Parenting - December 2006

I was wondering how different parents approach this issue. As for me....my little one is 15 months old, I can ususally tell when she is just simply throwing a fit or needs something (food, changing etc...etc...). She doesn't act up too often, but when she does first I offer her something to distract her with (like my keys). Then if she is still acting out I just look at her seriously and say "mommy doesn't like your attitude right now." and then I simply ignore her until she is calm again. It seems to work quite well.

2006-12-01 12:08:11 · 11 answers · asked by Easter Bunny 4

Ok here's my problem my ex got me pregnant than broke up with me. He was extremly controlling and emotionally abusive. When he kicked me out of his house he told me he never wanted to have anything to do with me or the baby ever. Now after she's been born his parents have tried to contact me but not once during the pregnancy. Also in that time I met a great guy who adoupted her and is her father in every sense of the word. Do I have to let them see her is there any way I can tell them that right now I just want to let her have her little family instead of introducing so many problems. and honestly the only member of his family that ever really treated me good was his father. but its hard since my ex lives with his father also. I just don't want to have anything to do with that family for the time being. I feel I have to protect my child. Any suggestions?

2006-12-01 11:59:01 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was in a huge shopping center today and along with screaming kids, kids fighting with each other and one even grabbed another woman's butt I started kind of panicking. Then to make matters worse, someone came on the intercom saying that someone had lost they're one year old child. This is my first pregnancy and I'm five weeks along, any advice on how to not stress myself out so much? I keep thinking I'm going to be a horrible parent or what if I lose my one year old one day??? Ahhhhh....

2006-12-01 11:53:28 · 9 answers · asked by ~*~A~*~ 3

2006-12-01 11:45:44 · 11 answers · asked by cabincatred 2

I was going over some other questions from other people and came across one. It was about long-term breastfeeding. I'm not going to name any names, but there was a woman who said her daughter is almost 4 and still breastfeeding. What do you think about that? Breastfeeding a child who's old enough to attend school? Does anyone else find that a bit wrong?

2006-12-01 11:44:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

okay so i don't gaurentee i will marry this guy but the thought has begun to cross my mind. the thing is i already have a child. i know he wants children being that he has none and i do want more. however i have no education or training in any feild i just have a GED. he has a high school diploma and is a carpenter so he is no always gaurenteed work at all times. going back to school is not an option. if we do get married how will we be able to afford babies? i know we could afford the baby once it came but how could we afford the pregnancy and delivery? have you ever been in the same situation??? i have a while to think about it but its been weighing on my mind a bit.

2006-12-01 11:40:13 · 3 answers · asked by 1 Hott Mami 4

last night i caught my seven year old in the bathroom trying to light one of my cigarettes. after i ripped into him i sent him to his room. i kept hearing him cry and i went in there and asked what was wrong , he said, "i just wanted to be like you dad". OMG, i left the room and went to the garage and bawled like a baby. now i know crying is not a manly thing to do, but when your son says he wants to be like his dad it will bring any grown man to his knees. how should i feel.

2006-12-01 11:02:24 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

.....when your child doesn't land the starring role in the school nativity?

I am, just a weeny bit. I KNOW it really doesn't matter, and I KNOW it's the taking part that's important. But I always have a fleeting moment of indignation when he's cast as third tree from the back again.

Not alone, am I?

2006-12-01 10:17:18 · 33 answers · asked by Hello Dave 6

2006-12-01 10:07:27 · 10 answers · asked by anggeo1983 1

Little kids watch TV even in their SUV's Why can't parents deal with their children like they used to. instead talking or singing with them they are always popping in a video?

Plus I know a bunch of you are going to say you don't do it. But we all know you do The Childrens video industry is a multi billion doller industry and it did not get that way without the majority of parents helping out

2006-12-01 10:05:23 · 12 answers · asked by keith s 5

My son is getting better by telling me that he pooped instead if denying it like always, but he sits on it, but refuses to poop or pee on it. I ask him if he has to go and never. What is the strongest and easiest way to go about this. I know I should wait till he is 2 1/2 and wait till his 8 month old sister is older. He pulls up his pants in the front, butt shows no effort to pull them up all the way. He is a very good boy, and I don't get mad with him or show him that I am mad, but I am just getting frustated with 2 yr old girls going potty before he does. What are the steps and way to go about this. Should I use cloth diapers?

2006-12-01 09:51:21 · 13 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5

I need advice on night time toilet training my 4 yr old son?
I am having some issues with getting my son to get up in the night and use the bathroom. He sleeps so soundly that he will wet the bed and not wake up. He will be 5 in March.
HE is big for his age, and very very smart. I try to explain to him that he needs to get up when he feels like he is going to go pee, and use the potty (it is across the hall from his room). I leave the bathroom light on and a light in the hallway on also.
I have been trying waking himi up at night to go potty, and it works pretty well, but then I am tired from waking up every 2 or 3 hours to take him to the bathroom...
I have also tried setting an alarm in his room to go off every 3 hours to wake him up so he goes on his own with no luck.
I have him wearing pull ups at night because we dont have a washer and dryer in our home yet, and doing laundry every day was getting to be a bit too much for me...
any advice???

2006-12-01 09:30:31 · 11 answers · asked by melaniecampbell 3

Over the past few months here in the state of Michigan there have been atleast two seperate cases where children have been adopted only to be brutally murdered or beaten.
One little boy was killed by his foster parents. Just today I was reading the paper and it said twin 8 year old girls were beaten with exercise ropes, burned with cigarettes and severly beaten. Don't they have people that are supposed to come out to the house and check on these children when they are placed inside of these homes. Why do these monsters even adopt children only to do this to them?? I love children and it breaks my heart to see this. Can someone please explain this to me??

2006-12-01 09:22:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I mean, what's the point of that? You bathe them before bed then they go to sleep, they wake up and get bathed again? I somehow don't see how a child gets dirty enough to be bathed again overnight while sleeping. Can someone enlighten me here?

2006-12-01 09:04:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

It seems like people on here expect or need to fit into a generalization or stereotype.

If you don’t lean 100% left or right people claim you “contradict” yourself.. Has American society gotten that far where we belief everyone can fit into a generalization? Do you judge a parenting style when you just hear one parenting skill of theirs? Don’t you think there is a median somewhere between issues such as spanking, breastfeeding, attachment parenting, and discipline? What generalizations or stereotypes do you feel you fit into? If you could explain to someone your point on any parenting issue that you are normally judged about, what would you say?

I feel even in parenting we have to take these generalizations to the highest degree--to the point where you can only be one certain way.

The lists goes on and on. I truly think it’s sad, as parents, that we cannot all get along. That even though we may not agree, we are all doing what we feel is best for OUR families and OUR children.

I hope this makes sense!

2006-12-01 08:41:03 · 3 answers · asked by .vato. 6

Anyone have any suggestions, We are not wealthy and cannot afford to pay an agency. However our greatest desire is to have a child to raise as our own. We cannot have children but could give a child a lot of love and a pretty good life.

Where should we start?

2006-12-01 08:31:14 · 6 answers · asked by ? 2

It was 5 years before they were born, and he has been "rehabilatated". The kids are not allowed to see him, but he still sends Christmas presents and Birthdays presents. Should I send them back becuase I don't let him see the kids, or let the kids keep the presents because they are not mine to send back?

2006-12-01 08:30:41 · 12 answers · asked by Lesley C 3

Does anyone know what kind of compensation the birthmother gets in adoption, I noticed that people trying to adopt pay alot but does the money go to the birthmother to help with things or does the birthmother just give them the child and the money goes to the agency?

2006-12-01 08:09:53 · 9 answers · asked by Tanya W 2

Our next door neighbor and the people across the street are related. They are always having get togethers. (with even more relatives) So they have a lot of kids running back and forth across the street. I don't live on a busy street but there are always cars going way too fast down the street. Also our bedroom window faces the street and they let there kids play until it's really late. Last week my husband were trying to sleep around midnight and little kids were playing in the street. I don't know where the moms were but the dads were standing on the curb drinking. Am I the only one who sees something wrong with this? Little kids playing in the street at midnight?

2006-12-01 07:35:29 · 31 answers · asked by emily 2

2006-12-01 07:30:52 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am attempting to get a job with the police department as a dispatcher, but the job has really odd hours. 6 days on, 3 days off and rotating between days (7-3) and evenings (3-11). I'll need child care for my kids, but I'm not sure what will avalible with this kind of flexibility. Any other parents with this type of problem? How did you handle it?

2006-12-01 07:27:02 · 7 answers · asked by tabithap 4

Bathtime is my sons favorite, but whenever I go to rinse his hair its all over. Is there something that you can buy to prevent his eyes from water getting to them? I have tried tilting his head back but he won't have it. He also dosen't enjoy the washcloth over the eyes technique either. Thanks ahead of time for helpful ideas

2006-12-01 07:23:05 · 11 answers · asked by Tracy T 1

I have an awesome 4.5 year old son from a previous relationship. My boyfriend has been around for my son since he was 2. They adore each other, and my son thinks the world of my bf, and my bf thinks of my son as his son. Now, I am pregnant with my second child (the first with my boyfriend). I am worried that my boyfriend will love the new baby more than he loves "our" son... or in a different way, or will give the baby more attention or preferential treatment... is anyone else in this situation, or have they been? I'd appreciate some advice!

2006-12-01 07:05:03 · 5 answers · asked by melaniecampbell 3

Trying to get my 12 month old to say something more than dada and momma. What are good starter words that will be easy for him to learn.

2006-12-01 06:55:13 · 15 answers · asked by Tracy T 1

We have 2 boys and were looking into Gender Selection for our next (2 yrs from now) to have a girl. Does anyone know the cost, procedure, or any other information on it???

I don't really want to hear "you shouldn't play god" or " why would you want to do that" I am not looking to be criticised I just need some info:)

2006-12-01 06:46:25 · 5 answers · asked by mommy of 3 boys 3

does anybody have a child who goes to nursery? mine is 2years and im going back to work full time so she will be in nursery full time... do think this is fair on my child, do you think shell hate me? or will she get disturbed mentally thinking ive abadoned her?

2006-12-01 06:38:34 · 15 answers · asked by raj n 2

I hae been a daycare provider for over 5 years and I have kept the same rate for all my children most if not all of the children I have in my care have been coming since they were only a few months old and are now preschool age. I don't want to have to raise my rates but I need to so I have been thinking of going about it in a different way. I was thinking insteed of raising them I would have them pay a flat rate every week even if there day falls on a holiday and I am closed. Right now when we are closed for holidays I lose alot of money what do you think I should do?

2006-12-01 06:20:46 · 6 answers · asked by BabyDolll128 3

It is December and time is winding down to shop. My stepdaughter is 18 and does not live with us because she moved out after we refused to accept her dropping out of high school. She will call or come around when she needs something, but other than that, she is jumping from relative to older friends. What should we get her for Christmas? My friend suggested a certificate for the cost of her taking her GED, but I want other responses. Let me say that she left her/our home because of our #1 rule (stay in school). We are good parents and we all have a good relationship, she just doesn’t want to go to school or work. We constantly tell her that she always has an open door for her return. We've offered to pay for the GED before, and college, if she wants. We also pay for other necessary items, even though she’s gone. The GED certificate is a friend's suggestion. I need more opinions on what and how much to spend at Christmas for her.

2006-12-01 05:24:55 · 15 answers · asked by downinmn 5

Where I'm from that ain't really a big thing but why

2006-12-01 04:54:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My stepson and his wife have decided it's up to their children as to whether or not they will be homeschooled.

Fair enough, if you're talking about teens, but the kids are both under 6 (and, with few social skills)!

Oh, by the way, neither parent have any experience teaching, much less any degrees or certifications.

It's killing me keeping my mouth shut, so I am sounding off here, and would like to see what others think.

So, do you think a kid that young has ANY business deciding what sort of education is best for him? Am I nuts, or what?

2006-12-01 04:39:48 · 34 answers · asked by silvercomet 6