Okay, so I know this girl who sent a somewhat offensive and hurtful email to her best friends and including her boyfriend. The girl was going through a tough time. She and his boyfriend were constantly arguing and she didn't have anyone to turn to since her best friends were in a different country. She said sarcastic things like "yea, you're the best friends ever that's why you don't know what i'm going through right now. you're never there"... etc. When she finally calmed down, she realized what she did and sent another email apologizing for the first email.
Now, was it reasonable that she blew out like that? Should her friends forgive her? Or do her friends have a reason to get mad at her and potentially not ever talk to her again?
Thanks.
2007-09-15 22:41:31 · 17 answers · asked by cookiemonster75 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well.. thanks for the answers everyone.
btw, im actually the girl who sent that dumb email.
apparently, my friends are still mad at me even when they say they're not. all i see and hear from them is "i've moved on", "i dont miss you", constant awkwardness, they keep avoiding and ignoring me...
so yea.. it sucks. i dont know what to do.
2007-09-16 06:26:24 · update #1
Well, she already said she was sorry, what more do they want - blood? Some people make mistakes and need to blow off some steam. If they are friends they would forgive her without question - this is so minor.
2007-09-15 22:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by lordmisrule2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is what friends are for! A real friend will accept faults as well as the good. If friends can't blow off a little steam to one another than what good are they? Just know that is how she expresses herself and don't take offense so easily next time. Cause I'm sure it will happen again! It is better to forgive than not. Just be prepared.
2007-09-16 05:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider that a minor blowup consider what I've done. If her friends understand she's going through a bad time they'll forgive and forget. That's what people do. Seems to have bothered you more then anything. If you're worried she'll do that to you, probably will, but take it all in stride, but if she crosses a line and says something totally uncalled for or just plain cruel, rethink it all.
2007-09-16 05:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by Shel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her friends may have reason to be offended, but there was most likely some truth in what she said. Yes..her friends should forgive her. And she and her friends should all think about the meaning of being a true friend. I hope they work it all out.
2007-09-16 05:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by OhWell (Kiss my cute furry feet) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well people say stupid things all the time I would say provided she didn't get downright nasty and disown anybody. This one is forgivable. She is on her own and probably feeling a little vaunerable so she lashed out at the people she loves like we all do our familys, friends, boyfriends, husbands, wifes etc. Because it is so easy because they are there not usually because we mean it because we know they will understand and forgive us. So good luck to all of you.
2007-09-16 05:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by Darkchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all make mistakes and we all have bad days! I would say forgive her and move on and still be her Friend but if the attitude continues I would suggest that she might need some mental help.
2007-09-16 05:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by m g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are real friends, then her friends should understand and take it that she is going through a rough time. obviously your friend has always though this, and the fact her b/f has hurt her, she needs to blow off a little steam. unfortunately she vented her anger to the wrong people.
you never know, thi might bring her closer to her friends that are away, they might show more interest in her life now
2007-09-16 05:47:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask this question as though she has control over the way she feels or can change what she did. She did what she did and if her friends want to forgive her its really up to them.
2007-09-16 05:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by neverdugdisco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as you said she was going through a rough time,. so you want to punish her for the rest of her life for one silly mistake? if her friends cant forgive her then it means they where never her friends because freinds are supposed to be there for you through thick and thin.,,,,
2007-09-16 05:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by bubbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive her, no telling how whatever she was going through was tearing her apart. If she's not like that on a regular basis then give her a break
2007-09-16 05:47:39 · answer #10 · answered by charmed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋