I need Help and asked my family in a way I thought might be quite and would not put them on the spot with a face to face. I e-mailed them all. I'm disabled. I gave them a list of things I use alot and told them I'd appreciate any one thing as help from them (like paper towels, etc....).I told them I did not expect . . . but asked/let them know . . . and left it up to them. I told them I was sorry to ask, but I needed help. Was it wrong for me to ask. I thought this would be a quite way to let them know I needed help. Was it?
2007-09-10 16:59:31 · 8 answers · asked by Nick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank You Everyone! For Your Answers. I became disabled in Feb-07. I have used every finacial resource I had, and continue to do everything I can to help myself. I hated to have to ask family for help. Not embarassed. Just did not want anyone to feel put on the spot. Just wanted them to know I needed help, if they wanted or could help.I did not ask for money for my bills, just gave them a list of things I use alot and told them they could pick one. That anything and everything would be greatly appreciated. Told them I loved them and that I was SORRY to have to ask them. Told them I decided to e-mail so they would not have to be put on the spot with face to face. Tryed to make it a quite plea for help.
Again, Thank You for ALL your great answers. I feel better now! I was afraid to ask them because I never wanted to Have to ask! I will continue to do ALL in my power to help myself and have and will always accept help with thanks and appreciation.
Thank You Thank You Thank You!
2007-09-11 01:20:27 · update #1
I actually agree with the way you did it. It helps you to not have an uncomfortable face-to-face discussion with anyone. It's hard enough telling family that you need the help. AND, if there is anyone who cannot help (maybe financial struggles of their own that they are afraid to let anyone know about) it makes it easier for them not to have to discuss it or explain why they can't.
2007-09-10 17:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong to ask your family for help becuase thats what they are there for and I do understand youur concern. I am in the same boat as you , I'm pregnant and just asked my father for some money to get things I need for the baby he kind of kicked and screamed but he gave in becuase thats what family is for. But your situation is a little more complicated than mines becuase you cant provide for yourself onthe same level everyone else can. I hope I didnt offend you in any way but anyways if I could help you I would!!
2007-09-10 17:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by candice c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people might be put off but the ones who love you will be glad to help. I think it takes courage to do what you did and I hope it helps. I would also suggest you contact Catholic Charities. You do not need to be catholic to ask for help from this group. They are there to help out in any way they can, you can reach them by googling Catholic Charities and your town, or you can call your local parish and ask for a contact. Sometimes we need help and sometimes we need to help. Let this be the time that someone gets to help you. Good luck.
2007-09-10 17:45:13 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people may think it was impersonal, but if you were embarrassed to ask face to face, tell them that, maybe they'll understand. If your family members are in a position to be able to help out, it is not wrong to ask for help. That's what families are there for.
2007-09-10 17:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! If you need help and your family isn't freely giving the minimum amount of help you need, a well placed suggestion is the perfect place to start. By doing this, you put the idea in their minds, you let them know you need help and it helps you keep your dignity.
2007-09-10 17:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your relationship, but even if it's crappy and horrible, the deed itself isn't that "rude". You'd never know if you didn't ask, would you? Besides, I'm sure that your family would like to help you and things like paper towels don't cost that much. Don't feel guilty.
2007-09-10 17:07:50 · answer #6 · answered by greengirlmissy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The hardest thing I had to learn in life was how to ask for help. You needed help and you asked for it. There's no shame in that. You did fine.
2007-09-10 17:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with wat u did
it is totally fine
everyone needs help
no 1 can live alone in this world
2007-09-10 23:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by x040493t 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋