Just so you can have a better view of things....My husbands ex, cheated on him and got pregnant by another guy as a result. My husband and his ex have 3 kids together and she is now married to the person she had cheated on him with. She is constantly posting false information on a website that can be viewed by anyone in her friends list incl. her kids. She has threatened my husband several times, and is now telling me I shouldn't be a parent, I should re-thing having a child from him a.s.o.... I know this is childsplay and that in retrofect she is jealous that her ex has found happyness with me and that she is no longer "in control" of his life, but after dealing with this for years now I am sick of it. How can I get her to stop the drama? Help!
2007-09-14 03:39:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, he can sue her for defamation of character for the false information she posts. He could even get custody of the children because of that. She is psychologically damaging those children by doing that. She doesn't sound like she's getting mother of the year award. I can only imagine what she has actually told those children. I say, teach her a lesson in life, let her know what she can't get away with and sue her. It's probably the ONLY way she will ever see what's right or wrong.
2007-09-14 04:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is funny. I guess Mean girls never stop no matter what. It kind of ruins my hopes of once I am married all this crap stops but I was wrong apparently. First I would talk to your husband and see if you could "all be adults" and have a sit down together. If this just won't work then I agree with the court order. If you wanted you could play her games and try to get her where it would hurt her but that would go on forever and probably do more harm then good. So yea try to talk like adults and if that doesn't work COURT ORDER
2007-09-14 10:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay away from her. You cannot control her behavior or change who she is.
All you can really do is be the best step mom you can be. Realize that this woman will be a part of your life forever. You are married to the father of 3 of her children. You cannot even defend yourself. That will make you look even worse.
Do your best to ignore her little games. If you do not react to it she will grow tried of it and hopefully move on to someone else. You need to be the bigger person.
Good luck!
2007-09-14 10:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get copies of all false information she has posted about you.
file a lawsuit against her for defamation of character (or something similar to that)
file a restraining order against her.
that should make her get the message
Good Luck.
2007-09-14 10:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by Dimitar A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say she has three kids. Find some dirt on her and blackmail her.
If she continues, destroy.
Make sure the punishment fits the crime. Do it only out of self defense, never out of malice - ond only to the point whereas the offending behavior has stopped.
She, like anyone else, will leave you alone once they realize you can destroy their life at will.
2007-09-14 10:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by White Tornado 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just ignore her
sounds like she wants attention
as long as you and your husband are happy i wouldnt worry about her..as far as the kids go...just give them all the love in the world--they will soon be able to make up their own minds of what kind of person you really are..and their mother for that matter..
kids are not "dumb" they will know what is going on
2007-09-14 10:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by Mindy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't, plain and simple. All that you can change is how you allow it to effect you. She is renting space in your head and you need to evict her by recognizing that she is sick and has mental health issues. You are responsible for the change. Serenity Prayer may help.
2007-09-14 11:01:38 · answer #7 · answered by diamondbullet66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this woman sounds more like a girl...depending on where she has this information posted you can contact the webmaster and tell them and have it removed...it sounds like myspace...you should really contact them...i feel sorry for her kids, no one deserves a mother like her. (too bad you don't need to get a license to become a parent, huh!) Good luck...eventually she WILL grow up...
2007-09-14 10:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by ~kim~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not read anything she posts and not give her the satisfaction of any type of reaction. She is making a fool of herself and why be a party to that?!
2007-09-14 10:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore all of it, but document it. Contact an attorney and file a restaining order against her.
2007-09-14 10:43:52 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋