Hubby is away for work for 3 damn wks. I'm mad, bored, & frustrated!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

My husband has 3 wks. Air Force Reserve in service duty. I hate it so much because I always have to be alone at home. We have a 2 y/o son that keeps me busy sometimes. But I really do feel like hell!! I'm a stay-home-mom, I stopped school so I can take care of my son & be a mom & wife. I live 4 hours away from my family & friends. We just moved to a new home and I don't even have friends to talk to or go out with in our new neighborhood. My son & I are really bored and I hate to feel bored because this is when I start thinking of negative thoughts and I start accusing my husband of cheating. Although, he has no previous history of cheating, I tend to think that all men will cheat when given an apportunity. I'm also frustrated because I want to work & start making money but my husbands work schedule sucks, I have to stay home and be a mom. I'm tired of staying home!! I want to go out there to work and stay busy! What do I need do?????

I know about the day-care but, as we all know, day-care in California is way too expensive.

Answer 1

maybe you should try and find other mothers who have a child around your daughters age or other military wifes with children someone who can relate to u so u wont feel alone.


here is a great site where you can talk to other moms also their is a part on there for military moms

http://www.cafemom.com

here is another site

http://www.babyfit.com/archive_posts.asp?imboard=20&imParent=264233

Answer 2

Well first calm down you really already answered your own question what you really need is reassurance. Most of us women have been through this at some point in our lives. Well at least us moms. The sky is falling crap. Get yourself involved in some activities that you like aerobics, kickboxing, sewing whatever you know what I mean. Then get your son involved in some play group or something. That way you can get out of that dang house and stop going stir crazy and stop thinking crazy thoughts. This way you will meet new people who share the same interests as you while having some time away from all the crappy stuff we have to do. Cleaning, cooking laundry etc. Also w/ your son he gets some time out and you can find some other moms to talk with who you can maybe make friends with and then eventually have a night out babysitter or something.There also might be some military reserves organizations in your area that you can talk w the other wives who are going throught the same thing as you. I know this all might take some time but I know you know your husband is a good man you are just going stir crazy which is understandable. Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 3

I can see what your problems are. You want to be a good mom for your son and at the same time make some money. Why don't you try establishing an internet based business. Don't aim too high, just aim to make around $500 a week. That's not hard to achieve, if you ask me, because I've seen so many people making just that or even well over $2,000 pw and they don't even have to get up early in the morning to get to work. Get some info on e-business.

Answer 4

A good place to start is to find a hobby that you really love doing. For example, I personally love photography and also building things. I have volunteered with building projects in my community for 3 years running. As for you, however, you have a 2 year old son in the mix. Find a good day care center for him and go find what you love to do. You might even surprise yourself by starting a new hobby. Also, try doing things with your son. Take him to the park and play little games with him or go for little walks. A childs development thrives on little things like that.

By the way, about the negative thoughts when you're bored...those are extremely common for someone who is in that state of mind for that long. Don't worry. You're husband is not cheating on you. He married you and loves you. By the way, GOD BLESS HIM! Our American Military are wonderful people.

Answer 5

I can relate to your situation. but my husband is not in the military. He's law enforcement and they send him on alot of assignments/missions away from home for 5 days sometime twice a month. I'm a stay home mom with 2 children 6 and 13. I used to envy my husband for always taking trips to places I can't go. He doesn't like to be away from home and family. But he has to do what ever it takes to be a good provider. Instead of feeling so frustrated and what not. Be a supportive wife and mother to your child. Make new friends. Start a child care in your home (one or two kids) and you and your child will have friends. Keep your husband in prayer and praise him for what he's doing for his country and for you and your child. Take care of yourself and your child. Don't be miserable. Talk to your child and tell your child the good things daddy is doing. Make an album and journal for your husband during the times he's away.

Answer 6

Remember you asked the question!, what you need is to to Grow up and stop being so Selfish. You have things many only dream of.........a NEW home, a husband who obviously works hard and provides for his family, you can afford to be a stay at home Mom and raise your son. If you were really SERIOUS about wanting to work, then you would have found some dependable child care and found this "job" you long for. if you were really SERIOUS about school, then you would have found adequate child care and pursued it. Stop making excuses, and blaming your husband, your new location and your son for things you can obviously change if you truly wanted to.

Answer 7

Jealousy caused one of my friends/coworker/roommate to lose his job. I was living with this couple who was married and they had a two year old. The wife was always bitching about him being at work all the time. It caused so much stress on the job that the lady manager at our job fired my friend/coworker/roommate He was the manager and making about 14 an hour and now where is he working? $7 an hour on welfare and thanks to who? Jealous wife who accused him of cheating with the lady manager that came from corporate who also warned me to tell him that this would happen if jealous wifey stepped in one more time. So my advice to you... Don't worry about what he is doing.. Are your bills being paid? Is your kid being fed? Do you have to work to survive? From what it says in your question All of these are NO!!!!! So don't worry about it God will provide for you and your family. If your husband is cheating the truth will eventually come out but honestly I would not worry about it. Get a hobby to keep yourself busy. I know one Army wife who is selling scrapbooks online she has her own website and she sells tshirts and scrapbooks. Try something like that and you will be occupied. She doesn't see her husband for a year at a time. They have a son around the same age as yours. It happens.

Answer 8

If it makes you feel any better, all men will not cheat when given the opportunity. When I was a lot younger, I met one in a hotel lounge who I encouraged, we went to his room, and he told me that he wasn't going to go through with it, because he loved his wife.

I think you feel isolated and lonely. Are there friends you could call? I read or rent movies when I am bored. I think you are lucky because I HAVE to work and would love to stay home. Try to think of the positive and not the negative.

Answer 9

From experience I know that it is difficult to stay home with the kids while while your husband is away....I was able to finish my degree online and went to work when my youngest entered kindergarten. If you are bored spend some time looking for activities.

Bottom line though, count your blessings, a lot of wives are dealing with 9 to 14 MONTH deployments. Three weeks is NOTHING!!!!

Answer 10

Have a best friend come visit you and keep you company when your husband is gone. If your husband has access to reach you by cell phone, you can visit relatives and friends and hang with them. You'll never get lonely and bored.

Or take your baby on a walk in a stroller and enjoy the outdoors. There are places you can take you and your baby to.

Stop stressing yourself with imaginings about your husband cheating. You just miss him.

Answer 11

My boy friend just left for two weeks to Hong Kong. This is the first time in our relationship that we've been apart. I can totally understand the hell we face when we are without the ones we love. I'm sorry I cant put myself in your shoes, I only wish you the best for you and your son. That as time goes on you will begin to see the time go by quicker. Take care!