My ex and I got back togeather during the summer for two months. We have a child in common. She moved in with me then month later broke up with me. I was nice about it and left to let her stay in the house and I went some where else. Since then she has spent alot of time at the residence i'm at now instead of the one I let her stay at.
When asked what she want its bi-polar. I love you don't give up on me, next I just wont your friend ship. She has walled up all of her emotions, tells me its hard for her to talk to me in person. She loves to talk and text on cell phone (i guess she feels she is in control when on phone)
I think she has someone else but hasnt gone public with it, how do you deal with this. I either want space to get over her or work on things. So how do you approach this with some one so flakey.
2007-09-14 03:34:24 · 9 answers · asked by LymeLizzard 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Insist that if she wants any kind of relationship with you that she see a doctor. If she is truly bi-polar they can put her on meds that will help her and then she can make a good choice on what she really wants. You will benefit from this also of course.
2007-09-14 03:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess the fact is that the two of you have a bond together with the child. you will always have this bond, for life. you obviously still love her or you would not have moved to somewhere else and let her stay. and she obviously still has feelings for you as she is basically following you.
she sounds very insecure and uncertain of this relationship so my advise to you is communication and honesty. sit down and tell her how you feel. you are obviously a good father so reassure her you will still be around for the parenting bit. but you both need to sort out the relationship between you both. you never know she might open up to you. us females are strange like that!!
one way or the other you will know deep down what to do after that. .......think you already do.
good luck
2007-09-14 10:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by mmcf89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep seeing her BUT get a lawyer sort out the kids and sort out the property/money, then when all of that is concrete finalise the relationship.
I bet if you blow her out by saying you have a date with some one you really like, it will focus her mind. Of course you have to be a man and risk this dysfunctional relationship ending. I can't see whats in it for you after all if you love someone you strive to make them happy and encourage them to be the best they can be. You sound like your enabling her craziness.
While she has you on a string nothing will change.
END IT or put in ground rules. It could be that she is just looking for the man in you or at least someone she can respect. If you can't respect the person you are with it makes you feel bad about yourself and you get into a vicious spiral of bad behaviour.
2007-09-14 06:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK be brave and reduce the contact that you have together so that it is only about your child,by giving your self this head space you will be able to see her behaviour from a more objective point of view (its too hard to see whats in front of you when your too close)you suspect their is someone else so she maybe using you as a safety net and that's very unfair and slightly cruel,have space and then see how she reacts and how you feel after your space,what ever happens i wish you luck.xx
2007-09-14 04:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by Redmuppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like it is time for you to do exactly what I have to do. YOU make the call on what you want. She is toying with your emotions! Stand up, say enough is enough and move on! Life is too damn short to let people cause you so much emotional pain. I have been in the same boat and I am done with it! Good luck!
2007-09-14 03:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by ~Carolyn~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you waiting for her to make a final choice. It is very obvious that she is playing with you because she does not what she wants.
Be a big biy. You decide what you want and adjust the situation to siut. Stop being this woman's toy.
2007-09-14 03:43:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it is time for you both to move on with your lives and for her to stop coming around to your place. There is no sense in trying to figure out what she wants...she flips flops back at forth...and besides you think that she has someone else.
2007-09-14 03:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A clean break, with an arangement to see your kid.
Make her move out & stand on her own two feet.
It's the kick up the @r$e she needs.
DO IT.
2007-09-14 11:11:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit focusing on this psycho-woman, and get a lawyer,so you can protect your child.
2007-09-14 04:55:43 · answer #9 · answered by Tiss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋