I called 911 and my stepmom told them I was crazy and I did to myself my dad went to jail. I didn't ttalk to him until this year I am now 22 my question is can you forgive a person who basically ruined your child hood? Can you ever recover from feeling that unloved? My sister and I moved in with my boyfriends parents they were so wonderful they took us in barely knowing us and they r still in my life but they r not my real parents and I just want to have parent who has a genetic tie to me who cares what I do with my life who's job it is to guide me through life. Am I stupid for wanting to trust him again? I Know this is a long read for those of u who followed what do i DO1 through 5 but it feels good to get out this isn't the casual talk u have w/friends it just makes them down and I don't understand why I can't get over it my life is good I have a great loving bf I have my sis who is the only 1 who truely gets me and a bf you lets me know Im worth carring about why don't I feel good?
2007-09-10 17:07:42 · 2 answers · asked by coley200722 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If God can forgive us for our sins then we need to learn to forgive others who wronged us. Its going to be very difficult and its more difficult to forget. You can forgive your father but you don't necessarily have to make any contact with him. When you are ready, maybe you can get acquainted with your father again and give him a second chance to make things right. What you're feeling is guilt that you put your own father in jail but he wouldn't be in jail unless he deserved to be in jail. Do not put a blame on yourself because you didn't do anything wrong. You were a brave girl then and the fact that you are thinking of forgiving and learning to trust your father just shows how courageous you still are.
2007-09-10 17:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by lvchic_702 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are still angry and hurt and you haven't resolved it. Get some counseling, it will help give you the tools you need to find some peace.
However, do not contact your family for the reason you have stated. These people don't care about you, and its magical thinking to believe that just because some time has passed that they will suddenly become the parents they should have been. It won't happen, you need to protect yourself, learn to nurture yourself and move on with your life. You are just looking for more heartache expecting people to act right when they are not capable of doing so. Good luck to you.
2007-09-11 00:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋