Parenting - April 2007

My husband and I have just found out, by accident, that we are having a girl.

He has a son from a previous relationship, and was kind of hoping for a boy this time. I think it has more to do with the fact that he knows what to expect with a boy - having been there before.

Anyway, he kind of feels strange about having a girl. He says he doesn't know what to do with a girl. I think he feels awkward about the diaper changes etc....

Is that an odd/unusual reaction?

He's a wonderful dad to his son and I know he will be a fantastic father to our daughter, but I think he feels awkward about certain aspects of the whole baby girl thing.

He's the type of person who exercises alot of respect and discretion when it comes to women. He won't even come into the bathroom if I'm having a tinkle because he just thinks it's disrespectful.

Any comments?

Any suggestions on how to put his mind at ease?

I think overall he's mainly nervous of unfamiliar territory.

Thanks!

2007-04-30 23:38:14 · 15 answers · asked by person 2

I have three kids, two in school, and a 17 month old daughter. Between the three of them I feel like I'm sucked dry... not to mention the draining relationship I have with Dad. I need HELP!

2007-04-30 19:21:12 · 10 answers · asked by all fired up! 2

-they know that I won't let them preach to my kids so they 'show' my kids with their actions and lifestyle how 'the right way to live' is
-they tell my kids what they 'should, must and ought' to do
-they are fear based and caution my children and cause them to second guess themselves
-they dismiss my chilrens feeling and opinions (and sometimes their precence)
-they are perfectionists and don't let my kid make mistakes without making them feel bad or guilty (again with the 'shoulds and oughts')
-they are really fun and apporving to my kids, and then when my kids do something that crosses their personal opinion, they withdraw the approval and act shocked and give disapproval


-When I ask them to stop, they get upset with me and blame me for raising my kids in a way that I will 'have consequenes'. According to them my 7 year old already has signs of teenage rebellion. My kids are happy, imaginative, do well in school, very well behaved and have great manners.

2007-04-30 17:29:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-30 17:27:54 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have searched the internet it seems like there is no harm in them. They are 9 and 7.

2007-04-30 16:13:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-30 16:10:07 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-30 14:33:45 · 13 answers · asked by StandUp 1

Yall tell me!
Do you think hitting a child will teach them a lesson?

I think that it's wrong, and disrespectful.
Shows that you have no class, what so ever.
And you can't talk to your child and handle things out.

Parents, please find another way for punishment!
Hitting is plain stupid, and gets you no where.

As a child, when my parents hit me, I thought me nothing.
When they took time to speak to me, I learned.

2007-04-30 14:13:00 · 16 answers · asked by jEfFeRsOnAiRpLaNe 3

do kids have to wear socks with crocs because my kids do not wear socks they either wear sneakers and no socks sandals or go BAREFOOT do they make them for boys and do your kids wear them with or without socks

2007-04-30 13:56:16 · 12 answers · asked by get it 1

is it a problem for my kids to wear water shoes to the mall the movies pro basketball games because i let my kids go to a pro basketball game yesterday in their water shoes why do so many people look at my kids weird because my kids hate socks and will not wear them I KNOW THIS IS THE SECOND QUESTION BUT I NEED WHAT I SHOULD DO. PLEASE TELL ME IF YOU ALLOW YOUR KIDS TO WEAR WATER SHOES OUT IN STORES

2007-04-30 13:46:15 · 9 answers · asked by get it 1

and was speaking of a mothers protection of her young. Mentioned to him that if there were no jobs, and my kids were starving i would choose the last resort and sell my body to put food on the table to feed my kids (was setting the situation of after a war or something).....he was horrified........what would you do........
remember the last resort and there was no means of money from anywhere else to buy food.

2007-04-30 12:38:52 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well, My older brother told me to ask, incase its a waste of time even going, can my 14 year old brother get into a R rated movie they are going to see in a few days with my 23 year old brotheR?

Thanks

2007-04-30 12:19:21 · 12 answers · asked by jessica_allo 1

My friend is married to a man. She had been in a relationship previously before meeting and marrying this man, and she had a child. Well she marries her now husband. Her husband knew she had the child, and treated him as if he was his. They then had a son together. Now all of a sudden the first son is an issue to him.

He complains that the father of the other son doesn't pay child support (even though the father takes him everyday while they are at work so they don't have to pay for daycare for him, as well as takes him for every other weekend; he feeds his son two of the three meals during each day he watches him; he has his own clothes at dad's house, etc.).

The entire thing (her not getting child support from the father of her first son) is an issue that has caused one fight after another. Her husband has now threatened to leave unless she collects support from her ex. What should she do?

2007-04-30 11:07:53 · 9 answers · asked by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7

My cousin resently just had her 8th child. She and her husband have agreed they want, at the very lest, 10 to 12. They saiy they would be happier with like 20. I'm worried that they won't be able to suport all of them. So how many is too many?

2007-04-30 09:55:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend has said several things that show me that he has a very jaded and close-minded view of how women should act, and I'm afraid that will spill over into how he wants to raise a daughter. For example, we went by the cute store in the mall, Libby Lu, where kids get to dress up and then perform a dance in the mall. He said he never wants his little girl to go there b/c it promotes being a sl*t by wearing make-up and putting on clothes that look like Brittany Spears. I dissagree. I loved playing dress up when I was little and I didn't turn out to be a sl*t. I understand his thought process behind that, but I don't think its right. How should I talk to him and is it possible to change his views on this? I haven't brought this topic up with him yet b/c its still a pretty new relationship, but if we do stay together, this could cause a lot of problems for us in the future. Any suggestions?

2007-04-30 09:46:14 · 8 answers · asked by playfulscorpio13 2

I have 2.A little girl and a boy.I'm 18.(In your answer,please add your age!)

2007-04-30 09:21:37 · 47 answers · asked by --------------------------- 2

2007-04-30 09:07:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Not a big fan myself, but looking for something healthier than fish sticks or shrimp scampi for them to get the omega3's.

Not a big tunafish sandwich fan myself - so wont be making that. Looking for other suggestions of what we could try. Such as a milder one - thats not so "fishy"

2007-04-30 09:02:00 · 10 answers · asked by lillilou 7

2007-04-30 08:51:46 · 18 answers · asked by sneaky 1

whats on the dinner menu tonight for your kids??? I have not decided uyet for my kids(they are 9 yrs old and 15 months old)

2007-04-30 08:28:12 · 16 answers · asked by ♥Sexy Mama of 2 cuties♥ 7

For my sons birthday I have ellected to make cupcakes for everyone and a duck shaped cake. There will be approx 40 people at the party, so I was planning to make 50 cupcakes, plus the single cake for my son to mash up (it's his first b-day). I will not be able to bake and decorate them on location and I will have to trasnport them in our van, about a 30-45 min drive. Does anyone have any advice how to do this without spending a fortune on cupcake holder things, or know where I can get a huge holder for a somewhat reasonable price? Please help, im stressing this and would love to have a plan ahead of time. Thanks for your help!

2007-04-30 07:41:30 · 8 answers · asked by cait5156 3

My 3-year-old daughter gets rebuffed from some of her other 3-year-old friends because she likes to give them a hug. Is it wrong that my daughter likes to show affection and why are the other kids so freaked out and un-affectionate? It's not like she does it all the time -- maybe just one hug when she sees a friend. I think affection is a good trait. Am I being blind to something? I've talked to her about how some people need their space and some don't like hugs from other kids -- but I feel like I'm squashing her little loving spirit. I've even told her that if she really needs a hug that her mom and dad will happily take her hugs! Help!

2007-04-30 06:53:46 · 13 answers · asked by jjeffcott 2

I just feel like I would be a horrible parent. I have no patience, not even for myself sometimes. I don't want to be tied down because of kids, I want to travel and just live/enjoy life for myself. Is that so wrong? My friends tell me I'm just selfish and superficial.

2007-04-30 06:44:52 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

possibly out in public, to a stranger, or whatever. I just wanna hear funny stories.

2007-04-30 06:17:52 · 12 answers · asked by myusernameisbetterthanyours 5

With more and more demands placed on mothers to get more done and children to progress faster in all areas of development. The playpen, if being looked at as a potential negative factor. Some refer to it as a "holding tank" for kids and if used could stunt the development of a child.

Many moms say they simply can't live without it. It makes doing dishes, etc easier. Others say, it's one of the worst things you can do for your kids and you've got to find a way around using them.

What is your opinion? Are playpens as bad as TV for kids under age 2?

If you do not use playpens, what do you do to keep your child involved? Do you have a play stove, etc for them to play with while you do dishes?

2007-04-30 05:49:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

my daughter fell off a scooter at school friday and now has a badly broken arm the school took over an hour to get in contact about it as they said it didnt look serious they have since told me there was only 1 t a to look after 2 classes oh my daughter is only 4 is this right and what should i do now?

2007-04-30 04:37:51 · 35 answers · asked by debbietmt 1

I mean seriously people, when it gets to the point that you can't hear what the priest is saying, take them out of church!!!! Some people have no clue!

2007-04-30 04:19:36 · 30 answers · asked by Elizabeth M 2

is it right that you can have children then be told you have to raise them someone elses way.Baning it just cause some people abuse it by beating there kids.Should we ban sex,drinking,eating because people abuse that to just wondering peoples oppinions on the subject thank you

2007-04-30 04:15:18 · 18 answers · asked by noot 3

my 16 month old daughter is always taking her diaper off is it too soon to start potty training?

2007-04-30 04:11:22 · 10 answers · asked by jessyray209 2

I am going to re ask this question, I have a 12 year old who in the last year has gone from honor roll student with straight S's in behaivor to a C-D student with all U's for behaivor. He lies, sneaks, steals, and is disrespectful towards me. I have grounded taking away his favirot things like the TV and playstation which are locked up in my room and also took his dirt bike away. I take him to church not by force but because he asked to go and he cuts up and laughs during Sunday school and chruch basically what he does in school. I cant seem to get it threw his head that this isint proper behaivor for a young man, He has a great life and a very supportive family and his behaivor has me concerned. He is also ADHD which I feel at 12 there is no need for meds because at this age he should no right from wrong. Can any one give me some good advice not negative on how to get him on the straight and norrow? Thank you

2007-04-30 03:47:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous