But then we both broke off our datings because were gonna be long distance and were gonna end up getting hurt..but then he still ask's me out to dinner and movies..I go with him srtictly as a friend but Im soo confused now! That old flame just builds back up for him.. Theres so much mixed signals! Is he leading me on?? please help me find out where we stand.. Thanks in advance!
2007-09-15 21:45:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats a hard question....
to tell you the truth i dont think your his girlfriend maybe he is trying to be your boyfriend again by inviting you to dinner and inviting you to go out... but if he hasnt talked to you about girlfriend and boyfriend maybe you guys arent. If you are that confuse you should really talk to him because what if all those mixed signals you are the only one getting them.... then your gonna get hurt!
and even if you go to those places just as friends i bet sometimes you wish it was more than friends ( well as you stated with the mix feelings and old flame thing)
be honest with yourself and be honest with him, dont be afraid to talk to him about it... its better to know how you guys stand now because what will happen if you take longer to talk to him.... maybe that flame that you got gets stronger and his doesnt ......
be brave! you can do it!....
you can even start with.... bringing up the past.... remembering old things that you know were special to him too and see what he says...... ask him if he still feels something for you... but making sure that you tell him that nothing is gonna change between you guys, unless you want to.....
i hope this helps u at least a little =0) good luck!!!
2007-09-15 21:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are leading yourself on here. To only be with a guy for 4 months that is not even really considered official boyfriend/girlfriend type of situation. I mean you are just someone he is dating but not like he said you are my girlfriend right away. So if he just ended the casual dating situaiton and decided to be friends he has a right to that. Because to him it wasn't serious enough to really continue if he is going away. I also see nothing wrong in the least with a friend asking another friend out for dinner. Thing is you should have talked more about your feelings more up front with him before just breaking things off or even dating. Because I think the fact that you in your own mind thought he was your boyfriend but in his he wasn't really seeing you that way other just a chick he took out for a few months. So I think you should still tell him how you feel and see what happens then. Good luck.
P.S. Never rush relationships if they aren't really a relationship in the first place.
2007-09-16 04:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, i've got a similar situation..i've been "dating" a friend of mine for a couple months now. he calls me his girlfriend and i call him my boyfriend (sometimes). but we're both single. its supposed to be like "dating" but without the actual label of bf and gf. however, it also means we are able to see other people, cruise with other guys or girls. but when it all comes down to it, we're pretty much together...
i was getting tons of mixed signals from him and sometimes i still am..i found the best way was to just straight up ask him "so what are we?". and we had a lengthy but very worthwhile talk. i still feel confused about "us" but i have a better understanding of whats going on...
so try talking to your man and see whats up. if he can't give you a straight up answer then i suggest you tell him what you want and see what he wants. then take it from there.
good luck!! :D
2007-09-16 04:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by lilo_girl_13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants fun, without strings attached. He wants you, but only when he feels like having you around. I think it'd be in your best interest to cut ties. He isn't worth it. You deserve better than a guy who can't make up his mind.
2007-09-16 04:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by Starsky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him about it...not to sweet cuz he'll get mixed signals...but not too straightforward because he'll think its just a joke. Do you think he has feelings for you then check it out? why not mke a try?
2007-09-16 04:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by aNGeL cAKe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does not sound he see u as gf... it should not be any confusion... when my ex wanted me - he asked me to be his gf... guy just likes ur company... do not stress out...
2007-09-16 04:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by Willing to learn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. Why would we on Yahoo Answers know?
2007-09-16 04:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋