I am hurting quite a lot. My boyfriend ended our relationship 6 months ago, the break up was really painful for me and while I was trying to move on, he always stopped me by telling me that it's too harsh to cut all contact and that we could loose each other for good. In this case I didn't cut any contact with him and was communicating with him and I even met him a month ago. He told me that he is too scared of loosing me if we stop all contact and that all chances for us to get back together in the future could be spoiled. About 3 weeks ago I sat down and sent him an email saying good bye and he wrote back. The emails were very loving and very kind but a few days later he called me telling me it was too hard. But now he is not communicating with me, I tried to call him so many times and sent so many messages but he said we need to move on for now and stick to our decisions. I am so hurt over this because I feel like he is the one now who cut it all with me. I am so hurt, what can I do
2007-09-14 23:48:53 · 21 answers · asked by Elisa N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am sorry you are hurting
do you have friends who know about all this?
try staying around your fav people for a while, dont go after him, if he wants you he will find you, you have to do whats right for you.
1. if it hurts, it isnt love.
2. whatever doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.
if you give in to your pain, it will have a hold on you in your future relationships.
think of fun for a while not love
2007-09-14 23:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by Humza 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He played you it sounds like. He wanted to see if you really care about him & then he walked away leaving you wanting more. How very clever & How very cruel... I left a girl once and we would tell each other we loved one another very much, but I was still a boy not quite a man... I didn't respect her truly (even though I thought I did)... When I came back to her 5 months later- she had npthing at all to say to me. I had disrespected her and that was it!!! I had to learn & am learning some very hard lessons abput respect & love... because she was strong enough to not put up with my crap. This guy will come back, especially if you are looking good & are happy, then he'll want right back in. Don't let him. Get on with your life. Do what makes you happy.
He can't go around doing what he did to you, cuz he'll do it to others. This guy has no respect. Stay away from him.
2007-09-18 09:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so wrong. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. He is using you. He ended the relationship not you. So why is he saying we could still get back together nd dangling thecarrot at you? He just wants to keep you on the side while he has fun but retain the option of coming back to you whenever he feels like it. I know you are sad and hurting but really you have to end it with him. You will never be able to move on if he is always still around. Cut the ties and move on. Erase his number from your phone. Many years from know you could meet him and not feel a thing but right now it will hurt you too much. Trust me this guy is not worth it. No one is. Right now it all hurts too much. But you know, if it is love, it's not meant to hurt. It's easy for people like me to write advice but you are the one going through this. I know things will work out for you. In time you'll find someone who will love you back. This idiot is not worth a moment of your time and does not deserve you.
2007-09-15 00:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more you think about it, the ore you get hurt and this may affect you emotionally. The truth is, this man still loves you but is confused over what happened. Just stay cool and imagine him having travelled abroad where there is no network and he will surely return. Dont forget this - ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER. If you keep quiet as well, he will miss you deeply and start calling back. He has another woman who cannot match your qualities and thats why he doesnt want to lose you. Be calm
2007-09-14 23:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody likes to be the one rejected. It goes against our grain. But is REALLY time to move on. This relationship has no other ending. You can replay it and then replay it again and the ending is still going to be the same. It is over and done and all that is left is that eventually he will meet someone else (or already has) and you are still going to have the same ending. It is very painful, but you must learn to rethink your days. You are living the same one every day, and they all revolve around him. He is really not there anymore and you need to make better choices for yourself. Bless you.
2007-09-15 00:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by ganna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As painful as it is it sounds you need to move on, he is being selfish and only thinking of himself and now has decided its too hard to see you so bye!! You need to just forget him and get on with your life. My boyfriend of 2 yrs dumped me for ne reason and I was devasted but with the help off friends I started to get over him, I was even close to having a new fella after a few months, you have to accept the fact when the other person decides it is over. My boyfriend saw sense and we are now back together and even live together so see what happens.... Good luck, I know it is hard but chin up.
2007-09-14 23:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is you need to let go and move on. Trying to hold on will only cause you more pain in the end
Have a few girly nights with some friends. find a new hobbie keep busy to keep your mind off stuff.
2007-09-14 23:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by bitsy_pixie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it hurts. He should be man enough to make up his mind what he wants. At present he is using you. He probably has another relationship on the go and is keeping you around as someone nice and familiar to have as a substitute if the new relationship goes wrong.
Even if not, he is using you. It's up to you if you want to stick around and be treated this way. I'd say change your phone number and forget him.
2007-09-15 03:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by proud walker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you dont want to hear this, but, move on. Let him go. This is tearing you up emotionally and that isnt good. If there is a chance of getting back with him, give it time. But dont wait for something that may never happen.
2007-09-14 23:58:07 · answer #9 · answered by snowbirdbabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some times men play this game were they get the girl back and then dump her to punish her for what she did to them. Believe me this is true. Try and move on and keep your pride. Do not go back begging as he will hurt you more. I know its easy for me to say but be strong. Good luck.
2007-09-14 23:57:41 · answer #10 · answered by Charles Athole M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋