I think there is something wrong with my younger brother (He's 11). Whenever something small is wrong(like he doesn't get the remote when I'm watching TV), he will go into a psychopath like tantrum. During the tantrum, he will scream and yell and sometimes even hit people. This includes my grandma and parents. This happens almost every day. Also, pretty much can't hit him back. Because if i do, he will try to "kill" me. That means when he hits me, he'll aim for the neck and stomach. How do i get this stop for good? Also, he will not eat anything except frozen baked chicken breast dinners and lunchables. His eating habits are really unhealthy. How do i get this to stop?
2007-09-14
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i think there is something wrong with my younger brother (He's 11). Whenever something small is wrong(like he doesn't get the remote when I'm watching TV), he will go into a psychopath like tantrum. During the tantrum, he will scream and yell and sometimes even hit people. This includes my grandma and parents. This happens almost every day. Also, pretty much can't hit him back. Because if i do, he will try to "kill" me. That means when he hits me, he'll aim for the neck and stomach. Once that happens, its him versus everyone. thats when he hits ANYONE. then my parents threaten to call the police. this happens on a rare occasion, like every 2-3 months. How do i get this stop for good? Also, he will not eat anything except frozen baked chicken breast dinners and lunchables. His eating habits are really unhealthy. How do i get this to stop?
2007-09-14
04:27:35 ·
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First ...This is not your problem, it is your parents problem. They need to do whatever is necessary to help fix this out of control behavior.
Everyone will slap me down on this one ... but....
The lunch-ables have tons of preservatives in them and your brother more than likely has a severe allergic reaction to one, two or all the preservatives.
Side effects are :
Obsessing over the product that causes the allergic reaction (it's like getting high on crack)
Anger outburst.
Ears flair red and eyes go glassy.
2007-09-14 04:51:23
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answered by Dionannan 5
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If he behaves the way you say he does, he is already out of control and has the whole family afraid of him.
This is not normal, and it is only the beginning, if something isn't done about it.
But it is common enough that lot of schools offer or at least can refer your parents to special parenting classes for children like this. In many cases this can be handled by the parents without getting therapy, but not always.
I also recommend calling the police whenever he becomes violent. And if he does anything else illegal (leaving the house without permission, skipping school, etc.) the authorities should be called also. This is not a bad thing to do; if you consistently call the police, if he doesn't get better, he will receive help through the court system. Of course the police are busy, so you may have to be persistent.
It can be very helpful also to call the school counselor; they can offer quite a bit of help.
This is not your responsibility, it is your parents'. You can actually call the police of course, but you don't have parental authority over your brother. You can talk to your parents about these options.
I wish you and your brother the best. He is young so there is more hope than if you wait.
2007-09-14 04:53:24
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answered by The First Dragon 7
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A doctor may suggest a therapist. His nutritional habits are bad. Maybe he can be given Mineral Rich and the Little Angel vitamin C and the Vita Sprouts.
Maybe his sleeping habits are bad also. He should be going to bed about the same time nightly and get up about the same time daily. He would need to see a sleep therapist for this, who will monitor and work on the waking and sleeping times for him.
He may feel starved for attention and acts out and is getting way to much attention. There can be a time for everyone to receive some quality time and when it is someone else's time the parent or group therapist should look at him and say it is now someone else's time. If he can not respect this at home then he should be sent to his room.
There shouldn't be any dangerous items in his room. No metal and heavy things that he can throw. He can have books and he should have proper reading material and puzzles. Maybe a CD player with a volume control that is fixed to where he can't raise the volume.
He shouldn't spend way to much time in the room that does away with him having proper attention and he will act out more. If he isn't checked on regularly he could be going out the window and getting into all kinds of mayhem. Maybe a new window that is not so wide that he can get out.
Good luck
2007-09-14 05:13:24
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answered by Pepsi 4
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This is not your responsibility to deal with. Your parents are responsible for his behavior. His tantrums may be triggered by a chemical imbalance or it may just be that he was never properly disciplined. His unhealthy diet may be the cause. If all he eats are frozen and pre-packaged meals, they're full of chemicals and preservatives that he may be allergic to. The allergy may be causing his acting out. It sounds like he needs to be evaluated by a doctor. The police will not be able to help him. They may be able to quiet the situation at the time but he will continue to suffer.
This needs adult intervention and your parents need to take an active part in seeking a solution. If he is allowed to go on like this without getting help what will his adult life be like? If he contiues to lash out at people he may not live long enough to reach his adult life because eventually he'll run up on someone who won't tolerate his behavior and will hit back. That's not something you want to happen.
Talk to your parents, suggest that he be taken for a complete physical and that the doctor be told about his tantrums. They should ask about food allergies. It may also be helpful to talk to a nutritionist to try to find ways to make food more appealing to him so he'll eat a healthier diet. If the frozen dinners are not offered he'll have no alternative but to eat what's there for him. Don't let your family be a victim to the actions of an 11 year old child. He needs help and your parents need to take an active part in finding that help.
2007-09-14 04:54:15
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answered by innerradiancecoaching 6
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His diet can affect his behavior Sometime the additives in food like msg and other thing can cause really emotional reactions Your brother is acting like a out of controll child and needs to be taught the right way to behave and to share If you watch nanny 911 some of these methods could be used to help your brother Have your parents take your brother to a doctor for a check up Have them make him eat the proper foods The doctor can analyze if your brother problem is phycical mental or food allergies If it is none of the above Your parents need to spend more time teaching your brothers the right behavior
2007-09-14 04:34:25
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answered by chameleon 5
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It sounds like there are several possibilities.
1. Your brother is a spoiled brat bully and you should beat the crap out of him, no holds barred and put him in his rightful place
2. Your brother has a mental or chemical problem and needs to be counseled and medicated, or even committed
3. Your brother has anger management and coping skills problems and need to see a counselor
4. Your brother has a problem he is not able to discuss or handle on his own and needs counseling to help bring it to the surface in an acceptable manner.
As far as the eating situation...either stop buying the chicken and the lunch-ables and provide him with healthy alternatives or stock up on what he'll eat. With regards to the food, I think he's just a spoiled little brat who needs to learn to eat whatever the family is having for dinner.
2007-09-14 04:30:54
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answered by Loves the Ponies 6
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It's the lunchables. That salty fat saturated meat would turn any healthy boy into a crazed animal. I remember watching my brother turn from an honor student into a lunchable hungry psychopath. But it's not his fault; they're delicious. I'm guessing he's already killed your parents and stolen their wallets for frozen dinners and lunchables so telling them would do no good.
Sorry to tell you this, but you're a dead man. Once a man-beast-child gets a lunchable addiction he as good as gone. So forget that your older, and should be able to teach him physically or through manipulation, just run away. Run!!!
2007-09-14 04:30:02
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answered by konchovilla 1
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Go to your parents and tell them to do something now about him.
If he's not just acting out because of his diet, and that alone I don't understand why your parents are continuing to allow this, then he is chemically unbalanced and needs to see a Doctor first, then I'm sure he'll be referred to see a psychiatrist so that medication can be prescribed if necessary and the need to find out about his behaviour and how everyone in the house can handle it.
You need to have your parents read this web site and it you can't, stay on them untill they get him to the doctors.
Tell your parents it's starting to affect you so much, you can't take it anymore, if they try and blow it off, tell them you don't want to have to say I told you so after he goes after them with a knife or burns the house down with all of you in it.
(I think that will give them something to sleep on and finally get them to do something)
Good luck to you and STAY on your PARENTS about this ok?
2007-09-14 05:20:55
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answered by Anonymous
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I think you should not feel responsible to stop this. It is a bigger problem than you can handle by yourself. Your family needs to go to counselling to help your brother. He obviously has anger issues that need immediate attention. You need to get your parents to take action and arrange to go as a family to counselling. It could be problems specifically with your brother's mental state, but it also could be triggered by something in the family and how you act with each other.
2007-09-14 04:26:14
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answered by Anonymous
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He sounds like a spoiled brat! Take him out behind the woodshed and paddle his little behind! I darn sure wouldn't let him hit me! And if he didn't eat what was fixed for meals he wouldn't eat! By giving into him you are only reinforcing his poor behavior! Stop giving into him stand your ground!
2007-09-14 04:39:08
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answered by bluebonnets1952 5
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