Parenting - August 2007

why does the 1st born child get blamed for EVERYTHING
why is 2nd born child always the most loved (or it seems)?
why is the 1st born most likely to be a strong leader and stubborn?
why do parents always go harder on the 1st born?

2007-08-31 16:42:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070831192354AAoJJ8I this was their answer This teaches you a lesson, you had a choice to be succesful and you blew it, know you brought two kids into this world who arent going to be treated like a REAL American should be treated (wealthy) and they will probably be poor and then more poor people will raise my moms, and dads taxes so I DONT GET THE STUFF I WANT so STOP HAVING SEX YOU POOR PERSON BECAUSE POOR PEOPLE RAISES MY PARENTS TAXES AND I DONT GET WHAT I WANT.
Wow- My husband works full time, makes fifty grand, and is in the military, 2 years ago while he was deployed our then 4 mo old almost died, he had to come home on leave and it took months to figure out why she could not stop vomiting and then once she was fine he went back, unfortunately the money we received during that time we obviously have to pay back hence hundreds a mo out of our check, after that, insurance and taxes we are pretty out of luck. we bring home under 30k

2007-08-31 16:30:46 · 12 answers · asked by mommy to be of 3 3

I did an activity with young kids where we used oreo cookies and candy worms (edible dirt and worms). I can't remember what other ingredent we used. Help?Keep it simple.

2007-08-31 12:39:53 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Isn't this notion of "just let the baby cry" an insensitive, lazy approach to parenting?

2007-08-31 08:58:54 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

She thinks that when her hair fell out, she looked like a boy but was too ill to care. Its starting to grow back now, but is very thin and quite short. She feels it looks like a boys haircut. All she wants now is look girly again, and thinks hair extensions and earrings would do it. As she pointed out, she never cried when she was being put on her chemo drip or having bloodwork, so she's sure she can handle getting her ears pierced
Normally, I would consider extensions and earrings strictly out of bounds for a 7 year old, but if her self image is affecting her confidence, then it is going to affect her ability to make friends, be part of a group, & to fit in, and I’m worried it may have long term effects. Also, after everything she has been through, and with all the courage and determination she has shown, I’m starting to think “You want hair extensions, we’ll go to the hairdresser, you want your ears done, we’ll ask the doctor if your immune sysem is up to it."
What do you think?

2007-08-31 08:31:35 · 48 answers · asked by Kelly 1

I have a 3 year-old who I suspect is autistic, due his lack of vocabulary, and some odd behaviors, like clapping his hands in frustration, extreme hyperactivity, covering his ears and echolia. He is on the waiting list right now to be diagnosed. He's been in speech for over a year now to no avail. What were the signs and symptoms that your kids displayed or did display? Did they develop normally and then regress or did they start behind and stay behind. I am interested in knowing how life has been for your kids i school and coping with everyday life. I'm so worried that when I am no longer here my son won't be able to care for himself. Also I am 31 weeks pregnant and I was wandering if you had multiple children with autism, however I am divorced so my children donot have the same father.

2007-08-31 08:09:20 · 5 answers · asked by mimi 3

Not sure if i'm making up for my own childhood or what and i am a bit of a complsive shopper but there is too much now. So when is a lot too much for you?

2007-08-31 07:53:27 · 31 answers · asked by Part Time Cynic 7

My 4 year old believes that eating spaghetti is the secret to being able to produce spiderman webs. Pasta is not one of his favorite dishes.

2007-08-31 07:46:29 · 18 answers · asked by Foxymona 2

2007-08-31 07:33:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am ---I love it, it's hard and worth living in a smaller house, and right now no car but I wouldn't trade it in for the world..my kids don't go for want and are happy and content. I'd hate to miss all the joys and sorrows.

2007-08-31 07:20:54 · 31 answers · asked by Yummy♥Mummy 6

2007-08-31 06:14:02 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a stay at home mother of a 5 month old. i decided to stay at home and raise my kids instead of putting them off on a babysitter, and i have read about attachment parenting, and applied some of it to my daily life with her. she is very well behaved and rarely cries, but i have so many friends that have jobs outside the house, they complain how hard it is to have children. oh my children behave so badly and oh my children are so jealous of eachother they fight when i am home. now i do not find being a parent difficult at all, i have noticed the parents that work outside the home tend to have misbehaving kids, and they are the parents that complain about parenting being so hard. they are never with their kids so how is it so hard for them? and maybe if they didnt work all the time to get away from them they wouldnt act out to get the attention of the parent. i understand single parents with no choice but to work. but ones who have the choice, has anyone noticed the difference in kids

2007-08-31 05:18:37 · 20 answers · asked by ? 3

I hate to tell her so young but she said she just wants to know the truth, my hubbie says no she is too young but my sister says yes she has worked it out already. what should i do and does anyone have any tips for breaking it gently or for keeping the magic up a bit longer???? please help.

2007-08-31 05:12:25 · 49 answers · asked by book girl 3

Recently my husband and I had a long talk about spanking and agreed that we would no longer use spanking as a form of punishment for our children. We have, in the past, spanked our 3 year old and gave the in-laws(husbands parents) permission to spank him if necessary when he stayed over or they watched him for us. They themselves are adament believers in spanking. Now that we have made this decision, how do we go about telling the grandparents to no longer spank him?

2007-08-31 05:07:06 · 17 answers · asked by iamhis0 6

On children to grow up quickly ? i mean all of thesse celebraty magazines encouraging children to be thin, having your ears pirced and this and thast seems to be making the children enjoy thier childhood less what do you think? It seems to me that they just dont get to be children anymore

2007-08-31 04:38:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

i just found out that my step son (9 years old) was molested by someone in his mothers family. he is now in counceling for it and seems to have a really bad attitude about life. i have never known anyone this has happened to and i am very confused about the whole thing because a friend told me that children that have been molested do it to other children. Well I have a son his age , and the boys share a room when my step son is there. and we also have a newborn daughter. i am very worried but i don't know how to approach my husband about it because i don't want him to get mad and i don't want to upset anyone. is this true that children that have been molested do it to other children? this is not to accuse or offend anyone, i just need answers. should i seperate the boys from sleeping in the same room together? help?

2007-08-31 02:56:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I answered a question the other day where somebody asked what age boys get interested in girls. I answered and said that my son, who is age 16, would much rather go fishing than chase girls and that I was GLAD OF THAT. You wouldn't believe the number of "thumbs down" that I got!! What the heck? LOL And no, he is not gay. He just has his priorities in order. Why would somebody find that offensive?

2007-08-31 02:44:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have never had trouble asking my parents about sex and I have been open with them since I found out at age 9. I was wondering why teenagers AND parents have trouble discussing it since it is healthy and natural part of life and marriage. I had a question previously asked today because my firends' parents never did give them the talk. We had 3 years of sex ed and they are still clueless. I just wanted to know why there is a problem about discussing it.

2007-08-31 02:40:33 · 8 answers · asked by Okay.... 3

My youngest is now 4, and it's been over a year since I've breastfed, but I heard re-lactation is very possible, and I've always produced plenty of milk. I really want to breastfeed my foster son (aged 3 months) to assist nutrition and bonding. Are yeast pills and high dairy likely to produce milk, or is it more complicated than that? Any advice welcome.

2007-08-31 00:43:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend and I have a 5 month old son and in my opinion he doesn't do as much as he can for him. We don't live together but he lives right around the corner from me not even a mile. He does come over but when he does he doesn't really help he may hold him but is quick to give him up to my mother or sister. Most of the time he falls asleep, watches tv or get's on the computer, sometimes while holding the baby. I do EVERYTHING though, he is not a bad person but I don't understand this. When I tried to talk to him about it on the phone he said he didn't want to talk about it then and that he would call me back he also said his battery was low...lie i know. I really can't take it anymore. What do u think? Also I had asked him would he break up with me if I filed child support on him and he said he didn't want to talk about it but that there would be conflict. He doesn't buy him anything and asks sometimes if he needs something. he gives me some money when he gets paid but not enough.

2007-08-30 10:51:20 · 29 answers · asked by Lil.Mans.Ma07 2

I gave my son a PS3 for getting all A's on his grades. Ever since then, I only began to realize how much I wanted the PS3 for myself. It has amazing graphics and it's just so cool. I use to just play it while my son was at his camp but then I realized I could just keep it. I lied to my son telling him that the PS3 is broken and I'm sending it into repair, when I actually have it in my room (I play it at night when everyone is sleeping). It's so cool and I don't want to ever give it back to him. What's a good lie I can use so I can keep it?

2007-08-30 10:45:03 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-30 10:29:18 · 42 answers · asked by sweetpea 4

I AM A 23 YR OLD SINGLE MOM... CAN U GUYS TELL ME SOME WAYS I CAN TEACH MY 4YR OLD SON TO BE MASCULINE I AM NOTICING HE IS VERY FEMININE ((BECUZ HES ALWAYS AROUND WOMEN n GIRLS)) HIS DAD IS NOT INVOLVED SO HE ONLY HAS FEMALES TO LOOK TO 4 GUIDANCE! HES SENSITIVE N CARING n ITS GOOD BUT....

HOW CAN I TEACH HIM TO BE TOUGH BRAVE AND ROUGH LIKE A....BOY!!?

2007-08-30 10:02:54 · 19 answers · asked by SEXY CRML 3

2007-08-30 09:51:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a sign on my door to please take off your shoes before entering my home. I have an enclosed porch with a runner that I vacuum & a rug to put your shoes on. They NEVER take their shoes off! I have a baby I put on the floor to play, plus I've recently spent a lot of money have my carpet & furniture professionally cleaned! I also feel as if there is no respect in regards to the way I am raising my 3 1/2 year old and 3 month old. My father actually laughs at me because I research the saftey of products ie... car seats, beds, etc, plus use positive parenting and not using foul language around them or even just words I don't feel are appropriate. He says, me and my siblings turned out just fine, so I must just be over protective. They even went so far to arrange to do something special with him, but would not tell me what until they got here to pick him up. They took him 2 hours away. I feel they did that for fear I wouldn't let him go. There is so much more, that's just some.

2007-08-30 09:49:58 · 49 answers · asked by dravensmama1216 1

2007-08-30 09:23:06 · 13 answers · asked by Lonely Turkey 4

iv 3 children a close member of our family died who was 16 and i dont no if to take them there age 9, 10 and11my 11 wants to go his dad said yes but no to the other 2 there nan says they should say there good byes what should i do i dont want any more upset for anyone as my children loved who died so much

2007-08-30 09:00:28 · 57 answers · asked by shon 3

I started dating a man that was 50 when I was only 17. Jerry had been married twice & older kids and a few younger ones. I like the time we spent together and he paid a lot of attention to me. I've had a few bf's in high school, always went to the dances and such, but I like my time with the older guy better than the guys my age. I've kept this from my parents because of the age difference. When I turned 18 I decided I want to finally have sex for the 1st time. I told Jerry I wanted to do this on my 18th birthday. Of course he was happy. I went & bought some lingerie & the night of my bday, Jerry & I made love all night. I loved it, however I did get pregnant even though we used protection. I am graduated from HS & on my way to junior college. Jerry offered to help with the costs for me. Will people think less of me for doing this with a man that old? when the baby is born will it be healthy? Jerry also passed a kidney stone before we conceived the baby, thus will the baby get them?

2007-08-30 08:56:43 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do I nicely tell my friends not to bring their nannies along with their child for my 2 - yr old daughter's birthday party in my invite ( which I'm sending through sms)? .... Please anyone suggest me how to word it nicely so that I don't sound cheap or anything because the thing I don't mothers coming but not nannies.

2007-08-30 08:22:38 · 19 answers · asked by Kriz S 1

I may sound like all "new moms" but I really want to be the best mom I can be. I want to do so many thing with my little one but I'm afraid that she maybe to young. I read to her now but i'm wondering what I can do to make us closer and to be sure she is "average or above average" regarding development. Is that dumb? I just want to make sure she's up to date wtih all her developmental goals, she's not overweight and is constantly stimulated. My dad use to read to me ALOT when I was young and I've always loved to read as I got older. I hope to do the same with her. I just dont want to miss or forget anything.
I'm planning to take her to the botanical garden because, she like to look at the trees when we're outside..lol I know I probably sound like a crazy new mom but, I just dont want to make mistakes or regret not doing something. I want us to be close and education is vital. Any suggestions on toys, entertainment or activities that might be good for us?

2007-08-30 07:52:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous