Parenting - August 2007

2007-08-03 00:53:05 · 27 answers · asked by 333-half-evil-333 5

My "son" is a little flitty, and I as a dad can't figure out what to do. He's 15 years old and gets picked on relentlessly by everyone in his class. I even had the principal call me in and tell me that he needs to stick up for himself. His mom and I took him to karate to build his self-confidence, but he came home in tears and refused to go back. Let me clarify: he ran home 5 miles in tears because he was too afraid of the other kids when they tried to hit him. As parents we are at the end of our rope. We are embarrassed to take him out because he is terrified of spiders, dark rooms, tattoos, and even G-rated animated Disney movies. He's never going to get a girlfriend (or boyfriend) at this rate, or even have a chance at a successful career. We have decided to sign him up for a survival course where he is put out into the wilderness, unsupervised, for 3 days with minimal supplies to see if he can "survive". Do you think this will work?

2007-08-03 00:05:06 · 18 answers · asked by rattwagon 4

I am a dad of 2 boys, and a foster parent of one baby girl (6 months, whom we have had since she was 1 month). Both of my boys were breastfeed for at least the first year of their lives. I have always supported my wife on this, and defended breastfeeding in general.


Here is the issue, my boys when they were babies really wanted nothing to do with me, lol. Well actually I was good for a few laughs, when they were in good moods, but I was not suitable to meet there needs. Meaning they enjoyed our play time, but if they got hurt, were hungry, or needed a change they preferred mommy. Everyone told me it's just a stage, and they will grow out of it, which they did, my oldest is 7 and is always wanting to be around me :)


Well when my daughter came along, naturally her being a foster child, we needed to use formula. I have done countless hours of feeding her. I must say, personally I have NEVER felt so much love from a baby! I mean she really knows me, and loves me.

2007-08-02 22:02:42 · 7 answers · asked by outdoor man 4

2007-08-02 20:22:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Seriously they have been home for less than half an hour and they are at each others throats like little vampires!
They are K(14~f) J(7~m) E(3~f)
What am i going to do?
HELP??

2007-08-02 19:04:33 · 11 answers · asked by *~Ariel Brigalow Moondust~* 6

I had my tubes tied 2 years ago after my son was born. I was going through a very hard time and decided to do this during a very stressful time. Now I am wondering if I made a mistake. I am blessed with the children that I have but am bothered that I will never be pregnant again. Does anyone have any experience with this?

2007-08-02 17:00:19 · 8 answers · asked by nicky 2

my two kids both sleep with me...3 & 2 years old...they have their own rooms but with no bed.. is that bad?

2007-08-02 16:32:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am going to be watching a child and the parents want my SSN to do a background check on me. I dont feel comfortable giving them my social. Is there any other way to do it? Can they just use my name and DOB?

2007-08-02 14:11:45 · 10 answers · asked by Sunshine 3

U have three they drive me insane they arer6,5,and3. I'm with them every day. I'm a stay at home mom

2007-08-02 14:00:20 · 14 answers · asked by Yolanda G 1

I was just wondering...after reading another question.

Personally, I don't and I would feel really awful if I did. I've known parents who are okay with their young kids [1-5 years] waking up at eight and watching TV until ten or even eleven when they wake up. For some reason I just don't understand this...

If you do sleep while your children are awake--do you ever feel bad or are you able to listen out if they get into trouble? Is there a reason [working graveyard shifts...] that you sleep or are you just a naturally sleepy person? I just don't understand.

If you don't, how do you feel about people who sleep while their kids are awake like I mentioned above.

Thanks!

2007-08-02 12:49:09 · 32 answers · asked by .vato. 6

my kids were acting up in the store today i was afraid and didnt know what to do should i spank them in public?if i shouldnt where can i spank them?out in the car?

2007-08-02 12:16:41 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you remember having to cry it out, how did you feel, do you hold resentment?
I have no memory whatsoever of ever having to CIO, i don't think my family did that with me but with my 3y/o we're beginning to do it (we have our reasons)
But it scares me and bothers me but at the same time, she is so so tired and wound up if i try to hold her or comfort her, she screams and runs of the front room wanting t.v or snacks (which she doesn't get) I'm enforcing bedtime the best i can by myself CIO is now my last option but i worry about what if any memory she'll have of it.
Parent's who did the whole CIO thing with your kids, did you find it worked/helpful and non traumatic?
Looking for serious and mature answers here
Thank you

2007-08-02 12:04:34 · 15 answers · asked by Kat 6

Today I learned that my "dad" isn't really my dad,but instead he is my biological big brother,there is a 15 year age gap between us. He explained to me why our parents couldn't taking care of me because of their unhealthy relationship which led to our mom's death and our dad leaving us. Once my brother was old enough to be a guardian he went through all of the legal aspects and took me as his daughter,at that time I was still a baby. I know I shouldn't be mad at my"dad"because he and my"mom"raised me my entire life,they're great parents and always treated me like I was their biological daughter. It's just that all these years I actually thought that my brother was my dad, my sister in law was my mom,and my nephew as my little brother. It makes sense now why I only resemble my "dad" since he's the only one in the family actually related to me by blood. He and my"mom"got sad when I stopped calling them mom and dad. My dad told me that he loves me and sees me as a daughter not a sister.

2007-08-02 10:46:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a 10 gallon tank which will soon be home to one small ruykin goldfish. To help with the mess from the goldfish i would like to know if i could get away with adding in a bottom feeder of some kind. I dont know if they live at the same temperature or coexist well. Any help on whether that would work and if so what kind of bottom feeder to get?

2007-08-02 09:31:24 · 3 answers · asked by Kii 2

I have a 16 month old son that will be 20 months when his little brother will arrive. I was wondering if anyone had advice on gettting my son ready and prepared for the new arrival it would be a big help. Also my son is very clingy to me.

2007-08-02 08:52:12 · 5 answers · asked by jessac8876 1

I have 4 boys, so I can't truly compare...give your thoughts.

2007-08-02 07:57:06 · 17 answers · asked by browneyes 1

My daughter is 13 months old (10 month adjusted, she was 3 months premature) her dr. wants her transitioned off formula and on whole milk. Do I put whole milk in bottle or in sippy cup? I heard it is harder take the bottle away if you put anything else besides formula in bottle. She will drink 4-6 oz of formula from bottle after meals but hardly any whole milk from sippy cup at meals. What do you do with juice? Help!

2007-08-02 07:56:59 · 12 answers · asked by parentem 1

My step son (10yrs) has being with us for almost 2 months after almost 2 yrs of not spending time with us (due to his mom) The problem has being with my 6 & 2 yr old kids he just can;t spend a fun time with them.. He like to spend MOST of the time in his room watching TV or playing Video games he doesn't like to share ANYTHING &if he gets to play with my kids he gets mad for everything or is just bodering them. We went to Sea World this past weenend & he wanted thigs be done his way I personally didn't have fun with a the discussions we had due to his disagreements.. Why is he like that with his brother & sister?.. We can he have quality time with them??? We have got to a point where I have to serve mny kids first dinner then my hubby & I eat dinner with him because even when having dinner he argues for everything!! What to do he will be living in 2 weeks But he will be coming in December & then again in summer vacations (if moms allow him to come) he live 16 hrs away !! What to do??

2007-08-02 07:44:43 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know we belabor the point here, sometimes...

But, whenever I read people replies from people in the neverending spanking/not spanking debate, it seems like there are some who think the only choices for teaching our children are:

Spanking
Timeouts
Taking away toys/priveleges
1-2-3 Magic

That's it. Just straight pavlovian stimuli/response to train the children what to do and what not to do, until they're grown.

Just wanted to get a list of other parenting methods that people use, to let people know that there are other choices that involve actually teaching your child to make good decisions without the contrived stimuli/response reward/punishment system.

So, what are some of the other alternatives (besides, I guess, totally ignoring & neglecting your kids or abusing them). What are some parenting methods that you've used or seen working in real life, besides the above ones?

2007-08-02 07:42:59 · 7 answers · asked by Maureen 7

I have a two year old and a 6 month old. I have seen pics from the bridge collapsing of mothers holding their infants and small children. It makes me actually break down in tears to think about being in that situation. It only takes 30 seconds for an infant to drown. So if you knew you were going to crash down in the water, would you get your little ones out of their carseats and hope that when you landed it you didn't get wedged in between something and could get out of the car immediately and swim to safety with your babies? This could risk injury during the fall. Or leave them in their seats for safety and hope when you land you can get them out of their seats and to the waters surface before they drown? I'm sad thinking about how many cars and people are still unaccounted for and how many children could have been in those cars. I pray I am never in this situation with my little ones. What would you do?

2007-08-02 07:30:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

All of the people who are on here talking about to spank a child. You are abusing your children! There is never a 'right' reason, stop the excuses and the nastiness! Children should be taught to have deference and respect to their elders, and learn the qualities of dignity and trust.
It is abuse! Please, stop degrading your children, and raise them with love.

2007-08-02 07:17:13 · 47 answers · asked by Glenda 1

my wife gave birth to a baby girl yesturday and my son olson is a mommas boy and gets upset wen his moms not home and dosn't play with him and when her and the baby gets home im worried that its going to be promble what can i do to get him to not act that way any ideas

2007-08-02 07:15:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Be honest here... Do you know any children who are not spanked at all, but who are as well behaved or better behaved than your own children?

2007-08-02 06:36:35 · 18 answers · asked by Maureen 7

It seems as if a lot of people consider foster parents to be babysitters, rather than actual parents. I realise that these children often if not mostly go back to the birthparents, but while you have them, you are a parent to them? You do the childrearing, etc. My husband and I are looking into foster to adopt, and realise we may just foster at first, and we seem to get a lot of responses from people who view it as a 'job'. What do others think? All opinions are welcomed, no right or wrong here.

2007-08-02 06:16:43 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I would love to know why women keep asking questions on Yahoo answers that shouldnt be asked in the first place. Questions that very obviously need to be directed to their doctor or their child's pediatrician. I understand alot of you out there are young mothers but for God's sakes grow a brain and ask a real doctor when it's an important medical question.

2007-08-02 04:17:11 · 14 answers · asked by adrianne M 4

how can a I ,a 13 year old child, convince my parents that i can go out with my friends and her parents to the mall, movies, and more. I mean all I do is clean the house, take care of my little sisiter , and do nothing because they won't let me do nothing. I feel like i'm just here to make life easier for them, how can I convince them that life isn't fair (for me) in the house.

P.S~ and i make good grades!!!

2007-08-02 04:16:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I work for a small hotel and work the midnight shift.

I ALL the time see little kids running around the hotel at all hours of the night and morning.. NO parent to be seen.

Last night two, what looked like, 10 year olds were running up and down the stairs. I let it go for a moment before I ask where mom or dad was, 'There sleeping, they said we could play in the hallway." OMG!!! I very nicely said "not really honey, you guys need to go back to your room" thankfully they went. This was 11pm..

I put breakfast out at around 6am. and this morning like yesterday morning two different little kids come down for breakfast , WITH OUT A PARENT!! These kids looked all of 5 years old.

The little girl spilled cereal over herself cause the contor was to big for her to pick up. The little boy picked up every single hard boiled egg before he found the one he wanted. Mind you, I did not see this, a guest told me.

What the hell is up with people.? YOU ARE NOT AT HOME!!

2007-08-02 01:05:06 · 10 answers · asked by LadyCatherine 7

my son is nearly 3 and still has a bottle of milk at night to get him to sleep but he has started to say his bottle doesnt work and i have noticed he is havin trouble suckin the teet. is he losin his sucking reflex.

2007-08-01 22:34:50 · 6 answers · asked by wendy c 2

I was with my daughters dad for over a year and were engaged. I am in the military and he had to transfer when i was 3 months preg. Then 2 months after he left he was causing more stress than helping so i decided to end it. Now my daughter, who is amazing by the way, who is 3 mos old now and he wont even let me send him pics or videos of her. I keep tryin and trying but the last time i asked him again he said "I already fuc*ing told u i dont wanna see her". What or when should I stop trying? I dont know what to tell her when she asks me. What do you think I should say to her...I know its a long way away but I'm still concerned! HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!

2007-08-01 21:31:45 · 8 answers · asked by AMP2084 1

Or do you love a certain one more, if so why?

2007-08-01 18:50:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous