My boyfriend who I've been with for 4 years is out of the country at the moment. While he's been away he has been spending a lot of time with a female friend of his. We got into an argument about it because I thought he was spending entirely too much time with her. He said I had no reason to worry. So I called his friend and asked her what the deal was and she told me she didn't think I was good enough for him and she just wanted what was best for him. (she's known him 2 months) She said that he told her he was only with me because he was afraid I would kill myself if he left me. He admitted to saying that but he said it was only because she was filling his head with bullshit. Should I leave him for what he said and being an egotistical jerk or should I stay with him because he says he loves me? I do love him. I am very confused.
2007-09-10 17:49:31 · 7 answers · asked by ღFreakin Fantasticღ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn't worry about losing your boyfriend. Any guy who will continue a friendship with a person who says mean things about you isn't worth your time, unless you think you deserve to be talked about behind your back. He probably does love you in his own immature, school-boy way. But it sounds like you've outgrown him. You just don't want to admit that you're better than him at responsible relationships because the polite part of you tells you that you should never do that. Just let him be. You can't make him grow up. You will find out that you are lonelier now, with him in your thoughts, than you will be without him in your thoughts. You just be you and wish him a very nice friendship with his snotty little friend. Break up with him? Why bother with drama? Just do your own thing. If he calls, let him know that you don't want to stand in his way of true happiness and let him decide what's important for himself. Maybe by then, you will realize that you are more important than he is. Here's the bottom line: A guy who has had sex with a girl who knows he has a girlfriend will give her an excuse as to why he is cheating on his girlfriend. "She'll kill herself if I leave her." This girl has had sex with your boyfriend knowing full well that you and he are supposed to be a couple. Since she has no respect for a mature relationship and he has no respect for a mature relationship, then they deserve each other. You are the only adult in this triangle. Walk away smiling. You're the only one who is worthy of a good, healthy, relationship. I've been married for 19 years, I have 2 teen-aged sons and during my 20's I was a bartender at many various establishments, 3 of them being popular singles bars. I know what I'm talking about.
2007-09-10 18:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by Brenda T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, wait until he gets back and talk to him. If you don't, tell him and move on. Hate to say it, but the line about "she was filling his head with bullshit" is a cop out. "Poor me, seduced by this big mean girl". The more I think about it, screw it, dump the bum, YOU deserve better, he already had better and messed it up.
2007-09-11 00:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by Captain Happy Pants 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said it himself! She's filling his head with bullshit. Is that really the kind of girl he needs to be hanging around? I wouldn't leave him... just yet. but i'd NOT feel comfortable with him around her and i think the 2 of you need to have a serious talk. good luckâ¥
2007-09-11 00:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by starryeyed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he told you he didnt want you...then leave him...you shopuldnt have to deal with people that use you. I am sorry to hear him say something like that to you. If he loves you...he wouldnt say something like that.
2007-09-11 00:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by Charlie Graves 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave him, and immediately move on to someone with a degree in psychology.
2007-09-11 00:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get out of this relationship now...if I were you.
2007-09-11 00:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it true that he said about you, if he would left you? if you stay with him, that you're confuse.
2007-09-11 00:58:14 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋