My boyfriend overheard 2 women talking at the deli counter (I was not with him) One was talking about not being able to get enough work, in the particular area I am hiring in. OK. so, my problem here is this, we have a new home phone. He said he didn't remember the number, which is conceiveable (I don't) although I have had him tell it to me before when I had to give it to someone. He does however know my cell phone number. But her gave her HIS cell phone number. Is this an issue? I am asking you, because I need an unbiased opinion, because I am aware I have a jealous nature. When stems partially from past expierences. But he also knows, or should know I would be uncomfortable with this. We are supposed to get married in 2 months. I don't like him giving his number to some other woman. Even if it was supposed to be for my buisness. But, he did tell me about it. Give me your opinions please. Thanks everyone
2007-09-15 23:24:06 · 8 answers · asked by OhWell (Kiss my cute furry feet) 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know I already asked this question, but I only got one response so I added the "please help", so that I might get some answers. This is important to me.
2007-09-15 23:26:29 · update #1
He told you didn't he
2007-09-15 23:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by person22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he told you so it's not like he was trying to cheat on you. It's entirely probable that he gave her the number because 1) it was the first one he remembered & 2) he didn't want people calling your home at all hours.
If there is a reason from your past that you shouldn't trust him, then maybe you should rethink marrying him. If not, then just trust him. Either way I really do suggest that you go to a therapist that specializes in couples. This is only going to get worse as time goes by & it's not going to go away. It's possible that he may leave you because you are too jealous or you could sabotage your relationship this way.
2007-09-16 06:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on a mo' - this is NOT a serious issue on its own. Unless this is part of a pattern, then I believe you are over-reacting. Don't get me wrong; being jealous is a normal human emotion but you are taking it too far. If your boyfriend had any ulterior motive when he gave this woman his phone number, then he would not have told you about her. Period!
If this IS part of an ongoing pattern then you MAY have some cause for concern, but if it's an isolated incident, then clearly your reaction is unwarranted. In that case, I would respectfully suggest that you pay some attention to curbing your excessive jealousy and possessiveness if you want to have a long and happy marriage.
2007-09-16 06:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by Rolande de Haye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is un fair to judge him by what happened to you in the past. You can not help the way you feel ( feelings are responses to past experiences) but you do have control over the way you react. If you trust him and want his help with your business, then you have to put aside your insecurities. Judge him only on his record. If you don't, you will eventually chase him away. If he were up to no good, he would not have told you about the encounter, right? If his giving out his number really bothers you, set down the rules so that you both know how to act in the future. It sounds like he was really trying to help you. If you continue to doubt his motives, he will eventually doubt how wise it is to be in a relationship with you. Sounds like you might owe him an apology. Print up some business cards with your contact numbers on them so that he can hand them out next time.
2007-09-16 06:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by territizzyb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend has given you reason to not trust him in the past, then NO this is not appropriate. If it is an issue that YOU have regarding trust - nothing to do with his prior behavior, then let it go.
Maybe he just could not recall your home phone number at the time?
If you feel you cannot trust this man - DO NOT DO NOT DO NOT marry him.....been there, done that.
2007-09-16 06:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by audacious440 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are worried for nothing. He simply gave out the wrong number. That's what it sounds like to me anyway. He told you about it. There is your 'clue' that it is ok! Don't worry about it. Best of luck with your business.
2007-09-16 06:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by what u talkin' bout? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you may be over-reacting and are being a little jealous but im sure if you tell him not to do it again, he wont. :) Dont worry, if he told you that he gave them his number then i wouldnt give it a second thought.
2007-09-16 06:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by raggy91 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he told you about it, what's the problem?
Your tendency to jealousy is going to give you problems in the future if you don't do something about it.
2007-09-16 06:32:53 · answer #8 · answered by 2kool4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋