Come on now parents, aren't you just the tiniest little bit put out....?

Question

.....when your child doesn't land the starring role in the school nativity?

I am, just a weeny bit. I KNOW it really doesn't matter, and I KNOW it's the taking part that's important. But I always have a fleeting moment of indignation when he's cast as third tree from the back again.

Not alone, am I?

Id - lol, you are a total prat. Merry Christmas to you.

Oh dear, I didn't mean to start a fight. I just wanted to illuminate how us Mum's all think our kids are the bees knees at everything. As indeed we should do.

Answer 1

Yes, absolutely. I can never understand why the teacher can't see that my child is the obvious choice. Furthermore, isn't it annoying when you have to be all congratulatory to the smug parent of the star of the show? I'm lucky in that I have a like-minded sister and we can safely mutter about how the "star" stumbled over their lines and has that weird twitch....

Answer 2

I think all us moms do. We would all love to see our kids get the leading role mainly because we know they want it and they tried very hard. Im pretty sure its normal.. anyone who doesnt agree probably isnt a parent. I also think that as parents: we know without a doubt that our children are more talented than the kid who got the lead (as we should feel about our kids). I guess all we can do is make the most of it and help them to be the best darn third tree from the back EVER!!! :)

Merry Christmas and God Bless.

Answer 3

Always said I wouldn't be a 'Pushy Parent' but its creeping in and started to flow through these veins already.My sons coming up for three and I haven't had to experiance that....Yet!!!!
Already trying to get him noticed,like getting him a float for the local carnival and outdoing the other mothers by going to town on making the outfit.Never thought I would be like that but I think it happens to us all at one stage.Its could be a parent,being proud of our kid/s and wanting to show everybody else how great they are.One thing I will make sure though is that I never make him feel like hes not good enough or not done well,not matter what!!

Answer 4

I would be a little upset, but the only reason is because they are looking for someone who can read their lines a specific way and sound. Like I tried out for a school play awhile back and they were trying to get a girl for the lead role, but I looked older. I tried out for the role, but they said I didn't look how the girl would look like, I'm Italian and Spanish, but I got to play the girl's mother, and I was a b*tch to the girl. Even better. Children like to play the bad character or they don't want stress themselves to a max, and they let everyone done. i have short memory loss, and I remembered a whole play, so give your child the confidence to do everything he can.

I remember I was in a play in 3 grade and this girl was away and she threw a tantrum about she couldn't be in the play and then ended iup as the lead paper doll, I was upset, but I got over it.

Answer 5

Well being 7 months pregnant, I find it hard to picture my child to grow up as anything less than perfect but I probably will get a shock. You can't be best at everything.

Teachers always have favourites too. I remember the girl that always got the lead in my primary school. Her mum was on the PTA and her dad was on the school board. Coincidence?

My sister got the lead in her nursery when we were little and I remember being dead jealous as I was always an angel with an unconvincing tinsel halo - wasn't as bad as the sheperds with the tea-towels though. Adults were so cruel.

Answer 6

I'd love my kids to be put into these kind of roles, but I have to live with the growing feeling of nausea that when up on stage and it comes to the lines they have to say, that they remember them. For knowing my kids, if they forget them, well I'm praying to the fake baby in the manger that they don't say "oh @rsewhole's, Miss what comes next", as I caught my youngest saying to me when someone cut me up in the car last week....
Don't know where they get the swear word's from, I blame the wife...

Answer 7

no, you are not alone! We want our kids to be the best; it somehow reflects on our abilities as a parent. We want to be proud of them - and whether we like it or not, we are trying to get over our own childhood disappointments through our children!
I was in a couple of plays at school - it was a convent school, and the nuns had their favuorites - the girls who got picked for everything. I was once picked to play a spanish dancer as part of a line up of international dancers; I was so proud. I so badly wanted my mum and dad to come and watch that play. They did, on the last night of it. That's what I remember - that my parents came to see the show - not that i had a very lowly part!
Be very proud of him and his tiny part in the play - it probably does not matter to him at all!

Answer 8

Yes! My son in the nursery production is a Shepherd which is good ;D but my daughter is only a star in the school production, I put it down to being an infant production and she is only in reception so the older kids are probably the better parts!

Answer 9

No you are not alone!!
I think my daughter is the most talented 8 yr old ever, and I get totally miffed when she isn't cast a starring role.....and I get even more p.issed off when they give them to the children of the bloody PTA.....bunch of bitchy, snotty mothers!!!!

And relax Mand..........

R.E Gothat and Michelle B.....FYI, I am a full time Head Chef, I spend at least 12 hours of my day off my A.ss and on my feet (and thats just at work)when I have time I actually do spend some time at school getting the kids to cook..I wasn't generalising ALL PTA, just the ones at my kids school...touch a nerve did I????

Answer 10

They are not allowed to do the nativity here, its goes against the whole sepeartion of church and state thing. But if we could do it and my son wasnt picked then I wouldnt care, he would rather be something small anyway than the staring role too much stress to put on a child