Why do teenagers have trouble talking to their parents about sex?

Question

I have never had trouble asking my parents about sex and I have been open with them since I found out at age 9. I was wondering why teenagers AND parents have trouble discussing it since it is healthy and natural part of life and marriage. I had a question previously asked today because my firends' parents never did give them the talk. We had 3 years of sex ed and they are still clueless. I just wanted to know why there is a problem about discussing it.

I mean sex in general. Not who they are having it with. I would not have to tell my parents because they know I am waiting until marriage.

Answer 1

i have tried to sit down and discuss sex with my 3 girls and all i ever get from them is eweee and gross mom ,they are not young either !! i try to raise the discussion about of birth control , unprotected sex , condoms , and STD's . i dont know what the problem is. my girls knew about their periods , sex , and male anatomy from about 9- 10 years old because i told them . but they really do not want me to tell them much but too bad i try to discuss this several times a year !!

Answer 2

There is such a sigma on sex and sexuality in today's society. It's seen as "wrong" and "dirty," but always front and center in TV, movies, and music. It's great to see that your parents were so open with you - it's a shame that everyone can't be that way. I think most parents just don't want to see their children grow up. They think talking about sex will lead to them having in, which in most cases, is completely wrong. Those who do not talk to the kids about sex have the children who end up pregnant and confused, whereas those who openly discuss sex and sexuality with their children have the kids who are responsible and take the neccessary steps to protect themselves.

Answer 3

I'm like you. I can talk to my mom about anything. I guess it really depends on the parents and the child relationship. If you aren't close to begin with, having a conversation about sex is too hard and/or embarrassing. Alot of parents say they want to know...but they really don't. Alot pretend to be clueless when they know better. Its sad really.

Answer 4

Because parents, esp. parents of girls, don't want to even THINK about their kids having sex. We all know it's gonna happen, but far too many would rather think "If I don't discuss it, it won't happen".
I've talked about age appropriate issues with my girls since they were old enough to notice that Mommy had hair where they didn't. I explained about how they would develop as they aged.

Answer 5

Apparently talking to parents is just to weird for kids. It wasn't me, I told my parents everything I did and we talked about everything. Have you ever thought of your parents having sex? Some kids think that isn't possible, but how do you think you got here, as for me, my sibiling told me I was found under a rock.

Answer 6

to the parents its embarrassing and in there families when they were growing up they were made to feel ashamed for asking these kinds of questions

teens are afraid of looking stupid for asking about it and are embarrassed to ask about sex

my mom was alway very open with us too

Answer 7

most people just feel like they're parents imght get mad if your young or they just feel uncomfortable and just want it to be between them and whoever they had it with. most young girls and boys just think its private and embarrassing to discuss.

Answer 8

For some kids it's just...awkward. Heck, my mom is a doctor and I still had issues asking her certain questions lol. It's not like my mom was never open to questions or to just telling me but, some things...I dunno, I guess it was just strange.