Family & Relationships - 15 September 2007

i've been going out with my fella for 6 years,we've a healthy sex life,we like trying new things. we did try anal sex a few times before but i've found it extreemely painful and uncomfortable... now recently he's been asking to try it again and when i refuse it's sure to end in a row. i've tried to explain to him but it never seems to get through. i feel i'm not able to satisfy him any more. has any body ever had this experence and could you please tell me how you delt with it.

2007-09-15 23:42:29 · 15 answers · asked by ashanti 1 in Singles & Dating

hi last night my dad came home drunk and got really angry at me calling me evry name imaginable and caught me drinking on a green the other night and told me he saw me. but he wasnt shouting at that, my boyfriend stayed over not last night the night before and he denied saying he could stay even thoe he was fine after he left yesterday morning. He got so so so angry and i got so anoyed and upset with him i can hear him int he living room but i really dont want to come out my room and see him, and i dont know what to say to him, i really am upset with him as he called me the local bike and everything. and the thing is i am still a virgin so know im not a slut! i dont know if i should just stay in my room all day or what, thak you so much

2007-09-15 23:31:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My boyfriend overheard 2 women talking at the deli counter (I was not with him) One was talking about not being able to get enough work, in the particular area I am hiring in. OK. so, my problem here is this, we have a new home phone. He said he didn't remember the number, which is conceiveable (I don't) although I have had him tell it to me before when I had to give it to someone. He does however know my cell phone number. But her gave her HIS cell phone number. Is this an issue? I am asking you, because I need an unbiased opinion, because I am aware I have a jealous nature. When stems partially from past expierences. But he also knows, or should know I would be uncomfortable with this. We are supposed to get married in 2 months. I don't like him giving his number to some other woman. Even if it was supposed to be for my buisness. But, he did tell me about it. Give me your opinions please. Thanks everyone

2007-09-15 23:24:06 · 8 answers · asked by OhWell (Kiss my cute furry feet) 5 in Singles & Dating

Hi guys,

I have been with a girl for a few months now and we have started to have sex and i stop early (after 3min) before i ejaculate because i feel it coming on and i dont wana embarress myself. Any cures for premature ejaculation that will actually work?!

Thanks

Ben

2007-09-15 23:19:57 · 8 answers · asked by Ben S 1 in Singles & Dating

any real story that made u brok up but now you are together or even married.i feel like i need to hear something like this to be patient

2007-09-15 23:04:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

It is like they relish this and have fun with this. Why do they like girls who can give them a rise?

2007-09-15 22:56:47 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-15 22:49:20 · 4 answers · asked by postive_thinker 1 in Singles & Dating

Okay, so I know this girl who sent a somewhat offensive and hurtful email to her best friends and including her boyfriend. The girl was going through a tough time. She and his boyfriend were constantly arguing and she didn't have anyone to turn to since her best friends were in a different country. She said sarcastic things like "yea, you're the best friends ever that's why you don't know what i'm going through right now. you're never there"... etc. When she finally calmed down, she realized what she did and sent another email apologizing for the first email.

Now, was it reasonable that she blew out like that? Should her friends forgive her? Or do her friends have a reason to get mad at her and potentially not ever talk to her again?

Thanks.

2007-09-15 22:41:31 · 17 answers · asked by cookiemonster75 2 in Friends

2007-09-15 22:38:47 · 2 answers · asked by Ice Age 1 in Singles & Dating

i have had 3 real boy friends! all 3 cheated why? im still good friends with them and they all tell me that i was the best girlfriend that they had and they wish it was diff... so why did they cheat? with the 1st he was my 1st kiss and every thang i was 16 and lived all on my own i work and cook every night my house was always clean and we never got in to a fight! in tell he sleep with some one! it was over after that her told me what i dont know aint going to heart me! i always thought that was how thang was! the two other guys was about the same way i would be with some one and it would always end in them cheating! i dont even know if i know any guy that has not cheated! im friend with mostly guys and i hear them talk but they well never tell me why they are that way! i just want to know why!

2007-09-15 22:32:27 · 14 answers · asked by dorothy b 2 in Singles & Dating

will be filing for divorce soon. do it myself because its cheaper. I would like to know will I have to face the judge if my spouse can't be found? most likely he can't be found because he's house to house. after I file the divorce,how long until I would have to see judge?

how long will they search for my husband?I live in state of CA. I'm hoping it won't be so complicated.we have no kids.I was so dumb and niave to marry someone from out the country!!I hate myself for hurting myself emotionally because I was deeply too head over hills.please someone with info would be great

2007-09-15 22:31:48 · 5 answers · asked by stacey t 1 in Marriage & Divorce

MARRIED BLISS?

Your eyes meet across a crowded floor
Your heart's a flutter, there is no more
No other lovers, no other beaus
The room is empty but for his one man show
Your word stands still for there is no other
He becomes your life, your friend and lover.
The life you had, went out, had fun
He's now your life, moon, stars & sun
Without him there your world stands still
For him you'd lie, you'd die, you'd kill
He's now the other half of you
You can't exist, what will you do?
"With this ring", you're duly wed
And then he takes you home to bed
For nights of passion and sated bliss
And warm embraces with a tender kiss
Your life's complete, so real the dream
But is this dream quite what it seems?
Within 6 months, there is no kiss
The warm embrace is now a fist
There are no tender, love-filled nights
Just drink-fuelled rows and violent fights
Once what was a loving hug
Has become a thump from a violent thug!

2007-09-15 22:22:50 · 17 answers · asked by CHRISTINE O 4 in Marriage & Divorce

im now in Afghanistan in the british army.the other week my girl friend told me that she got wasted and someone took advantage of her and slept with her she can not remember a thing had to ask her friend if he used i comdon or not. we say we love each other and she does this what do u think i should do?

2007-09-15 21:58:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

just let you be in a bad mood! Yes, we all have bad moods sometimes, but it seems to me that women aren't allowed to have a funny five minutes without her man jumping on the bandwagon and getting stroppy as well! I'm pregnant, went out babysitting till 1am this morning for extra cash, it was my turn for a lie in this morning, I got woken up by next door's dog, our toddler is having a tantrum and consequently I'm in a bad mood. MY bad mood! Why is he stealing it away from me ?!!

2007-09-15 21:56:03 · 8 answers · asked by Xai 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

In the US, you are an adult the day you turn eighteen. If you have sex with someone who is 18 and you are 17-- the 18yo is said to be "raping" you. Even if you consent, the person is good to you, and they never forced you or hurt you-- they still go to jail because of something you agreed to.

Shouldn't consequences be decided on a case-by-case basis instead of being black and white? I mean, if someone is 16 and they decide to date someone who is 18 of their own free will, shouldn't they be allowed to? Shouldn't it depend on maturity levels and all the other factors instead of being decided solely on age?

I've seen some pretty immature 25yos, and some very mature 15 yos. So should age be the only deciding factor between consent and rape, or should there be others?

2007-09-15 21:52:53 · 12 answers · asked by mathaowny 6 in Singles & Dating

experienced people,

2007-09-15 21:51:52 · 11 answers · asked by Jessica H 1 in Singles & Dating

advise on how to communicate with his father. His father does not call him on the phone and does not visit him. He is depressed and sad. Any tips on how he can have a relationship with his dad? He knows where his dad lives. The last time he saw his dad was when his dad stopped by very briefly to say hi only because he was in the area and a relative saw him and told him to come see his son.

2007-09-15 21:51:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Text girl I don't know real well(but am trying to get to know her), but see frequently at a store where she works "Hey you work too much! You need to take a break!" She replies "I know I work to much but your always in here tho"

Does this seem like a slam on me for being in there or more like a green light?

2007-09-15 21:49:21 · 10 answers · asked by The Anonymous 1 in Singles & Dating

Now before you go off on me and tell me that running isn't the answer, let me say I've already told myself all that. It's the only thing I can do.

I'm currently in Texas, and I need to go home, which -unfortunately- is Michigan. Getting there isn't the problem. It's staying there without living off someone else.

I'm not being stupid about this. I have set the date for about two years from this coming April. I'll have been flown up for spring break, and my best chance is going, then not coming home. Before I run, I plan to have a steady job here, so I can start saving, so I can provide for myself until I get a job when I get home - I have a friend who can get me one.

I will have turned 17 the December before (yes I'm only 14 now), so I shouldn't have much resistance if I can settle myself. The only problem would be my mom. She won't let me go without a fight. I have places to go who know why I'm running; I can hide if I have to.

Anything else? Advice please!

2007-09-15 21:46:29 · 13 answers · asked by Torn and Frayed Pages 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

But then we both broke off our datings because were gonna be long distance and were gonna end up getting hurt..but then he still ask's me out to dinner and movies..I go with him srtictly as a friend but Im soo confused now! That old flame just builds back up for him.. Theres so much mixed signals! Is he leading me on?? please help me find out where we stand.. Thanks in advance!

2007-09-15 21:45:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am 23 years old male who has had 4 abdominal surgeries.I have been on all drugs even morphine was legally prescribed for me. Now I am healthy and as strong as anyone else. I dont get along with women because my abdomen looks so scary. I look very handsome from outside and girls try to seduce me all the time. I scared the **** out of a girl when I took my shirt off in bed and she left me the same day and my confidence shattered.I will be getting married very soon.I dont know what to say to my future wife about my tummy.I dont want to tell her about it before marriage because i fear she will leave me. Should I go for plastic surgery? Need advice please.

2007-09-15 21:40:55 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

well first of all my name is brittany (duuh) and my bestfriends name is kayla and her boyfriends name is greyling but we call him grey for short. well before kayla met grey she had NEVER benn kissed before and she hadent had a boyfriend in 5years. well me and her went swimming one day and we saw him and kayla said he was ugly and i thought he was cute and nice well later on they talked and they started going out. she had already told him about her love life and he has already given her kisses ans stuff like that..but what he dont know is that IM INLOVE with him. i mean im older then kayla.. im thiner,im prettier. and i have a begger and better personality. and he is already inlove with her but im inlove with him and she always talks about how they are a perfect match when i get him better then she does.. she even thinks hes cute now.. but what do i do if im inlove with my bestfriends boyfriend? im too scared to tell him how i feel cause im scared of crying myself to sleep every night..

2007-09-15 21:38:55 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I mean, it's like: "Oh, hold on I can't see that thing over there, let me close my eye-lids some more so I see less of it". WTF?!?!

2007-09-15 21:36:41 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My friend has a crush on her therapist. My friend is upset with me because I have not acknowledged to her that I think her therapist would be flattered by this crush. My friend says that all of her other close friends have acknowledged this, except for me.

I have not acknowledged this because:

1. It's speculation as to whether or not her therapist would be flattered, and;

2. It's very very (very) unlikely they would ever be together.

For the above reasons I do not think it's wise for me (or anyone else) to say that to her. I should also add that my friend is receiving therapy for a disorder of which one "symptom" is being obsessive.

What do you think? Should I have acknowledged that her therapist would be flattered, or am I correct in believing that it is better not to?

2007-09-15 21:34:00 · 3 answers · asked by Shelby 2 in Friends

2007-09-15 21:30:24 · 9 answers · asked by Nicholas L 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am an only child and I have always wanted a twin or a sister! I think its a very important relationship to have all your life, and I feel very left out that I don't have it! I mean someone your age who you are connected with by family. Like friends can get in a fight and quit being friends or drift apart or anything. Anyways, I know theres probably lots of girls out there who want sisters as well. I always wanted my mom to adopt someone close in age to me so we could legally be sisters? I'm 19 so is there anyone out there maybe 17-20 ish or around there that wants a sister? Like maybe someone who doesn't have parents, but is kinda too old to be adopted, is getting ready to be on their own soon anyway or something. Think about what a good thing that could be, it could give someone a mom and a sister? So if anyone wants a sister please answer! (Don't answer unless you fill these requirements, if your just going to be mean don't say anything, I'll report you)

2007-09-15 21:21:22 · 5 answers · asked by Joie 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband has 3 wks. Air Force Reserve in service duty. I hate it so much because I always have to be alone at home. We have a 2 y/o son that keeps me busy sometimes. But I really do feel like hell!! I'm a stay-home-mom, I stopped school so I can take care of my son & be a mom & wife. I live 4 hours away from my family & friends. We just moved to a new home and I don't even have friends to talk to or go out with in our new neighborhood. My son & I are really bored and I hate to feel bored because this is when I start thinking of negative thoughts and I start accusing my husband of cheating. Although, he has no previous history of cheating, I tend to think that all men will cheat when given an apportunity. I'm also frustrated because I want to work & start making money but my husbands work schedule sucks, I have to stay home and be a mom. I'm tired of staying home!! I want to go out there to work and stay busy! What do I need do?????

2007-09-15 21:15:55 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i always heard about lesbian couples. do they can be called a lesbian if they just kissing at mouth and did what other couple did???

2007-09-15 21:15:46 · 14 answers · asked by mia 1 in Family

Tonight was the last and final straw my husband comes into my house around 1:30 am asking where some pliers at, I tell him that he left them in the car which the car had been towed somewhere, so he wanna argue about that and some other bull. I walked away and he said don't walk away from me cause i'll bust you in your head. Knowing that he hit me before and choked me before, I didn't take any chances I called the police to have him escorted out of my home. He took the dress and coat he brought me back. He said he will have the divorce papers in the mail. Should I wait for the divorce papers to come in the mail? Or should I try to talk to a lawyer Monday morning and see what my rights are. I have proof that he has been abusive and I have proof that he committed adultery because they had a child together while we are married. I do everything for the kids, I watch them, we in a stable home, I am about to start college, I don't drink or do any drugs or smoke. I going to look for job.

2007-09-15 21:14:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What is so good about dating?

2007-09-15 21:11:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating