Everytime i ask him he would say i was just vissitting my daughter(13yrs) and he would blame it up on alcohol. We have been together for 9 yrs and married for 4yrs during the week he is a loving husband come weekend then he is a changed person. I've even tried to commit suicide over this. He rather spend his money with his daughter than spend it with our son he would say that i am workinf then i must provide for our son(4yrs) when our comes back from the daycare he doesnt treat him nicely he will always say he i s spoilt and needs to be punished. And the worst part is that he doesnt live with us he lives at work SANDF in N.W he only comes home on month end but time with us is nit an option for him he rather spend his time in tarven drrinkin coming home on 2am in the morning & i am ver tired of this everytime he is sober he would apologies and i would take him back but this time i am at my mothers house i am very stressed & its affecting our son because we r always arguing all the tim
2007-09-10 22:39:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He may be a drunk but he's very clever to convince you that you've done something to make him drink and act irresponsibly. Everything you described points to an alcoholic abuser. You didn't make him that way and you can't fix him. You did the right thing to get away before someone ended up dead or in the hospital.
2007-09-10 22:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ehm I know this is not politically correct, but it is true... Some men are "once a day" men, some are "twice-a-week" men... And, there is a saying which is true also I'm afraid:
"A woman is having great sex with the man she loves, a man loves the woman which he has great sex with."
Sex IS the way to a man's heart, he cannot help it, and you can't help it.
As to your problem: Is he addicted to alcohol? If he is so much away from home, that might be the case without you knowing. Try counseling, or at least have an open talk with him, asking him what he thinks of your situation. Don't blame him for anything, try to get on a shared point of depart to start to solve problems instead of worsening them or just blaming him. You can download the free e-book on the website I mention below. They even do a free coaching and e-course.
take care!
2007-09-10 22:57:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT'S TIME FOR A DIVORCE.
Please get away from this, if you don't think you deserve better than think about your son. He deserves to be brought up in a loving and healthy environment not an unhappy one. If you stay then the chances of your son repeating the same pattern of his father is greater by the day because he will think it's ok to treat someone that way or worse yet, you that way. Think about it.
About taking your own life over this, what are you thinking? Not about your son oblivously. You already stated his father doesn't treat him the same then why would you leave him in the care of him, what good will you be doing for your son 6 feet under? you sure as heck can't protect him from any type of ill treatment that way, you will subject him to it.
Seek a divorce and seek counseling, if not for yourself but do it for your child.
2007-09-11 00:33:46 · answer #3 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all suicide? y? for whom?
thought what about your son after u are gone??selfish mother sorry to say//
you should have thought on on this before marriage,, naturally he woulf meet his daughter,,
high time.. either talk to him on this topic and tell him you cant take it any more or continue with him.
check your behaviour and check may be its your fault too,,, be cool and no anger//thats important
sorry may be i am thinking like the 1920's but possible something evil is done by someone on you.. i dont know which religion or country u belong-- but u know things can be done on some person and taking the person under some bad effect,,,
may be you dont agree,, sorry..
best of luck...
2007-09-10 23:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by fun007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had read this question from a stranger, friend or something like that what would you think was the best answer?
Honestly, from the situation you are describing I'd explain that he either get his things together and acts like a grown man with children or I'd leave.
Nobody deserves to be treated badly.
2007-09-10 22:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since ur sick of da life ur leadin now... den get out... simple i no but dats how it is... since u knew he was married previously wif a growing daughter... u made ur bed... now u can either sleep in it or change things around... go 4 family counsellin or therapy... if u love ur husband n i tink u do since ur clingin on... den try... 4 ur son
2007-09-10 22:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by el_corvo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arguing will only make things worse.No solution will come out from blaming.Have you ever calm yourself and sit down to talk.Let him know how you feel and what he want .
2007-09-10 22:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done nothing. Divorce this jerk. It will be better for both you and your son.
2007-09-10 22:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from him...take care of your son, STOP TRYING TO COMMIT SUICIDE! then, who would raise your son?
2007-09-10 23:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how often do you have sex,how many times aday?
if a man is happy in bed he is happy in the relationship
2007-09-10 22:46:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋