We've been together for about a year. I've been pressing the issue of him telling his wife that he's unhappy and leaving...He keeps telling me 'soon, soon, soon'. But that "soon"date, or tomorrow, never comes. I love him deeply and am beginning to think all I ever meant to him was a sexual fantasy. Am I just a fool? Please help! Opinions from married men themselves, greatly appreciated too.
2007-09-10 17:19:55 · 16 answers · asked by 2much_luvin' 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are living in a fantasy world. Never, NEVER get involved with someone who is with someone else. Sex is the only reason such people want someone else. You are doing all of the work, right? Asking him when he is leaving her, pushing him for immediate answers. Why would you want used merchandise? Sex, again??? Use a vibrator, until you find someone worthy of your attention and love. Please respect yourself (he doesn't respect you) and dump him at once. Read books about being addicted to men...it is hard to not contact them and to start over, but what do you have now? She has him, she has his house, kids and income, holidays, and you can bet he is sleeping with her. (Yes, they say they aren't). You have nothing except his penis. Love yourself, get out and someone will give you the love you desire. Stay away from the dumpster full of married men!
2007-09-10 17:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so your a looker.......hmmmm all right so that makes it ok to ruin a woman and kids life!... HELLO - wake up and smell the coffee babe. He's using you 100% and as for all that pent house business what a load. To be honest your story actually amused me... firstly you need to learn to spell i mean if hes a barrister don't you think hes smart enough to play little games with a dumb-**** like you. Hmmm i THINK so! Your friends are not jealous of you at all, they are being something what is called a FRIEND look in a dictionary and look up the meaning and while your there look the meaning up of a cold hearted cow and maybe your name will be under the definition. Im sorry to be so mean but if i posted this question and you read it like i did you would totally understand every ones point of view who has left you a comment because not only do you sound dumb you sound like a little naive child that hasn't got a clue about life. He's 49 all right so you might like older men, but try and find one that isn't married and one that isn't trying to play games with your head. HE IS USING YOU FOR SEX...However, even though it may not seem this way, hes got to keep you sweet :) end it now before you get hurt because babes his wife and kids arnt! Listen to your friends because they will be around a lot longer than this dirty dick. Edit- OH and once a cheater always a cheater, doesn't mean for one moment he wont do the same to you..if he does leave his wife and kids that is so good luck in what ever you do! Edit again - I cannot beleive i just wasted my time on a lier like you!..Ive just been on your other questions and it says that your 21 and you have met a new man and are going to ''do it'' soon! Your pathetic, everyone should have known your little story was made up seen as you cant spell little girl! Grow up and get a life...
2016-05-17 04:22:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I highly dought that he will leave his wife, If his intention was to leave her dont you think that he would have done so before getting involved with you or anyone else? I aslo think that you should really pay attention to the fact that he is a cheater, If he can cheat on his wife he can cheat on you. Honestly.... do you think you are his first affair??? Probably not. Why would you want to be with someone who obviousely does not cherish the meaning of a marriage, I mean that is sapposed tp be a sacred thing between two human beings. I would move on and hopefully you will not allow yourself to get caught up in something like that again. If you are what he really wants then he will take the steps to do it the right way so that you are not the other woman. You very well could hurt not only his wife but there may be children involved and then you will have a Whole another mess to deal with. Good luck!
2007-09-10 17:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by sr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why are you messing with a married man. You know your wrong and I do not feel sorry for you. To answer your question though, you know he is not going to leave his wife for you. You were just a little escape from the mundane at home. When your gone he will have another little friend on the side. Your expendable, those are the facts. He is just stringing you alone. I hope you have learned your lesson. I also hope that when you get married one day, that someone does not do this to you.....or maybe they should
2007-09-10 17:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetness 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well speaking as someone who has been in this situation, I'm sorry to say he isn't leaving his wife honey! I played this game for several months and he made up lie after lie. He even said his wife tried to kill herself! What finally ended it was him telling me she was pregnant and he couldn't leave his child without a father. Bast***d broke my heart. Come to find out later his wife never was pregnant! The best advice I can give to you is let him go. If he really loves you he will leave her and come to you, but be very careful. The saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater" usually rings true. If he doesn't leave his wife, well my dear there is a world of fishes out there and you are sure to find a much better one than him. Good Luck!!
2007-09-10 17:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by Tina 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly those situations tend to end badly. Seems he likes to have two women on the go and if by now he has not left his wife, he probably won't. And you are being used in the meantime. Not a great thing! Move on, enjoy life, find someone else who is not married. I am sure you do love him, and it is hard, but don't let yourself be put through that! It is not love and it is not worth it, you deserve better.
2007-09-10 17:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by zeekandthefam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do get out. I'm taking a stab here & I'm going to say that you THINK you love him. If you & him really had romantic feelings for EACHOTHER then he'd left his marriage long ago. And yes, if he's cheating with you then he'll cheat ON you one day.He needs to grow up emotionally, and see what it means to have a heathy loving relationship. If he really loved you & felt a connection he'd leave his wife and remain faithfull to you.He's using you I'm sorry to say...but I've been the victom myself I woke up and realised I deserve better. As it turns out, it was the best move I ever made. I never loved him & he never loved me it was all about the sex. But when you call it off ,you'll then see him run to you begging you to come back...don't fall for it sweetheart you'll be amazed at what he'll come up with just to get you back in the sack. Good luck
2007-09-13 02:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by casey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with a married man for nearly 3 years. He never left his wife so I finally left him. The chances of him leaving are highly unlikely especially if there are children involved.
2007-09-10 17:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have gotten involved with a married man in the first place. He probably won't leave his wife for you. You should get out of this relationship and find a man who is single.
2007-09-10 17:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
first you are a fool .. yes you are . for many reasons. i am married so i might be biased towards someone like you
1. what makes you think that if he cheated on his wife he wont do the same to you?
2. would you want to be in her shoes? would you want someone to do this to you?
3. statistics: if men dont leave their wives in the first 6 months of the affair, they are not leaving them at all
you are nothing more then a booty call.
2007-09-10 17:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anna 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋