hi last night my dad came home drunk and got really angry at me calling me evry name imaginable and caught me drinking on a green the other night and told me he saw me. but he wasnt shouting at that, my boyfriend stayed over not last night the night before and he denied saying he could stay even thoe he was fine after he left yesterday morning. He got so so so angry and i got so anoyed and upset with him i can hear him int he living room but i really dont want to come out my room and see him, and i dont know what to say to him, i really am upset with him as he called me the local bike and everything. and the thing is i am still a virgin so know im not a slut! i dont know if i should just stay in my room all day or what, thak you so much
2007-09-15 23:31:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't know how old you are, but social services should be able to help. Your dad has no right to treat you this bad. If he can't help his violent drinking and your mum can't help, then someone else have to. A School counselor or if you are over 18 year, move out of home. A refuge is better than this.
2007-09-15 23:41:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, but usually, if you live under his roof, he sets the rules. What are you doing having a boy spend the night any way? He did not act right either. Try to speak to him when he is sober.. you might start with an apology. If you can not come to terms with him, then perhaps it is time for you to move out and find a place of your own. You have seen what drinking has done to him, do yourself a big favor, and leave it alone. Drinking doesn't make things easier or more fun. It is a big problem that most of us can do better without! Like wise, having a boy spend the night, with or without permission, only leaves you open to being judged by others, no matter WHAT you actually did or did not do. Simplify your life now before you create more problems that you really don't need. If you are still in school, there will be plenty of time later on to mess around with boys sleeping over, and with drinking.
2007-09-16 07:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by territizzyb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I don't know how old you are but it sounds like your Dad had a lot to drink then took his temper out on you. He is like all Dads, jusy worried about his little girl. It doesn't sound as if he was physically violent, just loud and abusive.
(If he ever gets physically violent there is nothing to say except get out of that situation any way you can. Talk to a school counsellor or social services and however much it hurts you to do it, find somewhere else to live through the proper channels.)
As things stand, however, he probably had an outburst and showed his natural parental worries more than usual because of the drink. Now he is feeling wretchedly guilty for it. Go and talk to him, tell him you are a good girl and that you and your boyfriend have a responsible platonic relationship, so he shouldn't worry so much about you. Ask him not to drink so much. But tread extremely carefully if he ever shows signs of physical violence.
2007-09-16 07:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by dizzzybubble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't going to answer this but some people are giving you some really bad advice. If you ignore your dad too much or show his hostility by either words or actions it will antagonize him and his obvious drinking problem. I would talk to him when he is sober. How old are you? I would suggest talking to a teacher or counselor at school about the issue. Talk to your dad when he is not drinking about this problem and try not to irritate him when he has been drinking...simply keep him calm when he is intoxicated. Its not right that he treats you like that, talk to some people you trust in your life as well, such as some friends parents and see if they have some ideas or can help out your family situation. Good luck : )
2007-09-16 06:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what ever you want.. you can't let him put you down.. so what if he thinks bad of you or anything else, you know who you are and what you are!
just go out, get some fod or a drink or whatever and completely ignore him. if he tries talking to you just keep walking, don't even look at him. make sure he knows that he did hurt you bad last night.. give him the cod shoulder for at least a week, just do whatever you want! :)
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2007-09-16 06:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by Badger 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like your dad has a drink problem and he shouldnt be talking to you in that way hun...i would just keep out of his way and see what he does..he really shouldnt drink if it makes him act in this way...does he drink alot? he is probably feeling reall bad about it right now 2 and wondering what to say to you.he should make the 1st move to fix this with you...tell him to get help.
hope everything works out for you..x
2007-09-16 06:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay in room for awhile until he calms down a bit. then go out and try to talk to him and you should tell him you are still a virgin even though he shouldn't have said that to you. Good Luck, ok!!
2007-09-16 06:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by cblcal 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry to say this but your dad sounds like a d*ck! he's drunk and can't handle his sh*t..idk how old you are but i'd plan to move out as soon as i could to get away from that...nobody deserves that...especially from their family
2007-09-16 06:54:28 · answer #8 · answered by lilo_girl_13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋