okay so i don't gaurentee i will marry this guy but the thought has begun to cross my mind. the thing is i already have a child. i know he wants children being that he has none and i do want more. however i have no education or training in any feild i just have a GED. he has a high school diploma and is a carpenter so he is no always gaurenteed work at all times. going back to school is not an option. if we do get married how will we be able to afford babies? i know we could afford the baby once it came but how could we afford the pregnancy and delivery? have you ever been in the same situation??? i have a while to think about it but its been weighing on my mind a bit.
2006-12-01 11:40:13 · 3 answers · asked by 1 Hott Mami 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Demonstrate that each of you can save money. When each of you is out of debt (only a house/apartment payment) and $2,000 in the bank, then both of you may have the discipline to handle a marriage financially.
Paying for the prenatal, delivery, and postnatal expenses will be a minimum of $5,000 and a maximum of $10,000,000.
You said he wants children, but you didn't say he loves you and you love him. Is this marriage going to be one of convenience?
Marriages fail because of several reasons: lack of enough money to provide what each feels he/she MUST have; problems with in-laws; different religions; different races; different cultures; inability to resolve conflicts without (verbally/physically) attacking the other person; wanting the other person to make changes in his/her life, etc.
Now, be sure your marriage isn't destined to fail.
2006-12-01 11:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by tom_terrific73 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't understand how it is you think that you can't afford a pregnancy and delivery but you can afford the baby when it gets here????
I know that for me it became more of expensive when my daughter came into this world. But anyway as far as your pregnancy and delivery there is always Medicaid that you can apply for while you are pregnant and that will pay for the doctor visits and such.
And as far as you saying that you wouldn't go back to school then you should not complain that you have no money. If you are not willing to do what it takes to better a life for your self and your child now and potentially children on the way then you got what you deserve. And what kind of role model are you?
I think that you should better your life and the one child's life that you already have before making a commitment to care for any one else and that does mean marrying this man.
Good Luck.
2006-12-01 21:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by Mellisa C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is a carpender too and all's i have is a GED and we have three kids and it is very hard to make it.its winter and he is out of work, i have never had a job cuz my first was born when i was 18. and with no help its very hard. i wish you the best.
2006-12-01 19:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋