One day my husband forgot to log out of the chat room and I got on the computer and it popped up. The entire converstation that he had the night before with a female. I confronted him about it and he was pissed off. He said I had not right in his e-mail and I deserve it. The conversation between the 2 of them was straight sex. then he had the nerves to end the converstion calling her his princess and he loved her. He uses the domino room to coverup his chating. Last night I caught him again chating, but he will not admit it. He has several girls on his ms messanger. I asked him for his pass code for e-mail and messanger and he would not give it to me so I called and changed it and got in with out him knowing it. He is visiting Adultfinder.com and some other web sites. He put that he was looking for a female between 18 and 27 years old. He is 37 years old. I need to hear from some men. Women please commint too. I am a very good women and I don't deserve that.
2007-09-10 17:10:08 · 51 answers · asked by brownsugar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"Do you think it is o.k. for a married man to visit adult chat rooms and have chat sex with them?"
Uh... NO. He also has no right to be pissed at YOU when you catch him cheating. That's him lashing out at you to divert attention from his own wrongdoing.
2007-09-10 17:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-23 00:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is mad at you because he has no other defense. He is guilty, so trying to turn it around on you was his only option.
I think that he is in the wrong, but I don't know how you should handle it. I would try and stay in control of the situation. Ask him strait forward questions that require a answer. I would act all cool and collected (although you may be ready to blow your stack), maintain yourself. I would also call and cancel the Internet.
I know what your saying. I am a woman that visits chat rooms and men are very bold. Some start off with I'm married is that a problem? Some of them don't have a care in the world and others talk about their wives and children.. I would not want to be in your position and I think that sexual conduct in chat is just as bad as the actual act of adultery. Good luck and God Bless....
But take a stance and don't back down!!
2007-09-18 14:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by RPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that he would turn around and get mad at you for finding his trash. What you should do is keep gathering all of the evidence that you read and when the time come, you will have what you need. I will say to you, I'm sorry to read this. I know that you are hurt to have to sit there and read this garbage from your husband and to have him think more of this trash that he has never met. I am really hurt for you right now. It is one thing to have suspicions that your mate is cheating, but to actually see it for yourself. I know this to be true. I had my ex husband's cell phone to call back to the house and I overheard him talking to his friends about a female that he had screwed the night before. i heard what position he had gotten her in, how much of our money he had spent on crack for her. So I know that you are hurt, not wanting to let go and really hoping that he would stop this behavior. You don't deserve this, most of us doesn't deserve this type of treatment. It is so sickening to me to know that men act this way and can look at you and think you are suppose to love them. you are suppose to not say anything, and wait until they announce that they no longer want to be married. He haven't even reached 40 years old and is already searching for young scags.
2007-09-18 07:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chatting is not cheating
but that's not what he is doing
he is actively seeking an affair
that's why he is on adultfriendfinder
(there are better sites by the way)
this isn't a little naughty chat
this is the beginning of the end of your relationship!
the man's a low life
find some one nice
take control and do not be used like this
HE IS RESPONSIBLE for his own actions he knows what he is doing and knows what it will cost hiim if he is caught
its clear he does not care
trying to stop him is like trying to stop the tide.
he will just become more and more secrative
your life is going to change and quickly
make sure its in your favour not his!
or
you could just visit a few swingers clubs and both have some fun!
2007-09-17 23:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, you don't deserve this. You should leave him and then he can have all the chat sex he wants. I'm pretty sure it won't be as good as regular sex and he'll feel like a big moron once he's realized what he's lost. I'm serious - get out because he's gonna be looking for real sex soon and you don't want any part of that with all of the diseases out there. I totally think any kind of sex (phone, email, chat, physical) is cheating.
2007-09-11 05:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do men always say "its my personal business" when they get caught doing something they KNOW they souldn't? I'm sooooo sick of this private emails, men going on sex sites, chatting with other women and then getting mad at their spouse when they get caught. You need to be assertive and YELL if you have to "The only reason you're pissed off is because you got caught, and I'll keep looking and keep finding out as long as you keep doing it."
I don't know, I'm mostly Irish, and I've got bigger balls than most men. Men need to quit hiding behind anger and own up to their infidelities.
Good luck honey and give him hell!!!
PS: I'd overnight you a pint of my hot Irish blood if I could and thought it would help!!! :-)
2007-09-15 11:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband did the same thing and had a similar reaction. I found out that he even met one of these "women" in person. Be careful if you have kids that use the computer, ( there were also pics to and from him) and that is something they do not need to see or read. But my advice to you is to print the conversations out and leave. he doesn't deserve you and wont change, at least mine didn't. oh and by the way.....leave a copy of the conversations on his pillow before you leave with the address of your lawyer!!!!!
2007-09-11 04:43:43 · answer #8 · answered by Cathy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh no sweety. That's not OK...
Cyber sex is like having sex, just virtually,.. If he can engage in sex on the internet, he is likely to engage in sex in the real world, as the chance arrives. I dont think he has any right to get mad.
If he's sexually not setiasfied at home, he should be a man about it, and tell you. And you two can work something out.
2007-09-18 09:36:36 · answer #9 · answered by CURA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...No...No....It is not alright for a married man to visit these chat rooms...I know it must have made you sick to your stomach that this person that you love and trusted could be so dishonest. I really don't know what to tell you about what you should do next but I do know, if you tolerate his behavior he will continue to do it... It sounds as though he don't care that it hurts you. You don't have to put up with his crap. I understand you are a good person but his sexual addictions have nothing to do with you. They are his and his alone. I'm sure it makes you feel as though you have done something to make him do this, but you haven't. He really don't deserve a good woman, sounds as though he likes trash, if thats the case. Try talking to him to see if he can get help for his problem...if he refuses, divorce him....
2007-09-17 12:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better get his *** in gear... This is a bad scene and no married person should be anywhere on the e-net talking to or watching sex things.. He needs counceling sweetie and you are right you dont deserve this so dont stand for his BS.. Good luck Grant M in Pennsylvania
2007-09-16 12:43:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋