So. I'm planing to run. Can I get some advice?

Question

Now before you go off on me and tell me that running isn't the answer, let me say I've already told myself all that. It's the only thing I can do.

I'm currently in Texas, and I need to go home, which -unfortunately- is Michigan. Getting there isn't the problem. It's staying there without living off someone else.

I'm not being stupid about this. I have set the date for about two years from this coming April. I'll have been flown up for spring break, and my best chance is going, then not coming home. Before I run, I plan to have a steady job here, so I can start saving, so I can provide for myself until I get a job when I get home - I have a friend who can get me one.

I will have turned 17 the December before (yes I'm only 14 now), so I shouldn't have much resistance if I can settle myself. The only problem would be my mom. She won't let me go without a fight. I have places to go who know why I'm running; I can hide if I have to.

Anything else? Advice please!

I moved to Texas about a month ago, and you know, if I was going to stay here, I'd try to make it home. But I have to move again next summer, so I don't want to find a reason to stay.

Understand, I am still in school; I want to -am- going to finish high school. I don't want to do this, but I can't think of what else to do.

It's not abuse, not at all. Well, unless there's mental abuse? I have a hard time being me where I am. I feel like I'm not allowed to be happy because this past year I wasn't with my family, and I had to stay with my relatives, so I guess I was a burden. And now I guess I've got this idea in my head that I've changed too much and now my mom doesn't like who I am. I talk too much, I'm too loud, I can't handle my little sister. I feel like nothing I do is right.

And I thought about telling my mom about this, but --then I'd be more of a burden, wouldn't I?

Answer 1

"Running isn't the answer" Ugh. Well, it depends on why you're wanting to run. If you're being abused and theres no one that can help you or stop the abuse, then sure, run like hell, just make sure you have somewhere to run. If its just because you don't like where you are or no friends, then you might want to think a little more. You seem to have a good mind on what you want to do, good for you. There are a lot of places now that won't hire someone under 18 without parents permission. Make sure you have a place you can stay thats safe. Not just a friend, if you stay with a friend then they could be charged with harboring a minor. You don't want your friends to get in trouble do you? Call 211, its the United Way help line thing, they have info on safe shelters for people who run. That and they wont call your parents on you, its anonymous.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Don't be silly, please. Running away is not only cowardly, it's stupid and dangerous. Why don't you stay and face your problems. Every family in the world has problems - and no-one is perfect.
How would you like to end up as a dead statistic? Because that is precisely what you would be opening yourself up to. It's a harsh world out there, far too harsh for you to be even thinking let alone planning such a thing.
You sound like an intelligent girl - put your energy into ways to make your family life better and remember that most 14 year olds feel "trapped" the way you do.
Speak to a counsellor, but don't put your life in danger by running.

Answer 4

Im gonna be nice to you, swedes are a generally very smart common logic people... You helped me when I was down so...

Im 29... when I was your age I was teased for being fat... I really wanted to just get away from there. I went through alot of hardships and so on. But at some years after that I really came to see that it was not something rational. You will grow up in it and make a wiser suggestion. First thing to become an adult is to face the problems. Running is not the answer to that.

Heres my answer:
- You dont wanna do that. That's the last thing you wanna do and you will regret it, maybe you dont feel it now but it will come... Stronger then you think. Its not fun when you then have to come back, "limpin" and apologize. But facing your mom is the adult way. Tell her simply:
- Mom, sit down. There's something I want to talk to you. It means very much to me so you need to listen and we need to talk so both gain something out of this discussion.

There you go.

Answer 5

I think u need to see a counselor. If there is a good reason for u to leave they can help u. If not maybe they can show you how to better get along.

U r only 14! So am I, but I have better smarts than to think about running away. It is too expensive to live on your own and it is hard for a kid to get a permanent good paying job. Go back to school, grow up and get a diploma. Then after u graduate u will know better what u want to do.

Answer 6

When they find you they will send you either back to your Mom who is going to be mad you can bet, or send you to juvenile hall or some place just as bad. If you are being abused in anyway & it's physical report it to school officials they will know what to do, if it's sexual also report it to school officials, if you have anything you can give them for proof take it to school with you go to the counselor, or nurse or principal. They are obligated to report it & once you get to talk to the Social Worker refuse to go home & ask to go to where ever it is you plan to go. But you need some good reasons to get out of there other wise running will only get you caught & in a lot of trouble when you get caught & sooner or later you will probably get caught. If it's that bad now talk to someone so you can leave before it gets worse. When you are 16 , I think,you can join Job Corp & get out of there then you will have a trade. Here's a link.


http://jobcorps.dol.gov/


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Answer 7

What are you running from? It sounds to me like you're running from yourself. If you're with your mom in Texas isn't that home? I was born and raised in Texas. I currently live in Texas, but I've been all over the US and overseas in the military. If you were born and raised in Michigan I understand your yearning but enjoy your life now. Two years is a long time. Who knows in that length of time you might find a reason you want to stay. Furthermore does your mother know how you feel? If your father is in Michigan then you can actually request to live with him at fourteen by law.

Answer 8

You need to communicate with your mother about whatever the problem is. Running does not make problems go away it makes it worse, because now your mother is going to be looking for you, you can get your friends in trouble if she say u are missing and the cops find you at there house. Anyone who house u will get in trouble because you will still be a minor. Your mother can be a B about the situation if she really wants to be, the best thing to do is to wait till u are 18.

Answer 9

So much can happen before then, and you may find that whatever is not right where you are living now, can be solved.

It depends on what you are running from. If it is something serious, you should notify the relevant authorities. If it's just the normal, family stuff, things may settle.

Have you actually spoken to you mother, and old her how unhappy you are? I would start there.

Answer 10

well i certainly understand why you want to go back to michigan. i live in texas and i hate it been here since 1977 and i want to go home (Michigan) also. I think at least you have thought about this long and hard and you are prepared. it would be great and good luck to you when you hit the age to leave. actually i dnt' think your mom can tough you when you leave. it should be 18 then for sure she can't do nothing to you but heck go for it take care.