What would you do if your fiance's ex is bestfriends with his siter?

Question

What would you do if your fiance's ex is bestfriends with his sister?

I am having a hard time getting close to my fiance's siter because it makes me feel like she do not like me or care about me since she is still best friends with my fiance's ex.

I mean part of it is jealousy that I wish we are the close one and that we can be good friends too but part of it is that it makes me feel that she don't like me and that deep inside she hopes for my them to be back. It is a confusing situation. I don't know what to do sometimes, since she likes to bring her around family events and it really makes everything uncomfortable for me and my fiance.

What should I do? Avoid family events if I know she will be there? I have tried telling my fiance the problem but his response is different. He said he will not miss a family event just because his ex is there. What about me? I feel really out of place sometimes when she is around because they all have known each other for years before.

Answer 1

Some people you truly have to ignore. You ever heard of, kill them with kindness. That's what you do. If your sister (in law-to be) cared anything for her brother, she would get rid of the ex, for a friend and focus on you and her brother. SIS is a manipulator and probably likes trouble and get a real kick out of it. You know 2 can play that game. This is what you do at the very next FAMILY EVENT. Stand by your man, show those 2 , why he chose you over her. In their presence, you stay close, anything and everything he say is too funny, dance with him, close , be romantic. It is time to turn the tables and let Little Sis and Miss Ex to be a little jealous. Girlfriend, work it. Be strong and remember the one important factor. HE CHOSE YOU !!!!!!!!!!! P.S. Ignore them and don't look their way. GOOD LUCK 2 YOU

Answer 2

LOL I just came from my youngest grandson's birthday party. Let me point out some of the people, over there is my wife, sitting down next to her is my son. Standing over there talking to my mother is my ex-wife, my son's mother.

The point is, forget the theatrics, you aren't marrying the family, you are marrying the man. Take care of that first. As time goes by, you and his sister may become friends, maybe not, that's just the way people are. You may even get to a point where you are secure enough to tolerate his ex-wife, after all, you two will have something in common!

Answer 3

Build your confidence in your relationship with your fiance and with his family. The ex will fade away in time, or your will build a healthy relationship. Don't let your jealousy out. You will find out more about your own strengths by doing this. Remember, he chose to break up with her and become your fiance. It took time for that to happen, and it happened for a reason. He will be your husband. You do not have to compete with her. She will avoid you a little, just allow that to happen when it does, it doesn't need to be forced.

Answer 4

It's a really tough situation for you, but keep a professional like relationship with his sister, and if you don't show interest in her, the more she will naturally she will be drawn to you. Just be nice, keep a smile, and try to not let her get in the middle of you two.