does anybody have a child who goes to nursery? mine is 2years and im going back to work full time so she will be in nursery full time... do think this is fair on my child, do you think shell hate me? or will she get disturbed mentally thinking ive abadoned her?
2006-12-01 06:38:34 · 15 answers · asked by raj n 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Many kids are in daycare. Your daughter will be fine, don't worry!!
2006-12-01 06:42:13 · answer #1 · answered by JS 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
You have been their for the first two years of her life- the most formative years and seen and contributed to her first milestones and education. Their are certain things a child can learn from nursery that she may not get at home- social interactions, introductions to new adult role models, people from other cultures/ with disabilities, they will discover the need to share and begin to form their first friendships- all really positive experiences that your child will get from being in a new situation. It's always nerve racking- I would suggest you make an unplanned visit to the nursery if possible to check it out, so they can;t tidy up for you and make sure they are doing something cool- even if it is a big chain nursery you have heard good things about, you still need to check out your branch- it could be quite different from what you have heard.
You will generally get a daily report from the nursery detailing what your child has been doing, when and how long she has napped and what she has eaten, so you won't feel completely shut out from her life.
Also it might mean that you are able to put aside an hour or so at the w/e for real quality time with her, some parents may be always with their kids and yet do very little with them, while others may work full time and have a much closer relationship with their kid- it's about the energy you put in as much as the time you have.
You are also providing her with a positive role model of a woman who can earn her own way in the world, and is able to go out to work and have a career.
Research your child care options carefully and go on gut instinct once you have checked out their qualifications- it''s just as important in relationships- as you and your child will have an important relationship with your child care provider. e as positive as you can in front of your child about this new phase in your lives and she will approach it positively. She may cry when you leave her, but children usually adapt quickly and she will stop and be having fun very often within minutes of you leaving!
2006-12-01 07:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by emily_jane2379 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Do you have to go back to work full-time? Is this an absolute need or are you just trying to maintain a lifestyle you've grown accustomed to?
I always wonder why people have kids and then don't want to raise them? Do you really think that a daycare worker is going to love your child like you do? Are you that disposable that you think you can be replaced in your daughter's eyes?
I know this is a counter-cultural opinion, so I'm sure many will take offense. But truly, if you feel good about doing this - why are you asking the question?
BTW- I am so sick of people being selfish with their kids - tossing them about to fit their every whim and simply rationalizing by saying, "They'll be fine!" Is that what you want - your child to be "fine" with anyone else but you?
2006-12-01 06:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by pinkee 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Young children (despite what people say) NEED their parents (especially mothers!) BUT saying that - if you can't afford to be without work - then what other option do you have - your child will have to go to day care?
Personally if I was in your position I would send my child to a registered childminder as they will more than likely have their own children and will be able to spend more time with your child as they won't have so many kids to look after!
I am a qualified nursery nurse who was a nanny for 4.5 years before having my own children and as I said above I personally would put my child with a child-minder (who is different to a nanny)
A child minder should be registered with your local authority and her house would have had to have passed certain tests - they are also police checked! A nanny comes to your house - doesn't have to be registered (which is ludicrous) nor police checked unless you do it yourself!
2006-12-01 09:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by Home_educator 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is easier on kids if your introduce them to daycare situations are an earlier age. My kids really benefit out of daycare because they do lots of really creative projects and have great experiences. There are days when the kids just don't want to go. The best way to deal with those days is to try to get the teachers to engage them in some activity right away. You should cut and run and not hang around worrying about the kids. They are usually fine after you leave.
For those of you who have the attitude of 'Daycare is bad. I don't want somebody else to raise my kids. I'll do it myself,'... What do you do when the kid is old enough for kindergarden or 1st grade? You are turning them over to the school system to 'raise them' and teach them? You have to educate your kids sometime. It's a matter of doing it when they are younger or older.
2006-12-01 07:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by BAM 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Your child won't hate you. She won't be pleased the first few days, but the hardest part will be the day she runs up to her new friends and doesn't even look back! She won't think you abandoned her, she'll learn that mommy always comes back and that it's okay to be around other people. Her social skills will improve and you'll see a more outgoing little girl!
Do your research and find a great facility that makes you feel comfortable. You will both cry that first day, but it will get easier. Be sure to continue to spend quality one-on-one time with her every day.
2006-12-01 06:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by eli_star 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
My daughter was in daycare from 6 weeks to 10 years, then was in the before-and-after school program from 10 yrs to 12 yrs. She has turned out fine, does not hate me, even says she wants me to live with her when I am old and feeble, and is not mentally disturbed. You are not abandoning her; she will be with someone !!! Did you not think about this before getting pregnant? How many people do you know who were in day care? Ask them how they turned out?
2006-12-01 06:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Daycare is great for children. It helps build their social skills and independence no end. It also gives them a good grounding for when they start school. Your daughter might feel a bit out of place for the first few days because it will all be new to her, but after the first week she'll be dragging you there!
2006-12-01 06:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by L D 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
No, I don't think this is fair on your child. Sorry if that offends you, but I believe people shouldn't have children if they aren't prepared to look after them. She won't hate you, by the way, but she will get the lesson that she is less important to you than work/money and that will affect her self-esteem.
2006-12-01 07:01:40 · answer #9 · answered by Older&Wiser 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would try to find a good nanny with lots of recommendations. I was in the daycare field for 14 yrs altogether...get your baby out.
2006-12-01 06:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
your child will be fine. All except for one child in my daycare loves to come to daycare. I have had parents who tell me that there child wanted to go to daycare on a weekend. Sorry the mommy said daycare is closed. Daycare is great for kids if you find the right one. At my daycare we do alot of fun activitys and we incorporate alot of learning. Play is also very imprortant for a 2 year old. Believe me your child won't hate you.
2006-12-01 06:45:47 · answer #11 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋