am strangely jealous as well. Any ideas>

He has agreed not to communicate with the strangers since in April that is how he found the supplier of the cocaine (through craigslist personals).

He is a very charming wonderful man. This is just eating me alive, or rather I am letting it.

2007-09-10 18:05:16 · 15 answers · asked by sad in Seattle 1 in Marriage & Divorce

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2007-09-10 18:03:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

What would you do if your fiance's ex is bestfriends with his sister?

I am having a hard time getting close to my fiance's siter because it makes me feel like she do not like me or care about me since she is still best friends with my fiance's ex.

I mean part of it is jealousy that I wish we are the close one and that we can be good friends too but part of it is that it makes me feel that she don't like me and that deep inside she hopes for my them to be back. It is a confusing situation. I don't know what to do sometimes, since she likes to bring her around family events and it really makes everything uncomfortable for me and my fiance.

What should I do? Avoid family events if I know she will be there? I have tried telling my fiance the problem but his response is different. He said he will not miss a family event just because his ex is there. What about me? I feel really out of place sometimes when she is around because they all have known each other for years before.

2007-09-10 17:56:03 · 4 answers · asked by vira aire 1 in Friends

i had 3 sex partners: 1: female ex girlfriend, 2: onenight stand w/ femal stripper, 3. recieved oral from a transexual. I also been with other females and just did kissing and touching, no sex: oral nor vaginal. i also been addicted to hardcore porn, but havent watched in months.

if i ever meet special female in life, and want to married her and be faithful, should i tell her about my past??
or maybe, i should not try to find real love in my life, since im so ashamed about my past, there is no way i can tell anyone, except God.

2007-09-10 17:52:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I recently started college, and I don't get along with girls very well, so I've mostly been trying to make friends with guys. I don't want to go out with them, I simply find guys more easygoing and much easier to deal with on a daily basis (no offense to the other girls out there).

However, my boyfriend is still in highschool. When we talk about our day, I usually have some funny stories about my guy friends. He doesn't *seem* to get jealous, but I don't act jealous when *he* talks to other girls either, and really I'm like churning inside. So I know how it makes me feel... should I stop talking about them? We're pretty serious, and I don't want to cause him pain if I don't need to.

What do you think? If this is something I should do, I'd have no problem doing it if it would help our relationship. Should I talk to him about it?

2007-09-10 17:52:31 · 15 answers · asked by avacado pie 4 in Singles & Dating

One of my guy friends told me recently to ask him anything. So, I asked him a rather personal thing about his past which ended up being very hurtful to him. He told me what happened in great detail. Since telling me this he has been pushing me away and acting funny towards me. We were just starting to get to know each other pretty well before I asked him about it. What do you think of me emailing him this?

By the way, is everything else okay (yep it's the standard girl talk)? You've seemed quiet lately despite my efforts to make you smile (even at my own expense). If the question thing bugged you, I'm sorry if it was too much, sometimes curiousity really does kill the cat. If you haven't noticed, I'm the type of person who likes to hear about other people's experiences good or bad, it's not my job to judge anyone and I have no intentions of sharing it with anyone. What is said stays between us. If anything, I'd hope that it makes us better friends because of it.

2007-09-10 17:52:02 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend who I've been with for 4 years is out of the country at the moment. While he's been away he has been spending a lot of time with a female friend of his. We got into an argument about it because I thought he was spending entirely too much time with her. He said I had no reason to worry. So I called his friend and asked her what the deal was and she told me she didn't think I was good enough for him and she just wanted what was best for him. (she's known him 2 months) She said that he told her he was only with me because he was afraid I would kill myself if he left me. He admitted to saying that but he said it was only because she was filling his head with bullshit. Should I leave him for what he said and being an egotistical jerk or should I stay with him because he says he loves me? I do love him. I am very confused.

2007-09-10 17:49:31 · 7 answers · asked by ღFreakin Fantasticღ 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-10 17:44:17 · 20 answers · asked by electrode e 2 in Singles & Dating

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2007-09-10 17:41:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

a girl was on the phone talking to a boy.. the boy had to go and he said "good night, i love u"
girl: "me too"
boy:ok bye
girl:bye
***********************************************************************

boy calls again
girl:hello?
boy:"i love u"
girl:"i love u too"
boy:"bye
girl:''bye"

2007-09-10 17:37:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm a guy. And I have a wonderful girlfriend who is one year older than me. We love eachother and have fun and go out all the time. But, It's like whenever she wants to get more... Well, you know... I'm just not interested.

I love being with her and spending time going out together, playing guitar and making music, listening to music, watching movies, going out to get some food, some late night coffee... I enjoy it all. And I know she does too.

I don't want to do any of that stuff for some reason. I just love my girl for who she is. And yes, she is one sexy girl too, and I love the way she looks.

But whenever it's time to get more serious, I do it. But I'm just not interested. I just don't like doing that stuff.

It's been that way with every girlfriend... Whether she was a one night thing or not, I was never interested in anything like that. It's just not important to me.

But I don't want to upset her and tell her I don't want to do that stuff. Any ideas on what to do?

2007-09-10 17:37:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My honest opinion is , very rarely do I find glasses attractive on someone.

That is just my honest opinion. (Sorry)

2007-09-10 17:36:43 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I FEEL SO DEPRESSED! i have never had a real boyfriend. where he calls me his woman or his girlfriend you no? but ive had 3 long time relationships and few short ones where the man would take me out places & flaunt me like a diamond ring as if i was a prize hed won, bragging to all his friends & making me meet them. i do everythin for him. i wash his clothes iron his work clothes make his drinks cook him food play with his hair scratch his back massage him have sex w. him sleep in his bed night after night, & if i wasnt working i was with him. but heres the catch, i am never there "girlfriend" just a home girl! why do all men treat me like this? am i not good enough to be there woman? & they always try to spend money on my & buy me things as if to justify it. & im always their main chic but i no they mess around with other woman, i guess thats y they like to not have me as their girlfriend so they can be with many woman. i feel so used y cant i find a good man to treat me right? :(

2007-09-10 17:35:39 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If you and your gf split up
but ended up getting back together
&& there was a 50/50 chance
that your gfs baby, that she is pregnant with
could be yours or a different guys,

you love her, and your with her
through the whole pregnancy,
financially, emotionally etc...

After the baby came out and revealed
it wasnt your baby, but the baby looks
more like the mother anyways,
would you be able to love this child
and raise him as your own because you
love your girlfriend, and have been together for a while, or would you leave?
Would it hurt you to know you didnt concieve this child? Or would you be able to get passed it, loving your gf and the baby.

Me and my friend were talking about this
boredum i guess, but i wanted to see what
majority of the guys would say!
girls you can put your imput also!

2007-09-10 17:33:27 · 8 answers · asked by ♥ Stephanie Louise♥ 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

I guess it is not the Automatic Teller Machine. lol

2007-09-10 17:30:00 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am getting married in June and my husband to be is only a 1/2 inch taller then me so I dont want to wear heels. So I was thinking about wearing white flip flops under my wedding dress. i just need more opinions. HELP!

2007-09-10 17:29:22 · 41 answers · asked by Amanda 1 in Weddings

Before my husband and I met, the most important people in his life were his niece and nephews. Especially his niece. He thinks she's perfect, wonderful, beautiful, etc. I think she's just the typical spoiled blond girl. I think they are okay children, but I don't want to make them my top priority the way he has.
He tells me that he loves them the same as me, but they get unconditional love while I only get conditional love. As his wife, I'm not "family," so he can't be sure he'll always love me.
Personally, I'm offended that my husband loves me the same as he does a spoiled six year old. Actually, due to his constant criticism of me, I'm pretty sure he loves this kid a whole lot more than he does me, and that seems dysfunctional. Am I out of line for thinking my husband should love me unconditionally and more than he loves his sister's kid? I'm sick of being second priority after a little kid!

2007-09-10 17:28:20 · 12 answers · asked by Trying to do the right thing 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Ook I have to write this paper/letter thingy for class and one of the questions I have to answer is How well do I know my culture? How well do I know do I know other culture?
((sorry its in the wrong section))

---How would I answer these questions?

2007-09-10 17:27:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-09-10 17:21:30 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

me and my babys father havent been together since Feb. but we were still friends with a lot of benefits... well ive wanted him back all along and hes never taken me back because ive been to ashamed to ask or even see what his opinions were about it... now that im pregnant he denys the kid being his... and he hasnt talked to me in weeks... he has a new girlfriend and i beat the living hell outta her before hand and he still talked to me after that but now that im pregnant i just dont understand why hes not talking to me now that i found out i was pregnant... am i wrong for wanting him back in my life? or is he wrong for putting me through this?

2007-09-10 17:21:27 · 6 answers · asked by Vicki Kay-Marie 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

We've been together for about a year. I've been pressing the issue of him telling his wife that he's unhappy and leaving...He keeps telling me 'soon, soon, soon'. But that "soon"date, or tomorrow, never comes. I love him deeply and am beginning to think all I ever meant to him was a sexual fantasy. Am I just a fool? Please help! Opinions from married men themselves, greatly appreciated too.

2007-09-10 17:19:55 · 16 answers · asked by 2much_luvin' 1 in Singles & Dating

Will you always make time (or at least a conscious effort), to talk to/see/be with a "potential girlfriend" or someone that you are interested in, even when you're swamped with work/school/responsibilities?
If you only contact her every so often, does it necessarily mean you are stringing her along and have no desire to be with her?

2007-09-10 17:18:31 · 5 answers · asked by Princess_LOLA 2 in Singles & Dating

p.s. I am 25 years old and she tells me what to do on a daily basis. Any advice would be appreciated.

2007-09-10 17:14:58 · 16 answers · asked by pghbstngirl25 1 in Family

2007-09-10 17:11:36 · 6 answers · asked by leleanorc 2 in Friends

One day my husband forgot to log out of the chat room and I got on the computer and it popped up. The entire converstation that he had the night before with a female. I confronted him about it and he was pissed off. He said I had not right in his e-mail and I deserve it. The conversation between the 2 of them was straight sex. then he had the nerves to end the converstion calling her his princess and he loved her. He uses the domino room to coverup his chating. Last night I caught him again chating, but he will not admit it. He has several girls on his ms messanger. I asked him for his pass code for e-mail and messanger and he would not give it to me so I called and changed it and got in with out him knowing it. He is visiting Adultfinder.com and some other web sites. He put that he was looking for a female between 18 and 27 years old. He is 37 years old. I need to hear from some men. Women please commint too. I am a very good women and I don't deserve that.

2007-09-10 17:10:08 · 51 answers · asked by brownsugar 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I called 911 and my stepmom told them I was crazy and I did to myself my dad went to jail. I didn't ttalk to him until this year I am now 22 my question is can you forgive a person who basically ruined your child hood? Can you ever recover from feeling that unloved? My sister and I moved in with my boyfriends parents they were so wonderful they took us in barely knowing us and they r still in my life but they r not my real parents and I just want to have parent who has a genetic tie to me who cares what I do with my life who's job it is to guide me through life. Am I stupid for wanting to trust him again? I Know this is a long read for those of u who followed what do i DO1 through 5 but it feels good to get out this isn't the casual talk u have w/friends it just makes them down and I don't understand why I can't get over it my life is good I have a great loving bf I have my sis who is the only 1 who truely gets me and a bf you lets me know Im worth carring about why don't I feel good?

2007-09-10 17:07:42 · 2 answers · asked by coley200722 3 in Family

get married or anything like that, I am just looking for us to spend more time together". And he said, "MARRIAGE ISN'T NECESSARILY A BAD THING". What does this mean? Could this mean he is interested in marrying me? We have been together for about 8 months and are very close. We are in our late 20's.
What do you think???

2007-09-10 17:06:42 · 8 answers · asked by J 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-10 17:06:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am 25 currently living with parents and attending college full time and working full time. Currently I am paying tuition and books straight out of my pocket somehow miraculously. Plus I have a car payment.

The problem is that I'm tired of living with my parents and want my own place, but afraid I cannot afford it. I am also starting to have problems getting along with my dad. Is there any way I can afford college and an apartment?

2007-09-10 17:02:14 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I need Help and asked my family in a way I thought might be quite and would not put them on the spot with a face to face. I e-mailed them all. I'm disabled. I gave them a list of things I use alot and told them I'd appreciate any one thing as help from them (like paper towels, etc....).I told them I did not expect . . . but asked/let them know . . . and left it up to them. I told them I was sorry to ask, but I needed help. Was it wrong for me to ask. I thought this would be a quite way to let them know I needed help. Was it?

2007-09-10 16:59:31 · 8 answers · asked by Nick 2 in Family