I recently started college, and I don't get along with girls very well, so I've mostly been trying to make friends with guys. I don't want to go out with them, I simply find guys more easygoing and much easier to deal with on a daily basis (no offense to the other girls out there).
However, my boyfriend is still in highschool. When we talk about our day, I usually have some funny stories about my guy friends. He doesn't *seem* to get jealous, but I don't act jealous when *he* talks to other girls either, and really I'm like churning inside. So I know how it makes me feel... should I stop talking about them? We're pretty serious, and I don't want to cause him pain if I don't need to.
What do you think? If this is something I should do, I'd have no problem doing it if it would help our relationship. Should I talk to him about it?
2007-09-10 17:52:31 · 15 answers · asked by avacado pie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We're not even a year apart in age, I'm not interested in your thoughts on that.
2007-09-10 17:57:35 · update #1
If you guys are serious you should be able to talk about anything. He should understand that you get along w/ the opposite sex better.
If you do not want him to continue to talk to girls..then let him know. That will also be an invite that you can't talk to guys as well. It goes both ways.
I am a very jealous girl. I've always been like that. I dont' mind if my man talks to a girl as long as I know them and LIKE them. I think most people feel the same.
Just open up to him. Start by "I feel...explain how you feel when he talks to girls..and then ask him, how he feel when you talk to guys. Let him know how much you care for him..and that you wan't to have an honest, open relationship!
Just be truthful! You can't go wrong!
2007-09-10 17:58:23 · answer #1 · answered by Kendra420 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl
Comin from a guy who is also in college, if you honestly not diggin on your college friends and are seriously in love with your man in high school, then I think you should talk with him and let him know he's the only one. If he can't take it (since there is no evidence that you really do like one of your college friends) then maybe he is just too clingy. If this stuff goes on, this type of thing will happen again later.
Also coming from a guy, I can tell you we are inherently jealous. When my girlfriend used to talk about other guys (especially funny stories) I most definately got ideas she was doin something else. I was hella jealous. But we talked and it was cool. I wouldn't trip about it too bad unless he actually blows up about it or is visibly agitated by your behavior.
Aight then good luck girl =)
2007-09-10 18:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by raiderz22 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds simple, There are three motives for our actions, this falls under the first. Pleasure. Guys make you happy, weather they are your friends, or your boyfriend.
Seeing as you have only been in college for 2 weeks things are going to get rougher between you and your boyfriend especially if you are far away. So just understand that you can do what makes you happy now or what makes you happy in the long run. Guy friends now make you happy, not having guy friends preserves your relationship and thus you are happier in the long run but not right now.
I say forget the boyfriend and get drunk and then make a lot of guy friends and get drunk with them. ITS COLLEGE!!!!! get drunk get laid
2007-09-10 18:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by sean m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that this is a problem for your relatisonship, or that it's hurtting it in any way, then you should talk to him about it. Never not talk about a problem your having with a love one, because in the long run, your only hurting your self.. Always talk about issuis... It's better to talk about them and maybe fix them, then not; and live with the fact that you didnt and that you might be unhappy.
2007-09-10 17:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by bnrl_shell88 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably he is confident in where he stands in your life. Its a good thing to be open and honest with each other telling all. It makes a bond and increased trust. You seem to have a good thing going on. All the best!
2007-09-10 18:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by Knight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, they get jealous, if they are serious about someone. You would not want them if they did not have at least a little bit of jealousy of you. It shows that they really do care about you and don't want to lose you to someone else.
2007-09-10 17:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by Jason 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess da most imp thing in ny relation is trust nd understandin..so if u guys trust each othr den dere shud b no question of hurtin him..moreovr jealousy is a part of luv if its to an xtent...dnt alwaz talk bout dem..infct tel him dat hez so bttr dan all ur guy frnz nd dats y u luv him..i think u shud alwaz share wateva u fel lyke wid him...if u wnt share den he mite feel dat u r hidin sumthin or u r guilty of sumthn..so feel free 2 exprss nythin nd evrythin 2 u luv..justify all his suspcts.all da bst..i wash u a gr8 future ahead....
2007-09-10 18:15:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he did ask you to leave you're friends for him that would be a really selfish thing to do an you should prolly dump him.
Otherwise the best thing to do is to let your bf know that you love him and he is your man. Let him know he is important.
2007-09-10 17:58:24 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A college woman has no business with a high school boy (even if you're less than a year apart in age). Move on.
2007-09-10 17:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Read this Question to him and ask him what he thinks....Sounds like he will not care....but, College can be tricky....beware of falling for a College Dude.....
Glen
2007-09-10 17:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by Glen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋