spanking my kids in public?

Question

my kids were acting up in the store today i was afraid and didnt know what to do should i spank them in public?if i shouldnt where can i spank them?out in the car?

Answer 1

if my kids act up in the store or anywhere in public i spank at home.we usually dont get that far because they almost always straighten up after a warning.I believe spankings should be done in private plus someone can call the police on you.

Answer 2

If your children did that, I think you can give them a spank in the bottom, but next time try yelling at them first, not screaming so everyone can hear. I'm sure that isn't abusing a child, because you gave them a spank, you didn't bruise them or anything, and because their behavior was bad. If you want to know where you can spank them, if you don't mind the people looking (nosey) then you can just spank them there, I suggest you not take them somewhere privately and spank them, because someone is thinking that you are torturing your child, if they notice. I suggest when you get home you can spank them or yell at them.

I hope it helps
Kevin =)

There are other ways to get your children to stop doing stuff they shouldn't do, don't hit them =)

Here's a trick: Tell them to stop at the store and if they don't when you go home pretend to be mad at them for a while and they might be scared pretty much sad because you aren't answering what they are saying and they will feel sorry. I do that to my siblings, even though they aren't my children. =) It's because I take them to stores and buy them all sorts of stuff and take them to fun places

Answer 3

I personally wrestled with this. So, many people get called in for child abuse, and such anymore that in public I was scared as all get out to discpline my kids. So, What I did was went straight to the law myself and asked about guidelines for my state about spanking. I was told spanking on the butt, was allowed hitting anywhere else was not and it needed to be open handed. There is definately a difference between spanking and beating your child but, these days being in public with misbehaving kids is scary.
So, I came up with a formula. They 1 warning in the store, any more acting up we went into the rest room and he got 1 swat on the butt. If the behavior continued after this, we left the store. Believe me I left carts of things, but, soon my child learned that mis behavior in public wasn't tolerated.
I had people actually try to interced with non spanking comments and I politely said to most, " I understand you may not agree with my parenting style but, please do not interrupt when I am disciplining my child. I will raise them the way I find fit." .

Answer 4

I dont think there is anything wrong with spanking them in public. I think more parents should do it with the way kids behave nowadays. I was disciplined when I was younger and my little sister gets in trouble when she misbehaves. I think people these days are too scared to show any discipline because of the law, well the law is not the one dealing with your kids on a daily basis...you are. Kids need to be told when they are misbehaving and when that doesnt work a spanking would be appropriate.IMO

Answer 5

Lola said it. I know it's looked down on by some but if my kids need it they get a swat on the bottom right there. I don't want them thinking they can act like animals because they think I won't spank them in public. It's your choice as a parent to discipline how you choose. I've gotten some looks and I tell them if they don't like it, don't look.

Answer 6

Don't do it in the car. Kids need to be berated straight away or they don't no what it is they are getting int trouble for. I wouldn't spank my kids in public and I don't really spank them at home, not that I am against it. They get a spanking when it is called for. In this day and age it is too risky to spank in public. Welfare will be on your *** before you even get home. Try other alternatives. Bribes before you go out. Ignore them. People are pretty tolerant of other kids screaming, especially parents who go through the same thing.

Answer 7

I really think it depends on how old your kids are, what they did, and your ability to reason with them. I've spanked my son once and it was out in public. Normally, I prefer to ignore the bad behavior and explain to him that he what he is doing wrong. If the problem persists we go home and I make darn sure that he doesn't have any fun. The way I see it is you're damned if you do and damned if you don't so do what makes YOU feel comfortable. If I see a child misbehaving and he/she gets spanked I just turn away because it's none of my business.

Answer 8

I believe in taking the child to the bathroom to give them a good swat unless the store is fairly empty and no one is around. One thing i have found useful is he gets to pick out a small toy and take it around the store with him but when its time to go he has to say goodbye. Keeps them from throwing fits the entire time. Another thing is I bring a small treat everytime and if he was good in the store he got it for the ride home.

Answer 9

I usually give the stare when the parent doesn't do anything and the kids run rampant. A swat on the butt is appropriate...but the question remains..at what age? There is a bill in the state assembly(calif) to make any spanking illegal on kids younger than 2 yo. and any more than 3 would be considered a felony...regardless the age.

Answer 10

you know i have no clue since i don't have kids....i was spanked as a child and i wish parents WOULD give them a good spanking in public. i hardly consider it abuse. i am an educated healthcare provider and there is a difference between discipline and abuse....but there are so many PC idiots out there you need to be careful of what you do in public. i would check with your local laws ....