I answered a question the other day where somebody asked what age boys get interested in girls. I answered and said that my son, who is age 16, would much rather go fishing than chase girls and that I was GLAD OF THAT. You wouldn't believe the number of "thumbs down" that I got!! What the heck? LOL And no, he is not gay. He just has his priorities in order. Why would somebody find that offensive?
2007-08-31 02:44:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just take a chill pill, Kristeena!! LOL
2007-09-02 05:45:25 · update #1
I'm guessing that people gave you a thumbs down because they felt that your answer was wrong (I'm not saying it was obviously your own experience cant be wrong). But because the answer to when boys usually become interested in girls is not after 16 they didnt feel that your answer was helpful or correct.
Dumb I know but I'm guessing that is why that happened.
2007-08-31 07:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by ! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smart kid.
When I was in my teens, I was similar to your son. I had some guy friends but was more interested in doing other things than having a boyfriend. All my sisters had boyfriends and it was always a question at the dinner table to me: "Sam, why do you find a nice boy like _____" Because I didn't care. I saw my friends cry and carry on about their boyfriends and I didn't quite understand why I needed one. Well here I am today, 35yrs old, happily married with 4 kids.
It's just the "thing" to do at your son's age. To be interested in girls, to have a girlfriend. The average age to be "going steady" with someone is 16 and has been for a very long time. But not EVERYONE has to follow whats popular for the age group. If your son doesn't have an interest in girls now, there will be a handful of people who think he should and a few who think he's gay. Just forget about them. Your son will be fine. He'll have plenty of years to chase girls around later in life. What's the rush? Enjoy fishing!
Best wishes =]
2007-08-31 03:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thank God for that is all I say! He's still a baby, girls are bad news and vice versa, haha. When I was 17 I only had guy friends and didn't care for dating or flirting. I was a tom-boy and played on the guys hockey team. I think that worried my parents. They told me one day that it's ok for me to date. I thought 'okay? and....' hahaha... I thought it was the dumbest thing because I knew that I could but why? To me all the guys I met were gross. I'm now 33 weeks with my first and deeply in love. lol. So my parents are pretty excited about it. They must have thought I was a lesbian or something. Some people just aren't reading it correctly I guess.
2007-08-31 05:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by Darling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why. It's rather stupid to thumbs down someone for saying what you did.
I hope and pray that my daughters aren't all tied up in boys when they are that age!
Whether he's gay or not is not an issue. The fact that he's not gonna come home tomorrow and say, "Hey, mom, I knocked up my girlfriend," IS.
I wasn't interested in boys when I was 16. I liked them, and dated, but, like your son, I had other priorities. Good for him!!
If he keeps on with that attitude he'll go far in his life.
**I'll fess up... MsIwantababy, I gave you a thumbs down because you had me right up to "They need Jesus". This isn't about religion, it's about morals and caring. It doesn't take Jesus to be moral or caring.
2007-08-31 04:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is two months away from being 16. Same as your son, he has casual friends at school who are girls, but no desire to date or even really hang out with girls. And yes, we as parents, are just fine with that, too. He does well at school, extra-curricular activities, involved at church, lots of family stuff, good friends -- but interests are in technical stuff, carpentry, electronics, etc.
Sad that anyone would find the thought of this 'offensive'. It's a guy just being a guy. He has lots of time to date... and we DO talk about everything with him, and how he feels about friends of his at schools who are dating, etc.
Happy as things are, for now....
2007-08-31 04:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you on this one. I wouldn't see why you would get a thumbs down...i'm sure your son likes girls but at 16 he should be in intershed in fishing...i'm sure durning fishing all the boys is talk about girls!
2007-08-31 02:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by Kristy Lynn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is taking his time there is no need to go after girls at a young age when he meets the right girl then things will happen but for now he is in no rush to get a girlfriend just like other guys.
2007-08-31 04:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the bunch of horny teens answerer. There are alot of middle school kids who are probably horny and judging a 16 year old boy for lack of interest.
don't worry about it. I pray my kids won't be interested in this stuff until after 16.
2007-08-31 02:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by Katie C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The morality of this world has gone down so much, it's literally disgusting.
I think your son is amazing and an example that rainsing our kids right does work. He's got his priorities in order and his head on straight. Some people just don't understand it. They need Jesus =)
Keep up the good work Mom!
2007-08-31 02:57:33 · answer #9 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
probably a bunch of horny teens.
my brother was the exact same way. hes not gay but just doesnt see the need for a woman right now and he is 27 now and has never dated
good for your son, he doesnt need a girlfriend hes still young. i hope my son is like that when hes that age
2007-08-31 02:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋