..do you feel the urge to cheat on him/her just to get even??
Or because you believe this would be a cure to your pain?
2007-09-10 23:29:29 · 17 answers · asked by Alice in Wonderbra 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have heard such a statement and I wonder how many of you believe this can be so!!
2007-09-10 23:38:21 · update #1
Larry, I love you!!! *not blushing!!*
2007-09-11 01:42:20 · update #2
Those in a hurry, proceed to the second paragraph...
People who violate trust do so for many reasons. Sometimes it is a character/self-esteem challenge. Sometimes it is to create emotional distance because they are in emotional pain. Acting on suspicion, with a violation of trust, is an immature response, at best. In our great-grandparent's time, our options for discreet encounters were severely limited by comparison to this era. Yet, they still occurred with abundance. This suggests that the human instinct to explore intimacy is very strong. Today, with parenting at a low level of priority for many, values have become less supported. Let us always remember that the concept of fidelity is a relatively young one, and mortally primarily as a legal device created to attempt to ensure that women, and children would not be abandoned, creating a "burden" on the existing state.
I for one hold my core values and morality dear, and do not allow the actions, or suspicions of anyone else, to cause me to change mine.
2007-09-11 01:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think a person's initial reaction if they found our that their other half was cheating would be to do the same to "get even." However, you ask "suspect he/she is cheating," which means there is a difference. Unless there is any proof that they actually did, why would you do it? If, on the other hand, you know for sure they did cheat, you would want some sort of revenge as you would be second guessing yourself on why they did it to you in the first place. But, in the long run, what does that accomplish? When a person cheats, it doesn't mean it was because of something YOU did. Would you belittle yourself to do the same thing that was done to you and regret it at the end of a night? People cheat all the time, but two wrongs don't make it right. The only way to cure any pain if this happens would be to walk away. There is life after a breakup. Let the person who hurt you go. There are lots of people out there just waiting to find that special someone whom they will appreciate, love and respect. Think of it as making your grand entrance into your new life. :)
2007-09-10 23:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 09:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be fair to cheat on your partner just because you suspect they might be cheating on you without evidence!
Find out if your suspicions are correct and then speak to your partner about it - maybe this is a sign of problems in your relationship, or they want to end it - but remember you might just be feeling insecure and talking about it could make all the difference.
2007-09-10 23:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by Extra_Sweetcorn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously cheating on them just to get even is not the answer!
My girlfriend cheated on me and i got so mad i had the exact same thoughts in my head as you....
but i thought wats a better way, the easiest way to get even is tell them you know and talk about it. they will feel insecure about the situation and the relationship...
as soon as they are down in there emotions tell them you love them and forgive them they will learn from there mistakes if you do it like this HONEST
2007-09-11 00:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you know by now that men are easily seduced? We are much weaker than you. Our cheating, if at all, is for immediate gratification which suddenly comes upon us. A woman's cheating is way deeper and more emotionally attached. This is in most cases of men and women that I speak.
2007-09-11 03:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by Irish 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your partner is in fact cheating on you getting even wont matter and it certainly wouldnt cure the pain or make you feel any better...getting even would be to find someone better and worthy of you love.
2007-09-10 23:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by juskilentime 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Alice, I'm always left in the dark in this kind of situation, until it's too late.... :-(
I don't get even. Revenge is not the solution
If the person tires of me, then so be it.
I will bow down gracefully....
2007-09-10 23:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by Buddy Hodor 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no...it's not a way to react, Iam too emotional to sleep with someone without being in love+it is different for women in another way (other than Leonarda mentions): men "take" women "give" themselves...it feels very different for the two sexes...
2007-09-10 23:55:56 · answer #9 · answered by ele 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never..For a woman is different...For the man, they are not going to call him anything...But the woman will always have a dirty name...And the dignity of the woman is very important, especially in our societies..
He doesnt cheat me, he is faithful(i hope..hehe)
2007-09-10 23:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by Leonarda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋